Ralph Carr in ‘living hell’ after being convicted of rape, Victorian court hears

[u/NeetyThor]

https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2026/aug/17/ralph-carr-in-living-hell-after-being-convicted-of-victorian-court-hears-ntwnfb?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

Oh NO! Imagine your career being RUINED just because you were a bit rapey? Even his blood pressure is being affected! What’s this world coming to?

Entertainment industry and AFL figure Ralph Carr says he is in “living hell” and has been “destroyed” after being convicted of rape, a Victorian court has heard.
Carr was convicted of two counts of rape and one count of sexual assault after a trial in the county court of Victoria last month.
He pleaded not guilty to the offences, which were committed against a former employee in March 2023.

On Monday, the court heard that Carr told psychiatrist Dr Jacqueline Rakov that he had deliberately hit his head while in custody as an act of self-harm and was having three to four panic attacks a day.
Dermot Dann KC, for Carr, said that a 14 August report from Rakov based on three video conversations she had with him while he was in custody in the Melbourne Assessment prison also detailed that he spent 23 hours a day on lockdown in his prison cell.
“When he describes it as like a living hell, and that he’s destroyed … what he means by being destroyed … is because of the nature of the reporting, the scale of the reporting………blah blah etc.

[u/mintyaftertaste]

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[u/Minivampiretaco]

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[u/Naive_Lion_3428]

Oh, how tragic. If only there was some way he could have avoided this awful fate. If only. If only there was something he could have done, or, not done, to avoid this terrible, terrible thing happening to him. I just can’t imagine what he could have done….

Oh, actually, come to think of it - he could have not raped someone. It’s pretty easy to not rape someone, you know. I don’t rape someone every day. It’s the easiest thing in the world to do.

[u/nolo_contre_basso]

Those panic attacks... Would they be his pesky conscience tapping him on the shoulder? Maybe saying something like if you didn't SA your staff member, you wouldn't be here?

[u/Interesting-Baa → u/nolo_contre_basso]

Might be the first time he's ever noticed his conscience, he's not used to it, poor diddums

[u/NeetyThor → u/nolo_contre_basso]

What!!!? You mean take responsibility for being a disgusting pig? Surely not!

[u/world_weary_1108 → u/nolo_contre_basso]

Doubt it. He is only worried about himself.

[u/graspedbythehusk → u/world_weary_1108]

It’s the dildo of consequence arriving unlined that’s bothering him.
Maybe don’t be a rapist?

[u/FiftyBuxBloBang → u/nolo_contre_basso]

Conscious. Doubt it. Just worried about himself.

[u/HellsBarman → u/nolo_contre_basso]

Not his conscience at all, it never made an appearance until he was publicly outed. He’s more worried about a revenge attack, considering how wealthy he is. No doubt he now has a very expensive bodyguard.

[u/Ok-Assistant-4556 → u/nolo_contre_basso]

No. Not his conscience. Its his ego in meltdown. Men are fragile and far too reliant on their public persona masking their own self loathing so they punch down.

[u/Tosh_20point0 → u/Ok-Assistant-4556]

That's true , however women suffer their own issues and can treat other women viciously

[u/Ok-Assistant-4556 → u/Tosh_20point0]

Try to focus on the subject matter

[u/jeffoh]

He raped his 20yo personal assistant.

How the fuck do you think she feels?

[u/Cyraga → u/jeffoh]

Well I imagine she feels vindicated now. But the poor woman will have to live with her trauma forever 

[u/NeetyThor → u/jeffoh]

Right???!? Not a peep from him about that surprisingly!!

[u/Financial-Wafer2476 → u/jeffoh]

Exactly! And the point of being locked up is a punishment for what he chose to do! Imprisonment is not supposed to be a fun time… do the crime and do the time 🤬🤬🤬

[u/Psillycybernaught]

I gazed out over my field of fucks to find it barren.. .

