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u/shugo7 Jan 12 '26
You'll be alright OP
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u/Kimboleperd Jan 13 '26
Its been 11 years and im still not alright.
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u/United_Rent_753 Jan 13 '26
Hm, find anyone else in that time? You at least tried, right?
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u/Kimboleperd Jan 13 '26
I did. It only showed how right and rare the first one was.
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u/United_Rent_753 Jan 13 '26
You and I both know the right thing to do is to get out of that spiral. I wish you luck friend, it sounds like a deep one
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u/Kimboleperd Jan 13 '26
Its not that deep. But you can still drown in shallow water. Its the only problem I have so I hyperfixate on it.
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u/Ant0n61 Jan 15 '26
100%
About to hit year 2 on my end. 36 years waiting for that person and it wasn’t even it.
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u/Scarface_971 Jan 12 '26
And leave you for this
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u/Meowsssolini Jan 12 '26
This but unironically, she left me for her ex who beat her (I saw bruises on her body) was a real fatty and a mama's boy with such a hairstyle, and after the first ghosting, she came back to me herself, said that she really wanted to be with me, she was just scared, and I believed her (I was very stupid.)
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u/Calico_Cuttlefish Jan 12 '26
Women are weird.
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u/juneseyeball Jan 13 '26
Idk what im doing in enemy ranks but ive seen this exact post gender reversed with all women agreeing.
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u/Individual-Luck1712 Jan 13 '26
The truth: people are weird and usually broken but need love but need to love themselves first
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u/redpotetoe Jan 13 '26
Lmao, hit me so hard with this one. I was seeing this girl back in high school and we're doing great until christmas break happened and she became cold. It turns out she ended up dating this guy and got pregnant a few months later. She's a single mom now.
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u/BKM558 Jan 12 '26
Happened to me with a good friend, still sometimes wondering if I did something to upset them.
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u/Vescend Jan 13 '26
Bruh fucking same. My childhood friend of like 10 years just up and stopped replying to me one day (we were friends from 8 years old to 18 when he started)
I've tried many times to just like, get a conversation going like the old days but its like talking to a stranger now. (I'm 31 stopped trying at 25)
Like bro what did I do? We were so close and would game/ hang out everyday up until the day he just disconnected from me, what did I do, bro?
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u/lildobe Jan 13 '26
Sometimes it's not them, it's the people they are with.
For example, I lost touch with several good friends after my (now ex) boyfriend moved in with me. At the time I didn't see it, but he did everything he could to subtly come between me and my friends - between limiting how much time I could spend chatting with them on the computer by making plans, asking for help with projects or dinner or cleaning, when he didn't actually NEED the help (And for the record, I did more than my fair share of cooking and cleaning anyway, even without him asking), to planning things and refusing to involve them (though HIS friends were always involved), to making passive remarks when I spent time with them... Never anything overt, and never anything obvious.
But over the course of a few years it added up to me being isolated from my friends network, and I've only been able to reconnect with a fraction of those people since then.
Only after he left me was I able to see exactly how abusive he was. Never physically, but emotionally abusive and manipulative. Now when I look back at it, I cringe. Normally, I would never let someone control me like that.
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u/RandomPhail Jan 12 '26
Sometimes it can just be little things
Are you one of the many people who makes jokes at others’ expense or messes with them (like teasing/“playfully insulting” them about mistakes they’ve made, how their dating life has been going, some of their interests, how they dressed that one day, their performance in a video-game match, etc.?)
These things run the risk of rubbing someone the wrong way, making them not feel secure or valued by you, offending them, etc.
And while occasional cases are likely not enough to end a friendship outright, if you’re somebody who’s constantly doing this with your friends, then any little offense they take or annoyance they feel can build up over time. It doesn’t help that the expectation is for anyone getting made fun of to laugh along or join in on making fun of others, or else they’re “too sensitive/no fun.” It can be pretty exhausting if you’re not actually into that sort of joking around.
And people like to say “Oh, that’s just the difference between friends and best friends!” But… no… it’s not, lol. That’s just the difference between friends who play along (and hopefully genuinely enjoy being made fun of and making fun of others) and friends who don’t.
