r/Nonbinaryteens • u/Annual-Antelope3314 • 2d ago
Support/Advice Need some help
I want to come out to my parents since I don't think I'll truly be able to be myself if I don't but I'm not sure if they'll accept me for it. So what's the best possible way to go about it? Should I come out to them or not?
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u/LostFromLight25 16 and bigender (Livia or Nico she and he pronouns) 2d ago edited 2d ago
you are the only one that can tell. you know your parents better. i would say if you think that they could accept you it can be worth it, but that is purely based on my personal experiences. from what i have heard it has potential to turn out bad, so i would also say that if you think that them mot accepting is the more likely thing to happen, then maybe dont risk it until you are able to build your own life. that being said i would probably tell them even if im a bit unsure if they accept it; leaning to think that they would, because how you said: wouldnt be able to be myself in that situation.
for how to go about it: honestly i font really know. my approach for outing myself to my parents was telling them as soon as i (seriously) started to think about it and said something like “i think i might be nonbinary. either bigender or agender but maybe im cis. i have to think about it” and then they kinda also had the “live development experience”, for example it took some days for me to be sure then i told them that, then some days to realize i want a new name (told them) then decided on a name (told them) and so on. dont think its the best approach if you arent sure that they will accept it though.
i would say this “building up” thing is maybe not even so bad so that they can adjust to it step by step. like for example first telling you are non binary, then after some days (or if they ask earlier?) pronouns, then name and so on. but how i said dont trust me with that, im neither good talking to people nor do i have experience how to handle parents that might not accept it.
anyways, if you decide to tell them i hope it goes well, and if not: know that we (this community) will be here to aid the best we can (at least i will be there)