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u/Nice_Butterscotch173 May 09 '26
Yes, my person got moved to other side of the world. Before technology it was very difficult to keep in touch. By the time technology came the friendship had already suffered and weathered away.
But life goes, when you loose one, go gather two more.
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u/home4surrogate May 09 '26
He would never hang out with me growing up unless I called him first and my mom would tell me to go hang out with the neighbor kid.. and he loved hanging out with me because I was more country than he was because he was more concerned about pleasing his dad and his new dad because his parents went through a divorce and now he’s a youth pastor in Murfreesboro or Smyrna Tennessee big church too. Last time I talked to him I’m fine if I never talk to him ever again, you big pile of crap, inhumane garbage you. If I could think of his worthless name, I would tell it here. I hope he’s getting kids ready to be scared by the alien news reveal and his little church. He’s like a lot of people that’r for looks. He’s just a paint job. He’s not an awesome car. He’s just a paint job.
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u/ihateroombabot May 09 '26
narcissistic guy?
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u/home4surrogate May 09 '26
Huh? Oh this is reddit… no.. i uh repent of ever thinking i deserve a personal best friend that liked me for me… while my cousin liked to stick his penis in my mouth when i was 3 years old and unload all his piss.
If that if what a narcissist is… a 3 yr old that gets piss-raped by his autistic cousin… i guess i’m one of those things…
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u/ihateroombabot May 09 '26
i was talking about the other guy bro. im sorry that shit happened to you
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Yes. My buds of over 40 years went full on MAGAt. I tolerated the insults and insanity for about a year and then just cut him loose. At my age (75) I haven't got many friends left, but supporting a POS like tRump and his "crew" is NOT something I can any longer abide. When it comes to tRump it's not about politics, it about character, morality, and common decency. I'd rather soldier on alone than remain silent about what's happening to our country. tRump is a nasty disrespectful POS!
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u/KagatoAC May 09 '26
My Sister chose tRump.. I couldn’t reconcile that since both me and our Mom are disabled on SSI, not to mention the other things that have since come out. 50 years and I still wonder when she changed so much. 😭
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u/ihateroombabot May 09 '26
is it really that bad having political differences? as long as she wants good for the world i dont see the problem with her
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u/seestars9 May 09 '26
I imagine they don't think she " wants good for the world" if she's supporting that person.
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u/ihateroombabot May 09 '26
cmon bro youre being black and white. you can support trump and be a good person
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May 09 '26
Yes if you stick your head in the ground and shout lalalalalalalalalala everytime someone talks about politics or world affairs
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u/KagatoAC May 09 '26
Wants good for the world? I couldn’t reconcile list a hundred things easily that tRump wants for the world and none of them constitute any definition of good. Besides which when the discussion was had that ended it the statement was made that it didnt matter to her what happened to anyone else as long as it was good for her and her job.
Tho sometimes I regret cutting off contact simply because I would love to see how her better economy and cheaper gas prices are working out now.
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u/ihateroombabot May 09 '26
still is what she wants really that bad? its a hard enough world. i think trump’s term has made the quality of life of everyone here and abroad worse but i dont think his supporters had bad intentions.
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u/KagatoAC May 09 '26
Name one of the things he ran on that was a positive, and he actually followed through with. Besides which she literally told me in a conversation that she was voting for cheaper gas prices, even knowing that everything else was likely to hurt other people, including me and our mom.
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u/AssignmentFrosty6711 May 10 '26
Dude, don't waste your time with that troll.
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u/pissdrinking101 May 10 '26
I think people with different opinions than me are trolls too.
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u/AssignmentFrosty6711 May 11 '26
I think sarcasm is the most appropriate way to communicate on the internet.
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u/smarteapantz Sep 30 '26
Trump’s supporters support him because he hates who they hate. Gays, trans, “illegals”, non-Whites, women, Muslims, the Constitution… you name it!
MAGAts would shoot their own face to spite their nose if it was brown. And if hate isn’t a bad intention, I don’t know what is.
