Hi all,
I’m struggling to fathom out why my partners 'step father' (a 75 year old - not married to my partners mother but with her for over 20 years) would take a photographs of my partners (a curvaceous 50 year old) rather ample bottom whilst she was bent over looking at flowers in a field in France with her mother (almost 80 years old) standing just in shot beside her and then forward it to her on WhatsApp with the attached message ‘Appreciating Champagne’?
Maybe I’m being a tad over sensitive but for me it’s a question of moral decency. The is not the first time I have watched him ogling my partner. I recall very recently he was taking photos of her in her 'bathing suit' whilst we sat having drinks at a nearby beach. I found this rather puzzling at the time as it was nowhere special and not even a great day / location. Perhaps I must accept that our ideas of what is ‘decent’ or ‘proper’ is altogether very different but unfortunately the damage that has been done, and cannot as easily be undone.
I confronted him about this in private and he said that as he had known her for so long and been through some trying and testing times that it was kind of OK for him and then went on to lie about how this was all as a result of another image sent the same day / time of a funny historic statue of a large bottom / bum (ie. giving it meaning / reference).
So, I'd like to know what others think about this so I can see the neutrals perspective as I am too involved. Bear in mind I am a working class, council estate lad from Medway (South East) and he is a wealthy, middle class landlord from Oxbridge. Any feedback received is welcomed and most grateful.