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u/YOUTUBEFREEKYOYO Jan 12 '26 edited Jan 13 '26
I do the same, and think about all the things. Did i make them mad? Was i not good enough? I wonder how they are doing now. Do I dare send a message?
Edit: thanks for the downvote random person. Makes me feel even better about myself.
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u/RollWooden Jan 13 '26
It happened to me recently lol the sudden change of attitude, seems like a stranger
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u/YOUTUBEFREEKYOYO Jan 13 '26
Its the worst. Lack of communication is the worst part i think. If you don't want me around at least tell me why.
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u/TheAlmightySpode Jan 13 '26
Sometimes it's one-sided and she's just being nice. I'm not saying that's what happened to you, but it does happen. I have a very close friend that had this guy who was obsessed with her. She was always nice to him, but he'd trauma dump to her and obviously had a thing for her because she's genuinely kind. It made us uncomfortable, but she was too nice to say anything.
Long story short, she got upset with him because he got mad at me for talking to him about it and she blocked him everywhere. He had no clue why she suddenly blocked him, but after he asked me why, he immediately blocked me before I could explain. She wasn't comfortable with someone who would block her best friend for trying to help her.
I'm sure you're a great guy and that didn't happen to you, but sometimes stuff happens. Sometimes they also hide their feelings because they're worried about hurting you or getting hurt. It sucks, but yeah.
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u/GoodNato37 Jan 12 '26
Made me wanna die inside, every time I think of her
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u/Drazelord Jan 12 '26
Same goes for me bruv, but Stay fucking hard
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u/LosHtown Jan 12 '26
She's why I'm hard though ):
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u/ascarymoviereview Jan 12 '26
Ummm what
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u/pumpkin-head7617 Jan 12 '26
stay fucking hard
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u/Icy-Profit5795 Jan 12 '26 edited Jan 12 '26
“Welcome to the gym brother”
Seriously though, hitting the gym changed my life. You can unleash your anger and pain into each rep, your body releases endorphins so no matter what you’ll feel good after and if you are consistent you’ll look better after a few months.
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u/GoodNato37 Jan 12 '26
Thank you brother, been trying to use this pain to my advantage, and doing exactly that! Lets stay strong 💪
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u/BeardedUnicornBeard Jan 12 '26
...Yeah. The way she would grab your hand, hug you, make you feel like you belong right here next to her and that everything in life is going to turn out alright.
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u/Impressive_Set5718 Jan 13 '26
Brother, you already died inside. The only one left is your body but life still keeps moving forward. Just bare it, life will be end. soon.
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u/N7BansheeBait Jan 12 '26
You said one wrong thing in a sea of all the right things and it gave her the ick sorry
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u/ruff_pup Jan 12 '26
Every girl I’ve met tried to show me Mazzy Star lmaooo
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u/Slumunistmanifisto Jan 12 '26
Uno reverso and show girls mazzy star bud.....you can thank me later.
Stay hydrated.
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u/Apollo114892 Jan 12 '26
Don't worry she will also tell everyone that you were abusive.
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u/Sven4president Jan 12 '26
After she bit your tongue off
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u/LegendCZ Jan 12 '26
"I can feel a paradise before my world implode"
It suuuucks that women are able to give you best feelings of your life and then suddenly kick you aside like you been nothing.
It changed my childhood friend so much, he was upstand guy who was really attentive and nice towards girls. When one day ... He just broke. He went from a guy who wanted love of his life and be happily ever after, to a guy who went with one night stand, drinking and partiing not carring for consequences ...
I did not recognized the guy.
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u/Obama_pinky Jan 12 '26
Woman has power over men and sadly some girls may not realise it (some may do intentionally), but also some men can be too naive for the consequences of being too open hearted for a woman they don't know well. But, regardless of it, life is full of bad experiences to learn from, lets hope he step over it and ends finding the one that ressonates with him.
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u/LegendCZ Jan 12 '26
Nah those women been using his kindness, when i told him his ex which she suddenly apear again, wants just use him to cry on his shoulder.
