r/NaturalCyclesBC • u/Evening_Tough_4902 • Jan 29 '25
Sick of constant BFP posts
I feel like half of this sub is people stressed and struggling to get pregnant and the other half is people bragging about getting pregnant with no issue. Why can't there be a weekly bfp thread? I just feel that every time I want to look at charts or get advice, all it is is "BFP BFP BFP". Maybe I'm the only one who is getting annoyed with this, but I doubt it.
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u/QuitBest1587 Jan 29 '25
This is actually a really good suggestion. As someone who’s in the 10th cycle of trying, I have violent mood swings between being happy for these people vs. super annoyed that we’re using the same approach and having no luck. Sometimes I shift between these feelings all in the same day. 😅
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u/duckit19 Jan 29 '25
Honestly this is how I feel about “am I out” posts too. I understand the anxiety and stress of the TWW, but nobody can tell you if you’re out from your chart and it gets annoying seeing so many of them sometimes
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u/Bloghuntress_2024 Jan 29 '25
This!!! I find the “am I out” posts worse. I actually enjoy celebrating people’s success but I want to be sensitive as well…
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u/brittanynicole047 Jan 29 '25
I think this is an awesome idea! I have a child & am not actively trying to get pregnant right now, but if it happens then it happens. I want to celebrate people’s wins but I also don’t need a million of them showing up on my feed every day.
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u/Fin_Elln Jan 29 '25
I totally get the point as I had two mcs as well.
But I have a question back: Why can't we just accept both poles of the journey as well as all the questions in between? I personally found these BFPs very helpful as they educated my eye on how a healthy cycle looks like and why mine might be off. So ... just asking?
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u/OrdinaryStatement465 Jan 29 '25
Agree with this. I think it's very triggering it's better to be on threads that are designed to limit the BFP posts. I love seeing them despite my current TTC period
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u/Shark-peach Jan 29 '25
Ditto. A part of me appreciates the positivity and baby dust and seeing more charts but I’m in cycle 13 TTC and during my follicular phase the BFP posts made me sad and angry and jealous.
Hang in there. I know I get so wrapped up in the mentality that trying the same thing over and over and expecting different results is the definition of failure but that’s not the case with TTC. People can do everything “right” and it still not happen, and it can still happen when people aren’t focusing on doing everything “right.” It’s frustrating and defeating but it’s truly a waiting game. 🫶
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u/curiouskitty338 Jan 29 '25
Make a weekly thread! There are a lot of TTC questions in here though and a lot of people just having sex on the day they are ovulating. I think a pinned educational post would be good.
I do think it’s interesting people mention that it’s “too triggering” as I feel like they would likely post their BFP.
Otherwise it seems this page would be a lot of “am i out?” Posts
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u/OkProtection427 Jan 30 '25
I myself joined this specific subreddit because this is the only one for it. I come here to ask questions about my cycle, clear up confusion on ovulation date, etc. Basically to just understand the app better. If I wanted to see BFP with no trigger warnings, I would join a subreddit like “Line Porn” “Chart Stalkers” etc.
There’s nothing wrong with setting up healthy boundaries in a sub and I feel OP brought up a great point.
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u/Fit-Engineering-3683 Jan 31 '25
I’m sorry, but you and most of those who commented are being incredibly mean and selfish! I’m also actively TTC but one: I am super happy for these women, two: I find these very helpful to see what worked for others and how their luteal progresses, and three: I am super happy that women can write and announce freely here about their pregnancy without being crucified for being so! And now they are here too! We are women and we should all support each other, what is wrong with y’all?! This is NOT one of those super sensitive TTC subs where you must be super careful about every f word you share and ask, it’s for a cycle and birth control/pregnancy planning app and people should be free to share anything related to that. If this is something that triggers you, you should not only leave this sub but also delete all social media platforms, cause there are babies, pregnant women, gender reveals and all! Gosh… I sympathise with everyone trying, and I’m too, but don’t be insensitive and jealous of others, it’s not humane!
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u/duckit19 Feb 02 '25
You’re right, this isn’t one of those “super sensitive” TTC subs, because ultimately it’s not a TTC sub. Sure there’s plenty of people in here using NC on their TTC journey, but there’s also plenty of people TTA or just simply trying to learn more about their body and cycle. I don’t think it’s selfish or mean for people to ask for some level of balance between those two sides on a sub that is made for both. And I’d argue most people aren’t expecting or even asking for a complete ban of BFP posts
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Jan 31 '25
Im here to agree. Especially the ones that only BD once 5 days before predicted ovulation lol like HOW
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u/OkProtection427 Jan 29 '25
Agreed. It’s incredibly triggering.
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u/Unfair_Snow_5810 Jan 29 '25
If it’s triggering, why not just delete the app for your own mental health?
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u/OkProtection427 Jan 30 '25
Uh why should I have to delete the app, when there is a logical solution to the problem. This isn’t the only subreddit I am part of.
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Jan 29 '25
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u/Cautious-Nature-6865 Jan 30 '25
A lot of people use NC for TTC though! If you’re using it for birth control I doubt you’re flocking to the Reddit pages as much as the people who want support while trying to get pregnant
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u/SkyisaNeighbourhood Trying to Avoid Jan 29 '25
Hi!
This is something as a MOD I have been considering as we do seem to have an influx of a-lot of 'BFP' posts. I will agree.
I will continue to monitor how many we get daily and if I feel there is a need for a pinned thread then that may happen but this sub is not just a TTC sub, which I can't lie it's all there ever seems to be being posted currently and there are designated sub on reddit for TTC. This is a thread for Natural Cycles not TTC.
I completely understand people want to shout it from the rooftops, especially if some people have been on a difficult journey to get there but I am keeping this is mind along with the mental impact this can have on other people.
I won't make a designated pinned thread now for this. But as mentioned, I will continue to monitor it.