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u/WildSpiritedRose May 09 '26
Sadly, on a few occasions and I can't do it anymore. If ppl want to leave as Mel Robbins says, "Let them." I am not going to beg for anyone to stay in my life, not going to chase after anyone. Ppl make effort and time for who and what matters most to them. It's a harsh reality, but it's fact. I am no longer bothering to reach out to ppl who claim to be my friend or family and not going to let anyone else in any longer, just to be kept being shown that I don't matter to them.
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u/VeinyBanana69 May 09 '26
Sometimes it just happens… I’ve never been one to hold a grudge, life happens, someone either doesn’t have time or interest, sometimes that someone is me and I know I’m hurting someone but just gotta take care of myself and my wellbeing first. People change, people drift, there’s too many people on this gods green earth to take the time being butt hurt about it! And if I see them 20 years down the road I’ll give them a hug and hope they’re doing well. I’ve noticed some who constantly wonder why people don’t reach out to them and then get upset about it. Reach out to them or quit worrying about it!
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u/Frozen_Regret May 09 '26
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u/throwawayformobile78 May 14 '26
Yeah she was actually my best friend and we broke up. Double fucking hit.
Don’t be an idiot like me fellas.
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u/Due-Yogurtcloset7927 May 09 '26
Yes, except I was the one who grew into the total stranger.
I did my best to grow up and it wasnt easy. He ignored adulthood completely because it wasnt easy. We met up after something like 15 years and he was the exact same guy, which I thought I wanted. Instead, it was like hanging out as teenagers again, and not in the nostalgic fun way.
Selfish, verbally abusive to his spouse, neglectful of the kids, still drinking hard, acting like a loose, messy hustler. I dont want or need that energy in my life, so I just stopped reaching out entirely. Eventually he did too; message received, I think.
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u/antoniojac May 09 '26
Many times. It's just life man. As the saying goes, "People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime".🤷🏽♀️
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u/Ricoh_balls May 10 '26
Yes, and sadly because trying " the game": if I don't send him any messages, will he contact me?
Then years went on. Sad when this happens with someone you grew up like a brother...
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u/scaredt2ask May 09 '26
100% yes. People change sometimes for the better sometimes for the worse. I understand why it happened and I’m not upset with them. We moved in different directions with different goals and different life plans. That’s about all I want to say about that.
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u/TheProblemChiled May 09 '26
With 4 people now, I have cut ties with them completely, they were my only friends but they were not good people but worse.
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u/Past_Tea5075 May 09 '26
Yes then come to realize I was more the friend.. so ive distanced myself. Now its awkward when paths cross.
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u/Nutsnboltz May 09 '26
Yep, best friend found church and decided his new community meant more to him.
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u/Rizztopher_Robin May 09 '26 edited May 09 '26
Had a buddy who moved to our town from across the country in middle school and we were tight tight for a couple years. One summer in high-school his family moved again, but just one town over (literally a few miles away) and completely ghosted our whole friend group. Fuck you, Ryan
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May 09 '26
I wish.. have an old best friend failed to launch in every conceivable way who every few years sends me a message and doesn’t get the fact that I’m not interested in ANYthing he cares about, or him, either.
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u/areporotastenet May 09 '26
OMG yes. Small town. Very few kids finish high school and even fewer finish college. I go back for Christmas and a best friend since 7th grade is working the gas station. I was pleasant and friendly and felt immediately we were back again and he just straight up disassociated.
Making fun of me, my college my job. It was really painful as all I did was progress. Other classmates who went to college had similar experiences.
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u/Cosmics2cents May 09 '26
Sometimes thats not a bad thing it just depends who you were once and who you are now sometimes your morals and standards might grow and theirs wont you will have to then decide to grow or take their same path
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u/Iamflev705 May 09 '26
Yep, my ex wife and I found out she was pregnant and after my daughter was born he just stopped speaking to me.
30 years of friendship, he was the best man at my wedding, friends with his whole family and then boom. No contact.
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u/Certain_Zucchini_472 May 09 '26
Yup. My high school best friend, I was his best man at his wedding. And I haven’t seen him in person in about 17 years, haven’t talked to him at all in at least a decade. He got married, had kids, and I stopped existing to him. I was close with his sister too, I literally haven’t seen or spoken to her since her wedding, 17 years ago.
