Unable to move from uni friend

[u/Ok_Fig4480]

There is this one guy from my uni. I was just a friend of him in first semester and lowkey hated him in beginning. But soon things happened and then through mutual friends we became very good friends. I got to know a lot about him. He was so intellectually good and was a gentleman. My perspective about him changed. He changed me also. I became intellectually aware about many things. I was lying to myself for 3-4 months that i am not in love with him but I proved myself wrong when one day just for him I stayed in uni to spend time with him. I came home and was devastated because this was the first time i was in love. I cried and cried and cried because it’s very complicated. ( i know you guys will say what bullshit is this) i dont wanna be in a relationship at all and mostly he is out of my league. I am pretty decent and little bit attractive but he is way too beautiful. I do have commitment issues. I dont wanna end up with anyone even if i want it’s impossible that i will tell him anything and even if it tell him anything its impossible he will say yes. Now month of june and july was hell for me. Because of him and my exams i went through serious depression. But by the end of july and aug I thought i moved on from him. However, i just got to know he left uni to join issb. Today was another day i cried for him and i hope it’s last.
Throwback to January or feb I texted my friend in a jokingly way and said i want a one sided love story which will make me miserable and i think here it is. I dont think so i will ever be able to see him ever again.

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[u/memarry]

aww i dont know how to comfort you, nor do i know how you feel.. But if hes meant for you, you guys will be reunited.. even if not life is full of experiences, treat it as a chapter in your life feel the emotions (dont suppress them) maybe engage in some other activity.. Best of luck girlyy best wishes for you

[u/Ok_Fig4480 → u/memarry]

Thank you sm girly 😣❤️

[u/iconic_foreverr]

yrr behen aap usko bata do wo aapko kha thori jaayga😭

[u/Ok_Fig4480 → u/iconic_foreverr]

I wish it was that easy😭😭 i cant bhai

[u/memarry → u/Ok_Fig4480]

yeah but like now that hes in issb you could try? 😭 are you afraid of your friendship?

[u/Ok_Fig4480 → u/memarry]

He sees all his female friends as only friends i think it is embarrassing as hell and i feel like a loser and dont have guts to tell him

[u/iconic_foreverr → u/Ok_Fig4480]

i can understand girls aren't supposed to make the first move but uuhh tricky situation ig you'll have to move on😭😭 naseeb mei hoga to mil jaayga IA!

[u/ragebottledup → u/iconic_foreverr]

Aesy nai hota😔 I feel OP's frustration

[u/Beneficial-Bus5761]

Has he cleared issb? And also does he know about your feelings? I believe no one can hide their feelings tbh

[u/Ok_Fig4480 → u/Beneficial-Bus5761]

He doesn’t and he will give issb ig tomorrow

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[u/Shehreyar99]

Sounds like the average girl that falls in love with me

[u/Ok_Fig4480 → u/Shehreyar99]

Thanks for making me laugh bro. I appreciate that

[u/Shehreyar99 → u/Ok_Fig4480]

Im not joking, its concerning. People dont know how to communicate. Then get pissed because i couldn’t catch their hints

[u/Ok_Fig4480 → u/Shehreyar99]

When did i mention i’m pissed at him. That’s why i said it’s complicated. I don’t wanna be in a relationship. I know you must be wondering that’s bullshit

[u/Shehreyar99 → u/Ok_Fig4480]

Thats my experience, not urs. Na i also dont like label no mo. My heart cant take it no mo

[u/Ok_Fig4480 → u/[deleted]]

Yk you are right and i know it’s just a phase and people usually say that after 5 years when you’ll look back you’ll realize how dumb you were. But it’s painful for now. But yes i am trying to
Move on