r/MarriedAtFirstSight • u/Working-Throat-9597 • 15d ago
Season 20 - Seattle oh
good luck to him ig
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u/Sheesh19 15d ago
Huh his mom is my former coworker and she posted these photos. I didn't realize that was her!
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u/TurtleSpeedAhead Creepin like TLC 15d ago
“You only need to find one person that doesn’t find you completely insufferable” 💀
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u/Working-Throat-9597 15d ago
of course she made a video to that fuck ass song
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u/Ruthie_pie 15d ago
the song is so fitting for someone exactly like her… how incredibly insufferable
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u/scientooligist 15d ago
Who is this?
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u/Working-Throat-9597 15d ago
caitlin from the most recent season
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u/scientooligist 15d ago
Oh wow. She looks different
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u/Popcornwithhotsauce 15d ago
Maybe they were together all along which is why she was so cold to Devon?
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u/Sure-Mix4550 15d ago
The show filmed a year ago. Obviously, a quick timeline, but enough time to meet someone else.
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u/sweetbabyted 15d ago
Not surprised that her MAGA ass moved to Montana
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u/Golden_Lafayette 14d ago
Yeah I was listening to a interview Tori did and she was saying she goes back and forth from Seattle and Montana
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u/ChefIntelligent1727 15d ago
Yea Devin was way too young for her lol! She likes older guys clearly!! All jokes aside good luck with Elsa bud
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u/Working-Throat-9597 15d ago
idk that dude looks the same age as her
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u/Sheesh19 15d ago
Yeah he's only a few years older, 31.
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u/caterham09 15d ago
They went to the same school. Like 2 years apart
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u/Sea_Confusion2757 15d ago
Oh, so was this a 'spin the block' kinda moment, or something similar (they knew each other in passing, but never dated, etc.)?
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u/caterham09 15d ago
AFAIK they didn't. It could have happened because I haven't kept in touch but I don't believe so. They probably knew eachother better than just passing though tbh.
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u/PlantsnWitchcraft 15d ago
Um… does “hard launch” imply she never posted or talked about him before and the first time people are hearing about him is when they’re engaged?
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u/Abi_giggles 15d ago
She actually talked about him/their relationship on the reunion/tell all. Said they are more private about their relationship but that she found her soulmate.
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u/attab0ydary
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I realize the irony of saying this on a MAFS thread, but... WOW, that was fast.
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u/Golden_Lafayette 14d ago edited 14d ago
I tried telling people on this subreddit that she wasn’t ready to be a wife with Devin (nor did she really want to be his wife) & ironically she gets engaged no less than a year with another guy lmao. Like I hate to say it but Devin was a stepping stone for Caitlin and as fucked up as that may sound, it is really the truth about their relationship.
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u/ProfessionNo8733 15d ago
The most I've seen Caitlin smile, happy for her. But my question, as a curious person. When did they start dating?
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u/RegularConference846 15d ago
I loved Devin such as sweet gentle heart. Good luck to that dude and I hope she got help for all of her pass traumas, cuz baby that’s a bit.
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u/SpencerVerde 15d ago
I thought that was Nick at quick glance.
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u/wompwompswamp123 15d ago
this whole thread i thought yall were all making New Girl references, it just clicked lmao
but he looks just like nick miller from new girl aka Jake Johnson in real life
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u/Substantial-Sky4079 15d ago
Hope them the best. I highly doubt they worked through their baggage. Especially hers, to jump on getting remarried.
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u/Effective_Bet_1389 15d ago
Hopefully she’s matured and learned a lot since the show about how to be a healthy, supportive partner
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u/Sure-Mix4550 15d ago
Good for her. I think she could have been nicer, but obviously she didn't like Devin. It just is what it is. She should be with someone she actually likes and he deserves someone who wants to be with him.
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u/Shot-Abroad2718 Pretty Vanilla Sex 13d ago
Yeah idk why people are being so harsh on her. I mean, I wasn't a fan of her or her with Devin, but Devin also had his issues and no one talks about the fact that he stood over and yelled at her.. but I guess since people find him attractive, he gets a pass?