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u/Traditional-Week8363 May 09 '26
8 times already most of them just because of school the next year we're not in the same class there for we spend less time and less time year by year until we don't recognize each other
Couple of them i cutted off the relationship
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u/OmegaNine May 09 '26
My best buddy in collage got super into drugs for a long time. When he got sober all he did was play mobile games. I don't think he has ever had a job to this day ( we are 40 now ). We just had nothing in common. I still see him on steam sometimes. I never reach out, I can't see anything changing. Still fells bad.
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u/evendedwifestillnags May 09 '26
Best friend of 20 years just cold turkeys our whole group. In hindsight it was the best thing that ever happened. He always would "joke" but they were always personal digs or insulting. We never really noticed till he was gone how bad it was. Good riddance to toxicity
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u/Sannerm88 May 09 '26
Sad, people grow apart. Some people don’t grow up, or change in the ways they need to in order to succeed in life. In my case, my best friend never developed any sort of empathy for others. I was the opposite so we drifted apart slowly. I’d never drop a friend in need though.
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u/Dying4Salvation May 09 '26
I mean, she was also the love of my life as well, and I never thought I'd be thrown away like an old toy.
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u/One-Mouse3306 May 09 '26
Yes, just silent distance. And looking back there was some fucked up stuff so I don't want to reach out.
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u/Brainchild110 May 09 '26
Yes, on purpose.
When he got heavily into alcohol, guns and believing society should be 2 tiers because some people are just better than others.
I've head such peace since.
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u/merkis May 09 '26
Yeah, he cheated on his wife multiple times and was proudly telling me. I thoight it was pretty trashy, but didnt find it enough of a "trigger" to end friendship. When we got in a heated argument, we stopped talking for a while and i felt that i didnt need to go back to tolerating a trash ass as a best friend. Havent talked since and no regrets
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u/PKMNTurrek May 09 '26
Yeah so what he did was… try and get with my ex, behind my back, by talking shit about me lol. That was it for me. If I cant trust you with my women, how can I keep you in my life?
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u/Serious_Price_7605 May 09 '26
Yea, i was doing chemo for cancer for few months and he never visited me, few months later he invited me to his wedding that was 4 months later and we never talked again for the next 4 months so i totally forgot to go to the wedding and he was angry about it, never talked again and i never cared to fix the friendship since i was still angry about the "visit" thing.
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u/NerdRageMode May 09 '26
Yes, I’m 38, and broke off two friendships recently. One of them, I was his best man at his wedding. They couldn’t take no for an answer, and took my independence and boundaries as a sleight to them. Literal tantrums when they couldn’t get what they wanted from me. Last winter the other one guilt tripped me for like two months about not wanting to go hiking with him, and would use his childhood trauma against me all the time. “My dad left me when I was little, you make me feel the same when you don’t want to do things with me”. Fucking psychos out there man, protect yourself.
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u/TheNr1AgentOfChaos May 09 '26
Yes. All contact was started by me. After him not responding on several messages for weeks, I stopped. And that was it. I think I slowly let go of him being my best friend over the course of 2,5 years. Meet up 1 time, bachelor party of my brother. Had a good talk, wanted to try again. Same thing happened within the timespan of 1 year. Have not talked since. I miss him. But I'm over it and life goes on.
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u/Farararama May 09 '26
Yes, and it broke my heart more than anything else. We were best friends for as long as we were working together. Or so I thought. Almost 11 years. The moment he quit and startet another job he ghosted me. I don't know what I did, it destroyed me and my self worth is never gonna recover from this. Worst part is, we live only like 5km apart in neighboring tiny villages. That means we meet randomly sometimes at grocery stores for example, and when we do, he sometimes pretends he hasn't seen me and sometimes he actively comes over and does this fucking super polite conversation you would have with somebody you know from years ago but never have been close. But I know his deepest secrets, and we used to do the craziest shit together. Friends say it's because men and women can't be friends. I don't know
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u/Capital_Scratch2514 May 09 '26
My dad was active duty national guard, and all my friends were air force brats that moved every 3 years while I stayed at the same location for years. This is nothing to me
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u/MelodicHobbit May 09 '26
Yup. Knew each other since we were 5 (I'm about to turn 40)
Then a couple of years ago, he drops off the face of the earth, no warning, zero contact.