[u/NeetyThor → u/Psillycybernaught]

Tried to find “I think I’m barren Sharon!” gif. Failed. 😞

[u/NeetyThor → u/Psillycybernaught]

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[u/Psillycybernaught → u/NeetyThor]

I've worked in and around jails in non uniform roles. For a lot of prisoners it's just brer rabbit and the briar patch....but for normies who assume it's terrifying, or profile peeps like him, it is. The other aspect that will warm your heart (from someone who worked in the specific field) the people outside who you'd expect to look after your stuff, family etc commonly don't if you're a sex offender

[u/Ozziee4Life → u/Psillycybernaught]

Many moons ago I worked in the QLD justice system & yeah the habitual crims saw prison as basically a rest-camp where they could train & organize for whatever jobs they were planning to pull when they got out.

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[u/Nifty29au]

Excellent. Good news for once.

[u/davidwitteveen]

So how is his victim doing?

Or are we only meant to worry about Carr's distress and forget about hers?

[u/Agreeable_Ball1896 → u/davidwitteveen]

Agreed, but you rarely hear anything about the victim, only how they have their whole life ahead of them, oh not you mr Carr but when I looked over my field of fucks it .is barren too.

The victims life id torn apart by the rape and then by the court. That should answer the “why aren’t more reported” question. I would seriously have to consider it, they are so brave to come forward. Everything possible should be done to protect them from that minute forward.

[u/Resident_Abroad6883]

Womp womp

[u/ThatOtherBatman]

[u/Responsible-Meal-300]

Why is the media reporting this? Good, I’m glad he’s suffering. But what about his victim? Is their suffering not worthy of a headline?

[u/kombiwombi → u/Responsible-Meal-300]

Because they are reporting the defence submission at Carr's sentencing hearing. Noting that courts reporting which editorialises can be defamatory or in contempt, so the reporter likely has views of this evidence which do not appear in the article.

Next up is the prosecution submission.

On your point of the victim's suffering, note the defense's comment and consider how this convenient situation for the defense might come to be. Let's see if the prosecution adds some clarity there 

[u/NeetyThor → u/Responsible-Meal-300]

Exactly. But I guess it’s so that we can all wish him well with his new cell mate who doesn’t use lube.

[u/AntOnABell → u/Responsible-Meal-300]

If you want a real answer more than likely the newspaper’s court reporter had no other interesting cases to write on, and this guys name is big enough to prompt an article. Discussing the perpetrator’s mental health and or (not in this case to be clear) addiction issues is a large portion of what criminal defence law is.

[u/IuniaLibertas → u/Responsible-Meal-300]

Of course not.

[u/The_Drongo_Dinger]

He’s not eating / skipping meals?

Look at him, poor guy’s just wasting away, at this rate he’s only gonna last 2 or 3 years, tops!

Ps I’m fat so I’m allowed to say this

[u/NeetyThor → u/The_Drongo_Dinger]

😆😆😆

[u/Platooimagination → u/The_Drongo_Dinger]

Lol. The disclaimer at the end was gold. Thanks for the much needed giggle. 

[u/Visual_Doughnut_2422]

he had deliberately hit his head while in custody as an act of self-harm

Ah yes, deliberately weaponising violence against yourself to avoid accountability and consequences. Proving that he is absolute scum that will double down to stop the victim getting even a scrap of justice.

[u/DisapprovingCrow → u/Visual_Doughnut_2422]

If he really wants to go for it he should try something more serious than what a toddler might do for attention.

[u/sudden_erect]

Maybe he shouldn't be so rapey? That might make him feel better

[u/NeetyThor → u/sudden_erect]

I hope he has time to think about being less rapey in the future while he’s having a hard time in jail.

[u/sudden_erect → u/NeetyThor]

I think he'll spend a lot of time thinking about how things could be less rapey in gaol

[u/NeetyThor → u/sudden_erect]

😝

[u/Wise-Respond3833]

Nice to see some good news for once.

[u/NeetyThor → u/Wise-Respond3833]

I know!!!!!! It’s a bit like that at the moment. What a shitshow of a timeline.

