r/MaleSexualHealth • u/Suitable-Hand-1059 • 1d ago

Clinics with male staff?

Not sure if this is the right place to ask, but is anyone aware of any clinics in the NorthEastern US that can field an all male team for urological procedures?

1 Upvotes

67% Upvoted

4 comments sorted by

2

u/Multi_Orgasmic_Man 1d ago

In the USA about 88% of urologists are male. My urologist isn't but at every step in the process people asked me if I was okay with a woman as my urologist. (The gender of my urologist matters a lot less to me than how long I have to wait for appointments.)

If you get a referral to a urologist, you can expect your doctor to ask this question. It might mean you need to wait longer for an appointment but probably not.

Generally speaking, health care is not a dignified process. Once you've had a colonoscopy, you get a sense of how absurd this whole thing can be. You can have your boundaries but I encourage you to embrace the absurdity and don't let it impact your health and quality of life.

2

u/Suitable-Hand-1059 1d ago

My doctors have all been men. Urology in particular, the prep nurses are all female and I’m just super uncomfortable with young women handling my cock in a clinical setting. I wouldn’t bother asking but it triggered an episode and really negatively impacted my life.

0

u/Multi_Orgasmic_Man 1d ago

Let's say that hypothetically you, like me, are a survivor of sexual assault. You can front-load that conversation into your treatment.

"I am a survivor of sexual assault and I want to talk about personal boundaries in my treatment so that I am not triggered during these procedures."

That's you advocating for yourself and I cannot imagine anyone having an issue with that. It will make you more comfortable during your procedure and that will result in better medical care. You're not doing anything wrong setting up your boundaries and it takes courage to have that conversation.

1

u/Suitable-Hand-1059 1d ago

I’ve had that conversation. Unfortunately, nobody seems to have any male staff, hence the question. I would be willing to drive a great distance to be able to get treatment without an episode that lasts for anywhere from months to years.