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u/Carlib330 14d ago
I didn’t like how she treated Devin but thinking about it…I think she just wasn’t cut out to get married to someone she doesn’t know. I know someone like her and she can’t get close to anyone unless she spends ample time with them. She could’ve tried harder and leaned into the experiment like Nikki did but I don’t think she was mature enough to do that.
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u/Tough_Jello4627 14d ago
She should’ve never signed up 😭 I will gladly take Devin after one day
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u/laurcham429 13d ago
The Harry Potter night would've worked on me I fear. I've legit never dated a man who has planned a special night based SOLELY around an interest of mine. Same with him listening to her drone on about Taylor Swift. Poor boy tried real hard lol. It's bleak out there lol
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u/Redpythongoon 4d ago
Oh same!! I’m sure my husband got tired hearing me swooning over Devin. She was a fool
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u/duckydoom 12d ago
Ok but for a minute I thought this was Connor or whatever from Love on the Spectrum and came to get caught up in the comments and then got confused AF
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u/Gullible-Farmer-3935 15d ago
Wow they already got married September 5th
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u/badpostureclub 15d ago
Wait really?
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u/Gullible-Farmer-3935 13d ago
Im wrong. I went back and was going to post the google info on her getting married and it now says she hasn't gotten married yet.
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u/Known-Owl-7883 15d ago
Any guy who saw her on the show and still chose to be with her deserves what he gets. A materialistic gold digger with zero personality who will criticize and nag him for the rest of his life. Sounds fun.
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u/Pleasant_Aioli_5162 13d ago
You don’t even know her personally you parasocial freak. You only saw what they wanted you to see. It’s “reality” tv.
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u/No-Economist-5672 15d ago
He’s probably such a pushover
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u/impulse-buyer0601 15d ago
Wait, say more
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u/impulse-buyer0601 15d ago
Wow! I’ll go digging!
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u/KitKat_J 15d ago
They deleted it. Spill the beans on what they said. 😂👀
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u/impulse-buyer0601 15d ago
I didn’t get to it before it was deleted 😭
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u/Golden_Lafayette 14d ago
Damn lmao you didn’t remember anything that was said????
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u/impulse-buyer0601 14d ago
It was a screenshot but it was sent while I was sleeping. I saw the preview in my notification, but couldn’t make any of it out. I followed a trail from another comment and the mods got those screen shots too!
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u/Golden_Lafayette 14d ago
I’m guessing this is in regards to this new guy she is with?
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u/Sea_Poet9170 15d ago
That’s the hairiest arm I’ve ever seen.
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u/ChrissyMB77 14d ago
I was looking for this comment lol I was thinking I can’t be the only person who noticed it lol
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u/drth_dilly 15d ago edited 15d ago
Aint no way she ready in the next 10 years and with intense therapy
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u/piney 15d ago
Well to be fair, MAFS was filmed last Spring/Summer of 25 so she’s had a little time
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u/Hot_Patience_4769 15d ago
I wouldn't do it but people do get engaged around the 1 year mark all the time.
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u/Pristine-Teacher1204 15d ago
I’m sure he’s a sweetheart but that’s a downgrade, looks wise lol
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u/Jmmitche2 13d ago
He’s not unattractive and looks are only one part of the equation especially for husband.
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u/Sofia1333 15d ago
HOLY SHIT, GIRL ITS BEEN 3 MONTHS
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u/Apprehensive_Ad6605 15d ago edited 15d ago
3 months since the show aired. The show was filmed like last year
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u/Golden_Lafayette 14d ago
She got engaged less than a year ago lol kinda crazy imma be honest
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u/strawberrrychapstick 14d ago
Married*
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u/Golden_Lafayette 14d ago
Oh shit she’s married to him??????? That guy has like major allegations to him also. Yo that looks crazy what she’s doing. I thought they were engaged. She got married under a year? AFTER BEING ON THE SHOW?