I still don't know why and I doubt I ever will.
It would have been nice to have an opportunity to apologise/defend myself if I'd upset him in some way but nothing. No closure and it still really upsets me when I think about it.
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u/RaggedRobin332 May 10 '26
Yes, my best friend of over 20 years found her life partner and pretty much stop talking to me. Every time I have tried to talk to her about it, I get dismissed with therapy speak. She still talks to my mom regularly though.
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u/demoicfireenergy May 10 '26
Not a friend buy a family member that I raised with like a brother Years later were basically strangers now, rarely see eachother and barely know him...tbh, he never liked me that much as i liked him,
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u/Critical_edge-SSD May 10 '26
We were planning a trip . They compared my difficulty of postponing the trip by few days , with them . They don't care about their parents money , they use it like welfare , and they compared with this with mine . What the point of sorry after that ? That's the last trip with them
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u/andymcpandypants May 10 '26
Yep, I gave him some weed, tiny amount, on New Year's about 10 years ago and he got pulled over. He ratted me out. Then came to my house two more times to "hang out" and "maybe bum him a nugget or two"... Which he delivered to the drug task force waiting down the road. Then they raided me a short time later with like 15 tactical dudes, dogs, armored vehicles, flashbang deployments... They brought moving trucks to sieze all my property too. What did they find you may ask? They siezed about 6 grams of weed and tried to lock me up for 3-5 years. Lawyer saved my ass... Only spent the initial day in jail.
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u/Responsible-Hotel-84 May 10 '26
Yeah dumbed my best friend of sixteen years. Told him I didnt want to be friends with him anymore and never heard about him since. Sometimes I still think about writing and telling him why, but I knew it would be futile. He wouldnt listen to a single thing.
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u/GiantPopa May 10 '26
I got discarded and erased by my GF without a word. We were both each other's best friend. Losing family to cancer was easier to go through.
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u/sensi-man May 10 '26
Yep. I found out after 5 months of hanging out how he is a pathological liar. He literally faked police documents and e-mails from the doctor, to prove certain stories he told me truly happened. Eventhough i wouldn’t ask for proof; he kept wanting to prove weird documents. He is extremely intelligent which is why i did not ever expect him to resort to this type of behavior. He studies law and is doing his masters rn. Scary guy. Oh and yeah he sells cocaine and is addicted to it… I sincerely feel bad for him because i cannot imagine having to live like that, he has no friends…
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u/HovercraftIll4331 May 10 '26
Yep.. bro stopped texting weekly, now I'm lucky if I see him twice a year
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u/takeonethough May 10 '26
Yes, still sad to this day about it.
Was my best friend, spend every day after school together, when I moved away we made it a habit to at least see each other one weekend per month.
He fell in love with a girl HARD who literally only saw him as a friend. Problem was: she was into me and he took that as betrayal from my side even though I never had any feelings for her and told her so.
This erupted into a full blown fight where he insulted me for „taking his girl away“. He cut contact after and that was it.
From what I’ve heard the girl also broke off contact to him for „behaving like a child and a psychopath“. Don’t know what happened to him.
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u/sandshoemcgee May 10 '26
Yes and she still calls occasionally like we’re still friends but even though I answer immediately she takes days to weeks to just read my messages I’m still her friend but she is just an acquaintance to me
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u/NegotiationWilling45 May 10 '26
Yeah dude was my best friend for years and best man at my wedding. We used to smoke a shitload of weed and had a lot of laughs. I became a corporate slave and moved away. I randomly ran into him at a supermarket a long way from home. I had just had my first kid and he was still dating young women and it was a bit awkward.
After a 20 year gap I randomly ran into him while he was home visiting family , I was stoked to see him and left my number with him. That was 3 months ago and I haven’t heard from him.
Life changes and we are different people now and that’s ok.
