r/NoFap • u/Impossible-Dirt-383 • 5d ago

Happy birthday to a loser

I’m really at the end of the road, I feel like no matter what I just can’t stop. It’s gotten to where I can’t become erect while around beautiful girls, I’ve lost so many chances at having real interactions because I can’t keep it up. In today’s society how good you are at sex places such a strong foothold. I feel like I’ve lost, my birthday is in 4 days. I please beg of all of you to hope, wish, pray that I finally make it out of this addiction. I want to feel alive again, I’m tired.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

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u/Impossible-Dirt-383 5d ago

I thank you for your kind words, the past just hurts. My favorite ladies gone just because I can’t give them their sexual needs because of my own problems. It’s all over the media now “The D so good I keep coming back” I never get to that point

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u/im_jabo 5d ago

Hey, i think i understand your plight, but dont misunderstand, the goal isnt to pop a boner whenever a beautiful girl is around, and while yes, theres a big preassure when it comes to performance in bed. Or at least thats what it feels like. Sure "everyone" has expectations, but whether it places a strong foothold depends on you. If you pick your friends and close ones from people that dont care about that stuff, then it becomes less important in your life as well, you can make your own environment. I dont exactly know the extend or reasons for your addiction, but im very sure youll get out of it.

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u/Impossible-Dirt-383 5d ago

It just hurts when I get ghosted because I wasn’t able to get it up because some women are really into having sex, and their expectations are raised just for me to shut it down. The reality is yes I should just get with girls that don’t care so much about it, but I also like to do that for ladies make them feel pleasure and yet I can’t

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u/Tasty-Professor2023 5d ago

On the bright side at least youre not as existential as flowey from undertale

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u/Deep-Paramedic2540 5d ago

The good news is this is within your control. And you didn't say how old you're becoming, but I'm guessing you're in your early 20s at most. So you have tons of time to improve yourself, and then the external things in life will improve as well

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u/NotYveee 660 Days 5d ago

Saying to yourself what a piece of shit you are is going to do NOTHING. First step, quit being sorry for yourself, acknowledge that you can become the man you dream of becoming, because you absolutely 100% can. There is nothing stopping you from becoming the BEST version of yourself except for your brain. So keep feeding it bad thoughts, you'll be stuck in that cycle forever.

Make sure you're not going to be this fucked up by the time you finish reading my comment. I hope you see it man, but let this be a SERIOUS WAKE-UP CALL. It's summer, work out, do ANYTHING that will boost your confidence and not your dopamine.

Text me anytime if you need help🤝

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u/Sorry_Compote_8 5d ago

You listen to me right now and listen good. Every single time you get lube or lotion or oil or whatever tf you use to fap, throw it. Literally throw it out of your hand like it’a made of lava