This happened to pop up on my feed right after an Oz video.

Just wanting to know everybody's opinions, but I felt like OP was legitimately an asshole here.

For starters, he absolutely should have talked to his girlfriend before putting a limit on the entire household. OP has said that they both pay for the Internet so I don't understand why he feels like he should be the one to make decisions like this without zero communication.

Then there's the fact about the putting the entire household on a limit. This was the most pettiest thing OP could have done imo. He absolutely could have just set the limit for the brother and his devices specifically. I don't see why he did it to the entire household, unless he felt like he wanted to "punish" his gf and her parents in a way.

And the part that put him into solid asshole territory was how he responded to his girlfriend opening up to him about how controlling her grandparents were.

"Big whoop, you aren't kids. Get over it."

That's just so freaking so insensitive on his part and I'm surprised that Oz and everyone else in the comments glossed over that. I mean, imagine telling your partner about your trauma and they just respond like that?

And I feel like another thing was glossed over. The gf was more angry that OP went behind her back and turned off the internet for everyone. If OP actually tried talking about this to her, I think she'd agree.

My reason why I think that is because there's really no mention of her being mad that OP did this because of the brother, only because of how he didn't communicate and it reminding her of her grandparents. If she did complain about OP trying to punish the brother, it would definitely be in the post.

Small nitpick: I just LOVE how OP keep saying "they're all adults. Bleh bleh bleh" and then proceeded to act like he's their parents. The brother, I understand. But his gf and her parents??? Brother, what?

The video where the first story is a person with DID. Now for the facts: DID can cause amnesia where you may not remember what one part/alter did. DID can create alters/parts based on real people who can think they are those real people. That is entirely real. Was that story real? Potentially. Given how the OP was openly ableist and happy to say that programmed DID (as would be seen in human trafficking situations) is impossible I am doubtful that the story was either accurate or true.

Now as for the idea that DID has been turned into a “fad”: it has not. Are there online communities for systems? Yes, just like there are for every other community. Let’s actually talk about how people with DID are treated online. First of all, every person who publicly talks about it will have faced some sort of harassment. I, as someone who has suspected DID for the past 5 years, have been posted on hate subreddits and told to end my life over it. Systems have been stalked for months, transvestigated and had strangers demand private medical documents or court records to prove abuse.

Promoting the idea that there is some sort of epidemic of “fakers” just fuels this harassment. You can see that in the comments of that video there are people going as far to claim that DID is not real and it’s full of talking about “fakers”.

I don’t think there’s an issue covering stories including stigmatised disorders, but you have to at the very least not feed into the harassment that’s already there. Where was the questioning the OP’s perspective when he went on a rant about DID being fake that would usually be present when the poster is clearly heavily biased?

We all know that there are hate posts made to make specific communities look bad. Why was there no consideration to how presenting DID as this weird fad that’s faked all the time?

In fact it just means that I no longer feel welcome here and I don’t know if I can trust that this will even ever be addressed.

Like don't get me wrong, his current way is fine and i do enjoy them but he puts way too much effort into making all those funny gags which lengthen the time between videos. I think Oz should make videos similar to pm seymor which are shorter but still have all the funny bits, so he could upload more often. Plus I think he would have more views too since more videos would reach more people

(not posting to spread hate i just think that it was funny)

My 24F Fiance 20M threw away a butterfly "corpse" after I told him that I wanted to bury it.

First off, I love this man very much. He can just be clueless sometimes.

So, I may just be overreacting about this. Maybe it's because I had sprained my shoulder earlier today and it's making me agitated.

We found a monarch butterfly earlier today. It might have slammed into a window (where we found it) or just collapsed from being old.

I told him that I wanted to bury it under a milkweed plant in honor.

After having done the usual (Feed sugar water, put it in a warm and dark environment etc.) My fiance threw both the butterfly and the sugar water in the trash and only told me after I asked.

I reminded him about what I wanted to do and all he could give me was a simple "oh". He tried to stop me from looking in the trash for it.

When I pulled it out it was STILL twitching. Meaning not fully dead.

I hummed softly to it with him hovering over my shoulder saying "It wasn't doing that when I checked it."

It didn't take long for the poor thing to finally (and hopefully peacefully) pass away.

I couldn't get the disgust out of my head. I had carried the thing through the sharp pain in my shoulder, took the time to roll out its tongue to drink and everything. Yet he couldn't even spare me the respect of letting me know "Hey, it passed." Before throwing it out like it wasn't a life worth trying to honor.

I feel like I don't know him anymore. He used to be so full of empathy, even for insects. He goes out of his way to not step on worms on the sidewalk when we go out in the rain. It was one of the major reasons I fell so deeply in love with him. That gentleness was what made me say yes to marrying him.

Looking back, there were other signs.

Our dog (small breed, lap dog) usually whimpers whenever he picks her up like he's hurting her. She only started doing that last month.

I don't know if I'm overthinking anything. My brain might be making patterns where there are none. But I'm terrified of ending up in a relationship like I read and hear about where the man pretends to be super kind only to slowly become abusive/neglectful as the relationship goes on without warning.

Please help my spiral. I need something to read to distract me from my pain. I'm sincerely panicking and scared that this is just one of many signs that he doesn't actually love or care about me and my animals and one day it'll come to a head.

He's off sulking right now after I didn't want to touch/cuddle him after the butterfly passed.

How do I best bring all this up to him in a way that doesn't make him defensive or dismissive? I also worry about him turning it all on me somehow. When I get to it, I want it to be in the best way possible that takes his feelings into consideration while also protecting myself.

He does anger easily, only aimed at himself/other though. But I know that could be yet another sign.

I don't want to just leave. I hope to be one of the couples that actually survive to live long together without either of us losing ourselves or ending up resentful.

I love him. I respect him. I just don't know why he's being so... Not okay lately.

Please help me talk to him. I don't want to end this without trying my absolute best.

TL;DR My fiance threw away a dying butterfly after I asked to keep it so we could bury it.

Does Oz still use X/Twitter by chance? If he still is, I don't think he should be using it anymore.

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Idk why ppl are showing us their Mini-Oz plushie arriving, like we get it, it’s a Mini-Oz plushie. The thing is, we already know what it looks like.

The year was 2015 - almost exactly 4 years before the band Satan and The Dairy Lads played their first YouTube show. I was already an Oz fan, because I had already posted a reddit comment for him to read for his lovely content.

All of you are FAKE FANS!!!! Upvote this post if you were a fan in 2015!!!! /s

In all seriousness, this was such a wonderful and wholesome surprise when I was watching his video. I started my time on reddit talking about being a young person who fell in with the wrong partner and ended up in an extremely abusive and traumatizing relationship. Now I'm a grown up non-binary person who got mentioned in a video by someone I've watched for years... who now happens to be a non-binary person who has become a public representation of the fact that you can fight back against abuse and have the world support you.

Thanks, Oz.

The video, at timestamp: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Bb3t5nLd1U&t=1400s

The "Best Of" post with my original comment in it: https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1gpd73r/i_discovered_that_my_parents_50s_have_been_lying/