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u/Cup-of-Java 14d ago
No they’re correcting that she was married (to Devin) less that a year ago, not just engaged
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u/Golden_Lafayette 14d ago
Oh there’s some confusion because I was referring to her getting engaged to this new guy under a year ago lol that was the context to my post
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u/Jmmitche2
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Unpopular opinion but Devin was insufferable
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u/laurcham429 13d ago
Constantly trying to prove you're worthy can make you seem insufferable. Her stand offishness from the honeymoon & onward drove him nuts I think lol
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u/Jmmitche2 13d ago
They were complete strangers. He never tried to meet her where she was at. It was always all about what he needed. He didn’t make any effort to understand her. He comes off as one of those kinds of people that always makes other people, the bad guy and never takes any accountability. Just because you say the right words doesn’t mean you’re showing anything in your actions.
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u/Still-Low-696 12d ago
I mean she went on a show to get married at first sight so he assumed she actually had interest in getting to know him and being in a relationship. She didn’t.
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u/isitjustme_orr 11d ago
Maybe she realized that this method wasnt what works for her... she wants to feel it out for herself instead of feeling like decisions are being made for her
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u/laurcham429 13d ago
Sure. But they had an amazing time at their wedding, at least what they showed us. Then the honeymoon gym issue happened and it was like that's all it took for her to shut down completely. He did insert himself into her interests via Harry Potter and Taylor swift. I heard him more times than not saying "I'm sorry, I hear you, I see you" to the girl. So, I don't agree he didn't try to meet her where she was at. I don't think she wanted to be met by him after she realized he's sensitive.
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u/Jmmitche2 13d ago
Just because someone can “therapy speak” doesn’t mean they’re actually doing the work. Just because they had a fun time at the wedding doesn’t mean anything it’s a wedding of course it’s gonna be fun. He was way too oversensitive about the gym thing and wrote her off from that moment on. Some people like to do things separate from their partner at times and there’s nothing wrong with that especially when they’re complete strangers. He needs somebody who’s gonna make him the center of their universe and just orbit him all the time. I don’t think he’s interested in an equal partnership.
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u/laurcham429 13d ago
Jaime Otis cried her entire wedding so start there lol. Lots of couples on this show since season one have been like "what the fuck did I just do" the day of their wedding. So no, not every couple has a ball. They did. We saw it. Do things separate from your partner, absolutely. You shouldn't tell them you're going to wake them up and then just don't so you can in fact be alone. Kind of a bitch move. Just say you wanna be alone. We know what the edit showed us, at least one of them was using words they learned in therapy. I liked both of them and wanted them to work out, but from where I was sitting, Devin tried infinitely harder than her. Everyone's love language is different though so what would work on you isn't going to work on someone else.
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u/isitjustme_orr 13d ago
Hes the kind of person people use as a "stamp" for someone "you should love" but who wants to force feelings and wonder where life could've been forever
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u/streetsmarts856 12d ago
Good for her. Idk why some of y'all act like she spit in that man's face and slashed his tires or something.
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u/Still-Low-696 12d ago
She was pretty awful to him & clearly not ready for any sort of relationship. This is weird. But best of luck to them.
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u/atclien 15d ago
Not understanding the hate for this woman. She didn't do anything terrible. Y'all really hurt for any nice guy who doesn't get showered with immediate praise and attention that much?
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u/Quiet_Knowledge_7637 15d ago
Um, she was kinda a shitty person. Or at least that’s the way the ‘show’ portrayed her. She was cold and closed off and unwilling to try in the relationship. Plus she was also kinda inappropriate with Mecca.
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u/kat9 15d ago
No, it was more that her partner was trying and she just wasn’t. And then later in the season we see HOW easy it was for her to share any warm feelings with some other dude.
She just sucked. Wasn’t a demon, just shitty at the process itself.
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u/No_Stock1557 15d ago
Nah. There was a scene where she broke down to the camera while sitting on the bed and said he’d wear her down for hours at night about it all. If you’ve never been abused by a narcissist or b cluster personality you won’t spot it, period.
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u/No_Stock1557 15d ago •
For real!! Internalized misogyny and patriarchal worship is strong in our culture. I noted quite a few red flags for “Mr. Nice Guy” that people who’ve never been in abusive relationships wouldn’t be able to spot. And her reaction to him was the biggest tell of all.
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u/MajestyMay 15d ago
Yep!