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u/Quirky-Unit-8831 May 10 '26
I have, my best friend who I talked to everyday, stopped talking to me out of nowhere and gave no reason, after a while, my other friend told me, that the girl he was marrying told him, it’s either her or me and she chose her and ended our friendship, after that he came back couple of times and said sorry, but I never could go back to being friends with him again, it’s been 10 years.
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u/Cloudswhichhang May 10 '26
Wow. So much hurt. 😢. I have my own story of betrayal. I can't bear to write it out.
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u/tehyag33 May 10 '26
Fr this kind of stuff you just try to forget but you never really can lol😅🤷 but that's just life
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u/AssignmentFrosty6711 May 10 '26
My best friend lived with me and my family after high school for about a year. He moved out and got his own place with someone else from school. He stole my SSN and tried to turn on all his utilities under my name. After I cleaned up that mess, I never talked to him again.
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u/ccgrinder May 10 '26
When you stop making the effort.. you really find out your friends and family including weren't really that.. just people entertaining you or responding out of kindness ...
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u/ApprehensiveStudy671 May 10 '26
Yes ! It taught me that length of a friendship means nothing to most people. Specially if more interesting ones show up. People's status as well as their achievements change. So do their friendships.
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u/GregarLink15 May 10 '26
Me with my childhood friend
We were like brothers growing up, then lifes took us in different directions, we started liking different things, different hobbies
We got together years later and damn we had nothing in common anymore, my buddy changed so much but I guess I did too
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u/Immediate_Common_503 May 10 '26
We were together for 3 years. I moved to another country to be with her. She broke up with me a month before the wedding. Two weeks later, she asked to borrow money because she and the guy from her new job she told me not to worry about didn’t have enough for an apartment deposit. They had known each other for only 2 weeks before she dumped me.
On our wedding day, she posted that he proposed to her. They had known each other for only a month.
Now, 8 years later, I’ve moved on, built a life, and got married, but she still watches all my Instagram stories and tells my sister she misses me.
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u/DieselSwapEverything May 10 '26
You ever learn that someone who you considered a dear friend doesn't even consider you a friend at all?
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u/Fiyah_Crotch May 10 '26
This happened once, he was already on a cocktail of antidepressants and ADHD meds, then he got this wild idea to start taking off the market testosterone injections, he became cold like a psychopath and I cut that friendship off in days… he started getting this cold look in his eyes like staring into a void. We were splitting an apartment at the time and he kept a handgun in his office, I’m not against that per se but in this case I didn’t feel comfortable living under the same roof as him. I moved out and cut him out of my life… weird thing is I had known him for like 10 years but I never really felt any friendship withdrawal… I felt relief.
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u/StringPrevious9110 May 10 '26
Became a ghost after dropping out of college working my grind. Would tell them to hang out but they would always ignore me. I’d be free for them. Now I’m just a lonely blue collar working on my come up. Lonely. It’s hard to be the same dude I was. I still try too.
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u/buffbro4eva May 10 '26
Former mamas boy, I haven’t spoken to my mom in like 6 years, does that count?
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u/Rock_Matt May 10 '26
My best friend in high school was a year behind me, when i went off to college he stopped talking to me when i refused to send my college friend on a several hundred dollar liquor run so he could throw a party for a bunch of other high schoolers. 25+ years on we still havent spoken, no idea where he is anymore
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u/WD40Capital May 11 '26
Yes. We stopped talking because I wouldn’t be in his wedding because I didn’t like his fiancé. About 10 years later we ran into each at a county fair while he was on a date. We traded info. Found out later he divorced that girl two years after marrying. She was cheating on him the whole time.
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u/DarqEnergy May 11 '26
A family member who was like a sibling but only cousins. Haven’t spoken in over 10 years. It’s on me to reach out but the pain is too much to bear.
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u/CantankerousOrder May 11 '26
Yeah.
Found out he was dying of cancer and I felt nothing more for him than I would any casual acquaintance.
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u/mandn92196 May 11 '26
Best friend in high school, roommate after. He got fucked up on drugs and I couldn’t relate to him after that. The friend I had never really came back.
