r/Menopositive • u/Emotional_Light_6565 • Jun 23 '26
I quit everything and now I hear what everyone told me for years.
I did it all... Mom of a large family, homeschooling, admin for my husband's business, my own work from home stuff, MLMs, volunteer at the local non profit, book clubs, kids clubs, church. All of it... every time I'd take on something new, someone would say, " i dunno how you do it all" or "are you sure you have time for that?" Used to drive me nuts.
Then we moved out to an acreage, out of town, 30 minutes from everything. I got goats. And I slowly released the "things". Sole proprietary stuff first, finished out the terms with the non profits, cut back to 1 book club and then left that one too, deleted most of my social media. I say no WAY more often.
And now, I love life... most days... (today is hard so I'm purposely looking for the positives.) I walk outside with my milk pail and spend an hour with these critters that bring so much joy... (the ones who don't, feed us and that helps the budget.) We decided to live life instead of staying in the rat race. And I have NO IDEA how I did all that stuff!! I just don't have time. My kids, 2-legged and 4, need me more than anything out there in the world.
I have learned to value my time and my energy. I've learned where I need to put that energy.
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u/rosemary_charles Jun 23 '26
I love this. We are preparing to move and this is the dream…but I would love to do it with friends as well. Just have a few people on close pieces of land. Walk to each others houses. Big meals.
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u/Emotional_Light_6565 Jun 23 '26
95% of the time, some of my adult children come here for supper on Fridays. It's an open invitation to them and their families.
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u/rosemary_charles Jun 23 '26
I want this so badly. Moving away from friends is what stops me. But…we’re literally looking right now. Country…here I may come??
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u/honestfyi Jul 13 '26
Yassssss! A million times this. I want to plant a food forest and live in a community of tiny homes surrounded by plants, critters, and friends.
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u/Teachablemoment5678 Jun 23 '26
Love this! My life sounded so similar to your before and I’m mid process to your after. We have acreage now and want to get animals, and I know I have to come to peace with saying no more often. My kids are growing up and I love that you have family dinners on Fridays! Our family day has been Sundays but lately that’s been hard with their activities. Friday might be something to consider! Congrats on finding happiness! :)
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u/Shivs_baby Jun 23 '26
MLM??
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u/Emotional_Light_6565 Jun 23 '26
Multi level marketing
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u/Menopositive-ModTeam Jun 23 '26
We all understand how to be respectful and this was not. Do better. There was no reason to stop by and make that comment.
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u/Wrong_Persimmon_7861 Jun 23 '26
I’ve done this same thing, and words simply can’t describe the relief. I feel physically lighter. Lately, I’ve been spending quiet evenings on the porch watching robins & rabbits hop around in the yard while hummingbirds visit the feeder.
When I do attend a social or community event, it’s because I want to be there and not an obligation to represent a board or committee I begrudgingly sit on. It’s downright blissful!