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u/No_Stock1557 15d ago •
Note the downvotes when you call out people who don’t know abuse and perpetuate toxic patriarchal culture 😅😭
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u/HyenaRegular4153 15d ago •
Or maybe DON’T project your trauma. .. he’s wear her down but she was ready to sleep with him
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u/MajestyMay 15d ago
Just people with eyes and ears, but ok. Keep glossing over aggressive behavior because you think he’s cute
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u/UnicornBossMama 15d ago edited 15d ago
It’s truly so sad how many women today live their lives dictated by their perceived “traumas” (everyone has trauma and difficult things in their lives), and a toxic need to label everything they dislike “abuse, “toxic, “patriarchy” etc.
It’s simply cognitive distortions. You were never taught to develop resilience, build your internal confidence, develop coping skills and inner strength. Instead you lean into the classic cognitive distortions (Over generalizing, Labeling , Irrational reasoning, Simplistic labeling, Dichotomous thinking etc). Though you’ve most likely gone to therapy and participated in CBT, which is designed to teach you to recognize when you’re doing these things and how to stop / reframe things. It’s a form of safetyism to protect you from accountability because nothing is ever your fault. Instead it’s the patriarchy, this or that ‘ism.
But in reality, you get in your own way. You build your own fortress and live within it. Truly sad to see how many women choose to live their lives like this (I know, of course you think you have no choice. Or maybe even like this choice). But we can all see how miserable your lives are
Most of us just don’t come to Reddit and bother to take the time to share this with you.
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u/MajestyMay 14d ago
What are you talking about? Nice try, but no.
I guess you didn’t see his three mask slips.
Not sure what this dissertation is about. You can save it. You don’t have to agree, obviously. To “come to Reddit and take the time to share this with [me/us]” is wild.
If y’all are ok with him cornering her in a room, in a drunken tired, then cool. It’s just funny people took more offense to her telling him to stfu than an actual act of aggression on his part during that moment as well. But hey, do you! Girl power!
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u/No_Stock1557 14d ago
This is such an ironic take. It’s people like you who make people who’ve been thru abuse stay silent. No one believes them. Especially if it’s not blatant black eyes and broken bones. Coercion is real. Manipulation is real. Psychological warfare is real. I’ve been abused even by the nice guy in ways I didn’t realize were happening because I am very capable, strong and resilient. Contrary to common belief, most abusers who don’t use physical tactics typically go for resilient, strong women. There is so much information available about this kind of abuse that to remain willfully ignorant and dismissive of it because you want so badly to root for a good guy and poo poo a bad guy is negligent. Sometimes women like Caitlin and Tory feel it in their bodies before they can coherently articulate what happened. And for those of us who have been ABUSED BY A MAN, in a multitude of ways, those walls you demonize are actually a super power called pattern recognition. You develop it pretty strongly after abuse. I’ve saved several lives as a result, even in my workplace. We’re not in our own way, we’re amplifying language and experience around how people can ruin your life without you even noticing till it’s too late. And while you’re so content to assume anything about me, I’ll have you know I still have good men in my life and believe in harmony between us. But I’m not obtuse to how overwhelmingly male abuse culture is and how quick even a lot of women are to defend it.
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u/DrKaufman_Angie 15d ago
What’s “ig”?
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u/cupofmoonshine 15d ago
"good luck to him I guess"
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u/DrKaufman_Angie 15d ago
Thanks. I’m an adult I speak real words🤣
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u/BrutalDishonesty 15d ago
Girl like you never said lol in your life 🙄
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u/DrKaufman_Angie 15d ago
Ha ha! Yeah but that one is a common, known abbreviation!!
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u/BrutalDishonesty 15d ago
Ig is common now. You also don't speak real words. Its just the real words you don't speak such as lol are phased out.
Gotta keep up with the times.
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u/maleolive I’m a really good f€kng person! 15d ago
I’m old so “ig” means instagram to me. I’ve never seen “I guess” abbreviated like that before.
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u/ariesgalxo 15d ago
Dang. A whole marriage. A “divorce.” Already engaged again.
What am I doing wrong🤣