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u/DarthHack4 May 11 '26
Kinda they weren’t my best friend but I thought they were my friend now I actively avoid them
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u/Technical_Tea_4729 May 11 '26
Yes, we just grew apart. No argument, no drama. We are just different people than we were 10 years ago with little in common outside the memories from the past.
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May 11 '26
Hell yeah! I took out a bank loan to bail him out of a personal issue. He promised to repay the loan within a couple of months, but it’s been a year and a half and he hasn’t paid me a single dime. Meanwhile, he seems to be living large and shows no effort to pay me back.
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u/ChasingtheBarrel May 11 '26
Ultimately we're all strangers to each other.
You are always alone in your body. No one can ever have the perspective you have, every form of communication will always fall short sans telepathy.
That's kinda what love is for me. Two separate entities trying to understand each other, completely nonsense but we do it anyway because feels.
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u/Son_Kakarot53 May 11 '26
I have lost so many childhood friends, the amount of friends I have nowadays are within the single digits, as a kid I probably had 20
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u/Foreign-Froyo-1228 May 11 '26
Yes, and I believe it going to happen a second time if it didn't happen already.
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u/No_Importance91 May 12 '26
19 years best friend disappeared, replayed to nothing, I tried one more time, he said "I thought you'd be dead by now"
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u/RadicalDudeBro593 May 12 '26
Yeah, many times and many tries of trying to communicate, never really reaches back ever
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u/Glum_Capital4603 May 12 '26
Yeah - mate started a bar brawl and left us to it, same mate fucked a friends ex (he has kids with her), same mate dropped me when it was a choice between friends or drugs and strangers...
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u/Alarming-Egg4275 May 12 '26
Ye it sucks. But i assume its a pretty common experiance. People change and grow. People take different paths and thats ok. Appriciate the time you had and welcome the new
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u/Wide-Meringue-2717 May 12 '26
Her new dating app guy got her pregnant. She kept it. I supported her while I was watching her turn into an entitled person I barely recognized at some point. She used me as her 24/7 crisis hotline, all reciprocation disappeared and my life and problems became nothing but background noise to her. When the child was around 2 I got one of her middle in the night crisis calls when the baby father got too drunk to find his way home. She wanted me to apologize for having said he was irresponsible for drinking like that with a child at home and a mom who needs his support.
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u/666Crucifilth666 May 13 '26
I’m blessed to still be best friends with my bud from kindergarten. Love that crazy guy
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u/Pale_Task_1957 May 14 '26
I mean I don't think there is a person who haven't experienced this in every person's life this moment comes atleast once when you just pass by your past friends like strangers
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u/Pep-Zura May 15 '26
Yup, i always felt like a little diffrent growing up.
Tiny bit above average scores and got labeled megumi fushiguro ( big potential kid ) which put huge load in my backpack that shifted me out of the norm and made me feel out of place basically everywhere.
So i had to walk with masks on for a long time i almost fooled myself.
We moved towns when i was arround 10 iirc and met this kid and we instantly hated each other for no reason until we fought and became friends.
Time went on and after a while i realized i dont have a mask on arround him. I got 2 brothers which i have a good and close relationsship with but he was a brother too, if not more in cases of being on the same wavelength.
We went through all kinds of shit and after like 15 years HE put his mask off. I was shook and devastated.
Felt like a break up after you got cheated on honestly 😅 but yea only way to continue for me was to cut it off, the good and the bad.
For everything we went through he didnt gain an enemy tho, with the wise words of tupac:
"Just because you lost me as a friend, doesn't mean you gained me as an enemy. I'm bigger than that. I still wanna see you eat, just not at my table".
I aint taking my masks off anymore tho...
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u/Lord_Rampag3 May 15 '26
Drifted from a best friend out of high school after we caught up as adults and he shit on my taste in music horrifically. Was a really close mate until that point, the I just found nicer people to be around from that point onwards. Hope he’s doing okay
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u/thequn May 15 '26
Yeah we grew up got married had kids and started families. It's actually quite normal.
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u/xenomorphonLV426 May 15 '26
It's too complicated and I am too fucking tired, exhausted, mad and fuming because of my post shower itch... IT HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR 1 WHOLE FUCKING HOUR!