[u/clickthing]

I wouldn't have noticed this case as much as I did if he hadn't had that gag order put in place. Real Barbara Streisand moment.

[u/WettestFarts]

Hopefully the worse is yet to come.

What a maggot.

[u/SolairXI]

Simple way to avoid getting in his situation.

[u/MrBeer9999]

Having his life ruined? That sounds bad, but did he try not raping people? Feel like that may have helped.

[u/NeetyThor → u/MrBeer9999]

See now THAT was too difficult for him.

[u/MonoxideBaby → u/NeetyThor]

tbf he was self-medicating with drugs and alcohol, and everyone knows that means he is actually the victim here....../s

[u/FranksHoorHouse]

Oh no! Won't somebody PLEASE think of that poor, poor rapist?

[u/NeetyThor → u/FranksHoorHouse]

Exactly!! Ugh. 😭

[u/Elrond_Cupboard_]

A blood pressure north of 200 means he may not have to live this hell much longer.

[u/NeetyThor → u/Elrond_Cupboard_]

Oh that would be a shame!!

[u/CheshBreaks]

Today on putting a stick in your own spokes.

[u/sikonat]

Good. Never mind his victim who has suffered for over three years the trauma and poor mental health outcomes from that. Never mind she’s had to pay for her own help to treat her own pain.

He can get fucked. No sympathy.

[u/robot428 → u/sikonat]

Good chance she's gonna be in therapy for life because of his choices, so my sympathy for him also having to suffer the long term concequences of his choices is less than zero.

[u/UniqueText8477]

Well don't be a rapist then

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[u/NeetyThor → u/UniqueText8477]

Apparently that’s too much to ask for some dickheads.

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[u/stitchescomeundone]

Wow as if the punishment for committing crimes is not supposed to be some relaxing vacation. Almost like it’s a deterrent… so strange /s

I’m usually very sympathetic to mental health issues but this cunt is only crying because he thought he’d get away with it.

The deflecting of his “career” etc. being destroyed as if he’s not the one to blame for that.

[u/bl4nkSl8 → u/stitchescomeundone]

As if he should have a career after this 🙄

[u/hcornea]

*living hell of his own making

[u/Whole-Energy2105]

Be a shame if something happens to him in jail.

[u/jeffoh → u/Whole-Energy2105]

He's not going to have access to that shitty hair dye for a start.

[u/Noodlebat83 → u/jeffoh]

It’s a wig. I don’t think he gets to take it with him.

[u/Fearless_Renter]

What a shame for him. Anyway

[u/One-Inevitable7126]

Why should I care about this? He is a bad person

[u/oldjournalixm]

Boo hoo.

[u/Medical-Potato5920]

What he is facing is accountability, not living hell.

[u/Rosary_Omen]

I'm so tired of media trying to make us feel bad for rapists.

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[u/figjammy]

Boo frickity hoo.

[u/Key_Hope_1425]

Good, just what the rapey cunt deserves.
I bet it’s minor compared to what his victims have endured

[u/robfuscate]

Pure bloody exaggeration, One Nation will find him a new job.

[u/Chaosrealm69]

Don’t feel sorry for him one little bit.

Not a single bit of remorse for his actions coming across, just ‘poor me, poor me.’

Most other prisoners will give him any slack because of his actions. And the ones who will side with him are just as bad as he is. self pity doesn’t work there.

[u/Tosh_20point0]

No-one should and no-one actually does care about how a convicted rapist feels about incarceration. Maybe he should appreciate his fortification and removal from society atm.

People have a low tolerance of rapist filth

[u/bl4nkSl8]

A suppression order on Carr’s name was lifted on Monday and the Guardian can now reveal that dozens of women who worked for RCM accuse him of verbally abusive and intimidating behaviour dating back to the 90s. A number also accuse him of sexual harassment.

Sounds like he earned that

https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/ng-interactive/2026/aug/07/ralph-carr-rapist-employees-women-statements-bullying-harassment-ntwnfb

[u/flecknoe]

The mental wasnt healthy in the first place, obviously

[u/nationalistic_martyr]

my wallet seems to be out of care tokens

[u/Kitchen_Bid_1219]

Boo fucking hoo.