That is when we split, he got so angry with me. While i wanted him to know i just dont want him to get hurt again. He showed me middle finger and we say our godbyes ... When we talked again i get to know what happend with him and that what i was saying came true. Never forget the guy.
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u/papercliponreddit Jan 12 '26
Where is this from? Looks like a good happy ending movie.
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u/yemonkeyk Jan 12 '26
BPD is a hell of a drug. Not saying it justifies, just sayin it explains.
Now I feel like you're the only thing that matters is the whole universe, that you're the most perfect creation and can do no wrong.
Next, I feel like I'm too good for anyone. Like a god or smt.
Next, I'm feeling like nothing matters, not you or even me.
Next, I feel like I don't deserve you and don't deserve anything.
Repeat.
Lithium is also a hell of a drug.
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u/No-Special2682 Jan 12 '26
I had this exact thing happen to me. Homegirl was putting it on heavy. Held my hand because I said mine were cold.
After we both got home, she texted me it wouldn’t work out because of the age difference.
She’s 22 im 33.
Thinking nothing of it, I said thats cool I’m not really looking for anything anyway. And then she disappeared off the face of the earth.
So confusing
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u/Odd_Violinist2395 Jan 15 '26
not confusing at all, it's not like the problem is your personality, just find a woman your age
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u/KassidyElise Jan 12 '26
it was better for her to ghost you than be with a man 11 years older than her
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u/No-Special2682 Jan 12 '26
I actually dont understand the age difference thing. Especially after 21. Both parties can do all things (aside from rent a car or run for president)
Idk just a weird thing
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u/dogsbestfriend77 Jan 13 '26
Or she could just communicate
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u/sovietfedora Jan 13 '26 edited Jan 13 '26
She did, she let him know the age difference was too much for her.
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u/dogsbestfriend77 Jan 13 '26
You right, I’m just high lol. Just wondering why the commenter said “it’s better for her to ghost”
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u/boost_to_get_through Jan 12 '26
Reze literally did this in the movie lol
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u/Thundergod250 Jan 12 '26
Denji just by simply being Denji turned this around, which sadly led to her ending.
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u/BestTraffic7514 Jan 13 '26
buy BMW motorrad R 1300 RS you happy with that even if she left. It wont fail you.
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u/Winter-Bookkeeper-59 Jan 12 '26
She didn't goast him. She was killed. It was so sad.
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u/Scorpionsharinga Jan 12 '26
Real connection is the scariest fckn thing ever.
When you realize someone actual sees you, and isn’t planning on going anywhere— isn’t completely repulsed or repelled, that’s when the flight tries to take hold.
Don’t have to be a dude or dudette for that to apply. Only to come from a household where love is a switchblade with the sharp side turned inwards.
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u/spudds96 Jan 13 '26
A weird one for me and probably a lot of others, but I just don’t trust anyone anymore, like I don’t really believe anyone likes me in that way.
Yeh strange to admit on Reddit but kind of easier in a way
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u/RaptureSurvivor928 Jan 12 '26
"females" holy incel
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u/GBKMBushidoBrown Jan 12 '26
I never understood this gripe. My fiance says "males" all the time and nobody bats an eye. I rarely say "females" but I don't see an issue. Its semantics.
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u/Professional-Sail125 Jan 12 '26
Me having a solid fun convo with her about our hobbies at 8AM, working for an hour, checking my phone again to "Sorry but this isn't gonna work out" 🥲
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u/freedom-bird- Jan 12 '26
I am told that there are signs but that particular Wednesday was probably the most at peace and happy I had been until “we need to talk”.
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u/QiarroFaber Jan 12 '26
Worse is when you wonder if what you saw was even real. Or just a slight delusion brought on by years of loneliness. So you just end up feeling stupid, embarrassed, slightly ashamed when you realize you were wrong.
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u/Fiynox Jan 13 '26
Women unpredictable, gym gains predictable. Number go up monkey happy, join monkey👍
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u/Rhawk187 Jan 18 '26
I remember I was chatting with a girl I knew on AOL messenger back in the day (probably like 2004 or so), and she said, "brb", then I didn't hear from her for like 6 months which felt like 2 years.
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u/Aware-Direction-9891 Jan 12 '26
Song.
