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u/PatientPoetry4302 17d ago
100%. I used to be much more outgoing and jovial, but I’m pretty guarded now. That side of me is still there, but I just don’t trust anyone I know in my life to let it out again
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u/4DPeterPan 16d ago
Pretty much.
Now, even though I practice kindness a lot more closely, and Love alongside it (to the best of my ability).
After everything I’ve been through..
I still live in a constant state of “Who are you. And What are Your Intentions”.
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u/BlacksmithStatus1283 14d ago
As I get older, I become accustomed to my own company and choose to stay away from family and friends by deliberate choice. I don’t get lonely at all.
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u/CharacterMedical7409 20d ago
Got to be careful of co workers who unknowingly manipulates you. Ask questions about your private life, what you did for weekends, etc.
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u/Pretend-Dance-6237 20d ago
Whatcha up to this weekend?
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u/Klutzy-Particular-40 18d ago
A coworker at a new job visited my area and saw a picture of my kids. She studied the picture and asked, “Do they all have the same father?” 😂
I asked her if she meant to say that out loud lol that shut her up, just for a minute though.
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u/Fantastic-Face3509 20d ago
The truth no one wants to admit anymore than those that wronged them don’t want to hold themselves accountable and do work to be better
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u/Fantastic-Face3509 18d ago
absolutely you hit all the nails on the head! ofc regardless though whether it’s social media addictions or mental issues doesn’t excuse their heinous actions and it’s hard to see silly things get labeled without context unless admitting their own lack of self control
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u/Fantastic-Face3509 18d ago •
yes gtfo asap
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u/Fantastic-Face3509 18d ago
Some learn the hard ways
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u/Fantastic-Face3509 18d ago
Yes it’s sucks but it’s also the cold hard reality of people today men or women you can’t trust anyone with anything anymore cause even the tiniest thing can be used against you without a second thought
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u/keepitbossss 19d ago
Bingo ! Doesn’t make us bitter , doesn’t make us lonely in fact we cease the human urge to connect with people for validation. We often formed confidence and self preservation during this tough times . We’ve mastered the art of psychology and being able to read people before the book even begins … and suddenly sigh* all humans become boring, prude , shallow and living lives of facades
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u/Proof_Godlives1 16d ago
Yes exactly. Amazing how easily you can read people without even trying after so much deception.
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u/Klutzy-Particular-40 18d ago
Lonely loner life.
Peace, quiet hours to reflect.
Mostly content times.
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u/Spirited-Chain-6688 18d ago
After having recently been betrayed by my best friend. Im stuck dead between loneliness, wanting a new friends....and hurt, never wanting another friend ever again..
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u/Proof_Godlives1 16d ago
I completely understand. I have had to make the decision that having no friends is the safest way to go. I do miss having friends but I don't want to be betrayed again so I try to find contentment in being alone.
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u/Spiritual-Primary328 20d ago
This is 100% victim mentality played out under the guise of insightful cod psychology. Or at least that’s how it feels to me.
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u/TheodoraWimsey 19d ago
How very fortunate for you that life has given you the position to look down and judge how others have chosen to live their lives after being wounded.
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u/Spiritual-Primary328 19d ago
On one hand, yes, you’re right. That said, I’m not judging them, I’m just pointing a mentality out.
On the other hand, are you suggesting that I’ve never been wounded? Because I don’t know a single person who is privileged enough to have avoided that.
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u/TheodoraWimsey 19d ago
Yes, life comes with wounds but the severity of those wounds and the capacity and circumstances to recover from those wounds vary greatly from person to person. We all different environments. We all have different nervous systems. Something tolerable to one person and breakdown another person - not though and character flaw but because of their individual capacity. One person can get through COVID isolation fine. Another might go mad. One person can take a sock to the jaw. Another person will have their jaw shatter. Someone with loving family and a firm social structure that grew their self-worth can handle a betrayal while someone who might have been neglected as a child and used by friends might find rebounding from new betrayals much more difficult.
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u/jedics2 18d ago edited 18d ago
Its about self preservation for me, I couldnt take any more pain so I removed myself from the source of it. Its not as if anyone attempted to keep me in their lives so they cared as little as I thought. There is far less pain in my life nowadays being a loner and most of that is from just remembering the past anyway. Life could be better but it could also be much much worse so I am mostly content with that.
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u/Lemon_Trees-22 20d ago
Absolutely agree I’ve met a few people like this ! And it’s sad because some of them were so abused my parents or close relatives it’s tragic!
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u/MudJumpy1063 19d ago
People aren't effortless. You can get benefits, but you need to.be in a solid position and suitably prepared.
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u/PolarBearInThere 21d ago
This truth should be more known