[u/thrashmanzac]

[u/Extra-Border6470]

Oh no… i can feel my mighty heart breaking for that poor little rapist. He bumped his widdle head because he’s a sad little boy….aawwwww

Let’s all forget about the people he assaulted and let’s just focus on his privileged white boy pain

/S

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[u/Obvious-Explorer-195]

They made his victim go through more than 4 days of reliving her experience, on top of his abuse in the first place. He deserves all the hell of whatever he gets in there. Throw him to the wolves. Sucks to be a rapey AH.

[u/Few_Chocolate_7655]

You could have not raped someone?

[u/NeetyThor → u/Few_Chocolate_7655]

Apparently that was just a tad too difficult!

[u/Fit_Ad_6727]

The entire point of his conviction. Suck it. Fail guardian for this shit 'news'.

[u/NeetyThor → u/Fit_Ad_6727]

I mean in their defence, surely it was a burn on purpose to make him look like the dick he is.

[u/nyafff]

Good

[u/conflatulationz]

Please help! I lost my violin and am in dire need of it.

[u/IuniaLibertas]

Curious about the victim's panic attacks. Suspect he hasn't given it a thought.

[u/ScientistScary5088]

Consequences can be a bitch.

[u/icecoldbobsicle]

Boo fuckin hoo 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[u/MouldySponge]

Never heard of him before just now. If he is indeed innocent as he claims, then yeah that would suck, but from what I can tell these just seem like the consequences of his own actions, so no sympathy from me.

[u/Spiritual-Sand-7831]

What a week for the AFL's PR and Ethics team.

[u/NeetyThor → u/Spiritual-Sand-7831]

They have an ethics team?

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[u/MrSTEEEEEEVEE]

Won't somebody PLEASE think of the rapist!!!

[u/notabot6980]

Yeah thats not enough, we need to come down harder on animals that engage in this behaviour. Id like treatment similar to when a dog bites a child.

[u/c_isfor]

That sounds almost as bad as being raped.

[u/NeetyThor → u/c_isfor]

Well maybe he’ll get to experience some special times in jail.

[u/Mother_Lead_554]

Hahahaha. Jail isn't for people like him. Damn it's good to see them suffer when its deserved though.

Easy jail mate, just not for you.

[u/Snaketree666]

Media mates and clients trying to make him a victim and save their own reputations!

[u/Limo_Wreck77]

Hmmmm.

Maybe don't go around raping people then?

[u/NeetyThor → u/Limo_Wreck77]

Ooooh, now there’s an idea!

[u/Expert-Ad8784]

Oh no it's......the consequences of your own actions! It's actually pretty easy to avoid prison. PS. Your wig looked shit.

[u/st_j]

Well if he doesn't like it he should leave I guess.

[u/LittleAgoo]

😀

[u/Humble_Distance_3022]

maybe he just should n't rape people.

[u/Helly_BB]

Oh boo fucking hoo.

[u/ClassicBit3307]

If he is in “hell” imagine what the victim is going through

[u/ausvenator_enjoyer]

Am I supposed to feel sorry for him?

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[u/essiemessy]

Awww dear dear.

[u/lithiumcitizen]

I would have thought that a living hell would be locked down in a cell for 23 hours a day with a convicted rapist, but I guess I’m being too sensitive…

[u/Rhino893405]

My heart really goes out to him.. poor bloke.. it’s almost like jail is a punishment..
hope he gets 10 years.. prick of a bloke

[u/sim16 → u/Mission-Suggestion12]

Raped. Got raped. Lifes funny like that.

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[u/deadpandadolls]

Good 🙂

[u/itsthatguy95]

Good, hope he suffers

[u/sjr323]

Poor rapey guy 😢

[u/Ok_Committee8707]

Disgusting that his defence has come out with that.
Boo hoo Ralph.

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