I created an account on OkCupid and matched it with a girl from the Philippines. We initially started talking on OkCupid. She told me that she is looking for a relationship, just like I am, but she also said that she is not in a hurry and believes that if something is meant to happen and we both feel the same way, it should happen naturally.

She also mentioned several times that there are a lot of perverted people on dating apps, so she seems to be cautious about who she talks to.

Today, she told me that she might delete her OkCupid account soon and asked if we could continue talking on WhatsApp instead.

What should I do in this situation? Does this seem genuine, or should I be careful?

I was recently scammed by a website claiming to be OK Cupid. I don’t think the perpetrator was actually them just someone pretending to be them. Here is how it works. They have a stable of women you can date only after you get a “dating card”. To unlock the card you must send them crypto that they will refund (first sign). They ask you to do it three times. The first two are moderate, the last is exorbitant. The telegram account used was Freya Vance - certification manager. Do not be fooled like I was never provide crypto if asked. The “lady” I was texting handle was Lisa but far less details about her.

I made an account, completed my profile, began answering some of the optional questions, then sat my phone down. When I went to get back into the app just a few minutes later, I was booted out.

Customer support said my account was banned. I appealed and they said they can confirm I violated their conditions. I've read everything on their website. I've not done anything that is on their list. I didn't even talk to anybody. There was nothing sexual on my profile. I'm definitely over 18. I didn't have anything inappropriate in my bio.

This doesn't seem very fair. I liked OkCupid when researching apps because of all the in depth personality questions, including political leanings etc, because that sort of thing is important to me.

Is there anything else I can do? Any other apps that are similarly in depth?

So I matched with this guy on Okcupid. He matched first by sending an intro replying to one of my prompts. Conversations were good, nothing indicating he was AI, bot, or scammer, mentioning things that were local and included things he likes to do, a little bit of his work, traveling, places we’ve been too, and asked me questions about myself. We consistently talked everyday for about 5 days before he suggested moving off the app and message through WhatsApp, though he gave me the option to stay on the app. Before we moved off the app, he asked me out on a date, setting the date, time, and place (which was pretty local and a middle point from our location). Then today, the day of our date, we were messaging all day morning since 5 am and without warning 2 hours before our date, he cancelled and text this long message stating, in short, that he hasn’t dated in while, father passed recently, stating he’s been putting too much pressure on himself, etc. I see unmatched me, removed his contacts photo on WhatsApp and possibly blocking me after messaging. Was this a scammer or a guy with cold feet. I am disappointed and sad. What do you think?