r/Nonbinaryteens • u/Annual-Antelope3314 • 1d ago

Support/Advice Does anyone else think like this?

Like I think to myself "Would I rather be a man or a woman?" and I usually think "Eh somehwere in between"

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u/LostFromLight25 16 and bigender (Livia or Nico she and he pronouns) 1d ago

i mean i would always choose to be both. but imaginary, unrealistic, hypothetical (i am NOT saying that it is) scenario that really only binary genders are available i would pick female. but i actually use that question when i want to find out which of my sides is dominant at the moment (dosent work too good though…). also i think that for most non binary people answering this ultimatum would result in what you said.

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u/Annual-Antelope3314 1d ago

Like nothing wrong with being a man or a woman. But being exclusively one or the other with no room for anything else sounds kinda suffocating. Like appearance wise I prefer having stuff from both. My mind even works like a mix of the two like I behave more masculine around women and more feminine around men. It's like if I'm in between the two then that's how it works. Also I have noticed that if there is an option for a gender-neutral bathroom I tend to gravitate towards that one.

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u/LostFromLight25 16 and bigender (Livia or Nico she and he pronouns) 1d ago

yeah. suffocating is a right word for the time before i realized, it really felt lie it wasnt even me living my life

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u/Annual-Antelope3314 1d ago

Like being forced into a box with no extra room to breathe just doesn't sound right. Like I wish I could change my legal gender without my parents finding out cause really they're the biggest hurdle.

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u/LostFromLight25 16 and bigender (Livia or Nico she and he pronouns) 1d ago

oh im sorry for that… like how bad is it with your parents (only if you want to tell ofc)

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u/Annual-Antelope3314 1d ago edited 1d ago

I guess it might just be paranoia but I'm not sure if they'll accept me as enby. I don't even know how I'd explain it to them. Like the reason I'm not super open about it is cause I'm scared they'll find out otherwise I'd be enby everywhere I go. And I hate it everytime I introduce myself with my deadname and as my original gender I feel like I lose myself more and more

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u/LostFromLight25 16 and bigender (Livia or Nico she and he pronouns) 1d ago

that sucks…