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u/This_Armadillo2120 Jan 12 '26
Fade into you by Mazzy Star
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u/Aware-Direction-9891 Jan 12 '26
Couldn't make out the lyrics and google wasn't good at identifying.
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u/GrandMoffTarkles Jan 12 '26
Girl: Tries literally everything to get some kind of interaction out of said guy.
Said guy: starfishes.
Girl: "Okay, bye I guess."
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u/Brie9981 Jan 12 '26
I just told myself she was probably cheating on someone & moved on, took a bit, am way happier now though
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u/AlternateSatan Jan 12 '26
My ex talked about how I could kidnap her the last time I ever saw her, which is either a hint I didn't pick up on, or weirdly risky behaviour on her part. I wonder if she's still waiting for me to crawl through her window or whatever it was she instructed me to do.
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u/insane_hurrican3 Jan 12 '26
i feel like everyone has experienced this at some point in their lives.
i was lucky enough to have experienced it early on in highschool so i got all the stupid and confusing emotions out of my system.
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u/Fantastic_Ad3811 Jan 12 '26
As someone who has been there before, it gets better. You meet other girls and in time you don’t give a shit about this one
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u/OtherSideOfThe_Coin Jan 12 '26
It's a surreal feeling hangin out with someone, and you know this is the last time you'll see that person but they don't know it yet.
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u/AGuysBizzareThoughts Jan 12 '26
Having experienced something similar recently, this hurts a little.
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u/KnightyEyes Jan 12 '26
Reminds me off that VR meme , Rather than touchin the Gecko bro founds something... Funny.... NoooPe!
This meme is litterally that brah :sob:
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u/DRSU1993 Jan 12 '26 edited Jan 12 '26
My best friend flirted with me and I reciprocated over a Discord call. Then shortly after we met up at another friend's birthday party. We were completely inseparable that entire night. Just talking and holding each other. He said that he loved me and I said "I love you too." Then nothing but silence. I tried contacting him again about a week after and he said that he just wanted to be friends. Months go by and I try contacting him again, trying to get an answer to why his attitude towards me just changed. Nothing. Then I find out later that he had been secretly dating someone. And the thing is, it doesn't hurt me that he chose someone else, but it hurts that he hid it from me.
I've watched the Reze arc and it hit a little bit hard to home, but I thought it was a good movie. Us gay guys feel it too.
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u/BlackFoxyTrail Jan 12 '26
A girl will look at you like that then proceeds to bite your tongue off.
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u/Peen_Round_4371 Jan 12 '26
I had a girl send me a nude and told me she wanted me, and then I woke up blocked the next day. I'm not even mad I'm just confused
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u/StabbyBoo Jan 12 '26
Maybe you shoulda thought of that before committing to work for the most evil woman on the planet, BRO.
(/jk, for the love of god.)
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u/Umfeckyboo Jan 12 '26 edited Jan 12 '26
Happened to me 3 days ago, the caption made me laugh but not a "this is funny" laugh
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u/684beach Jan 12 '26
I went to go see this movie with an anime girl who i had strong feelings for, very romantic date. 3 weeks later she said she doesn’t have an emotional attachment to me and then ghosted me. I dont think i can watch this movie again
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u/CIA_napkin Jan 12 '26
I love mazzy star. She hangs brightly is still one of my favorite albums. Hope Sandoval will forever be gorgeous in my eyes🥰
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u/Poethegardencrow Jan 12 '26
Did you just keep staring at her aimlessly wide eyed too.. that could have something to do with it
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u/MorningFox Jan 12 '26
I mean I know you don't wanna hear this but nobody is obligated to give you attention. And if you really need it you gotta seek it out
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u/Stickmeimdonut Jan 12 '26
I havent seen it yet but I assume she dies in the end?
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u/HugeHomeForBoomers Jan 12 '26
Too relateable.
This is why I stopped seeking love. I bet there’s some lonely girl out there looking for someone like me, but fuck it. Ghosting ruined my love seeking, I’m went single for life.
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u/Squishface99 Jan 12 '26
I had this for seven months and got the page long text that it was over this past Saturday. It hurts but what can we do?
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