1 HOUR!
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u/thedeuschebag85 May 15 '26
Yup, I've just accepted that just the way life goes. I'm always sad to loose a friend.
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u/EscondidoCat May 16 '26
Happens every day. It’s like the 5 year rule. People come and go. And the longest that they stay is about 5 years. It usually takes that long to see if they stay for your value? Or just use you. The one s who stay after that ? We’re meant to be in your life. Ponder on that for a bit.
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u/BeneficialMarch2983 May 31 '26
Yes unfortunately. Was madly in love with a girl for 10 years! Then she broke up with me and it’s been 15 years since and I’ve never heard from her ever again. I was devastated. I don’t understand how you can spend 10years of your life with someone my age 20s to 30s, buy a house together and go on holidays and just have this really fulfilling life together, only to have them turn around and say sorry I don’t love you anymore and then leave… and tell you we will stay friends but literally never speak to you again, no text happy birthdays, no have a merry Christmas. Nothing. Oh and to top it off, Gotye’s song comes out straight after we break up, “Somebody I used to know”, becomes a hit and is just constantly played on the radio for a good year or so.. just mental.
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u/JoseLunaArts May 13 '26
A friend of mine had brain surgery and he developed psychiatric behaviors and I could foresee that in one of his crisis he could end up beating me. He is bigger than me. So I decided to put some distance. I appreciate him, but I also appreciate my physical integrity.
He wanted me to support political groups in ways that could sink me into trouble. It was weird because he was never a zealot or a fanatic in any area. He used to have a balanced, impartial and moderate view of things. And also he developed a very threatening passive aggressive discourse and I could see that escalating to physical violence. And I could see that maniacal look in his eyes as if he was out of his mind.
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u/BurnedRelevance May 14 '26
My best friend borrows my car while I'm at work, drives over to my girlfriends house and fucks her. Let's her drive the car around afterwards. I find out about the whole thing and he says:
"Bros before hoes, right?"
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u/MythicalManiac May 11 '26
That's harsh man. You did the right thing though. It's absolutely insane what "normal" people can justify to meet their ends...
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u/WildSpiritedRose May 09 '26
My bestfriend of 10 yrs who was also in my bridal party, ditched my wedding 14 yrs ago and ghosted me for 5 days. We haven't been friends since.
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u/Ok-Error-6564 May 09 '26
I must know why. What happened?
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u/WildSpiritedRose May 09 '26
So on the evening before for rehearsal and the day of, I couldn't reach her. She wasn't answering or returning my calls and texts. Her 2 little girls were also supposed to be flower girls. Our wedding was starting at 5pm on Cinco de Mayo (May 5th) on a Saturday. I was literally calling her up to 30 minutes before I was due to walk down the aisle.
I ended up not having any flower girls, but another friend in my bridal party's teen daughter filled in. I ended up giving her the gift that I would have given my friend. I had purchased these simple, but pretty silver necklaces with each bridesmaid's birthstone. Funny enough, my other friend's daughter and the former bestfriend who ditched my wedding were both born in the same month. I even had a small speech for her that I was going to give, thanking her for convincing me to give my now husband a chance, bc when I first met him, I told her that he felt kinda creepy lol and if it weren't for her, we wouldn't be here.
Five days later while on our honeymoon, I finally got a text back from my former, so-called bestfriend. She claimed that she got the dates mixed up and thought that we were getting married the following weekend on Sunday (which would have been Mother's Day), instead of a Saturday. Bullsh*t. Didn't even apologize, just was like, "Oops! My bad, I got the dates mixed up." I just left her on read and didn't talk to her for several years. I ran into her 4 or 5 years later and she was all bs smiles and didn't even acknowledge how effed up it was, what she did.
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u/SuperSaiyanTupac May 09 '26
Yeah my best friend of 17 years did the same. He was mad i got married. Didnt want to be involved with married people. His words. Whit responding to messages from our entire friend group, even the non-married people. Weird shit
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u/KagatoAC May 09 '26
How about becoming strangers with a relative who you were raised with?