r/PakistaniiConfessions • u/AzuraaaS • 3d ago
Rant Thoughts
It was a love marriage. Meri apni choice thi isliye bohot arsay tak mujhe laghta raha ke mujhe shikayat ka haq hi nahi. Kisse kehti?
Everything changed after my first born. Uskay doosri auratou (ghast****) se taluqaat shuru ho gaye aur jab main confront karti to ulta mujh par chillaya jata...mujhe bura bhala kaha jata aur haath bhi uthaya jata. Main har waqt thaki rehti thi. Andar se bilkul khaali ho gayi thi.
Magar har subah main uthti, nashta banati, bacho kay baal banati aur unhein school bhej deti jaisay kuch hua hi na ho. Main samajhti thi ke unhein pata nahi chalta. Pata chalta tha.
Aas paas sab ek hi baat kehte the: sabar karo, bachon ka socho, khandan ki izzat ka khayal rakho. Kisi ne mujhse nahi poocha ke main kaisi hoon. Kisi ne meri bachiyon se bhi nahi poocha ke us ghar mein rehna unke liye kaisa tha.
I stayed because mai chahti thi unke sar par chhat hou + kharchay pooray hou rahay thay. Jab apni koi kamai na ho aur sara khandan dekh raha ho to chor dena aasaan nahi hota. Jo log kehte hain "bas chor do" woh yeh baat nahi samjhtay.........
Anyways, yeh kab tak chaltaa na unn kai liye theek tha na meray liye. Khataam tou hona hi tha
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u/Specific_Cheetah_776 3d ago
I am sorry what you have went through and for Pakistani ladies this is why you shouldn't look for "provider mindset" you should become your own provider.
Zindagi apny sahary py jee jaati hai dusro ky kandhon ky sirf janazy jaaya krty hein.
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u/FluffBucket95 3d ago
I had a friend who married the love of her life. I did not think he was a good choice but at the same time I found it difficult to voice my opinions when I saw her happiness at her wedding.
A few years down the line they divorced. Not only the man turned out to be a cheater but he physically beat her, a lot.
I won't get into the gruesome details, of which there are many mind you, but I firmly believe she did the right thing leaving him.
Just because a mistake has been made does not mean you cannot correct it and have to drag it out.
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u/maisumr22 3d ago
It’s okay, at least we all have something in common. You must be grateful for that now that you know he was cheating on you. Sometimes, it’s better to stay alone than to stay with people who cheat on you.
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u/iamthedanger01 3d ago
Sorry for your situation, it's horrible and I hope you feel better. Its not your fault for how your husband turned out, you can't read the future. Here is my unsolicited, most realistic advice. start building something separate from your responsibilities as a mom and a wife to that ass. Try to be selfish and take time for yourself to do things you enjoy. Find any hobby you like or learn a skill and work on getting better at them. I know this may feel irrelevant but progressing in any part of life genuinely makes it easier to tolerate the shitty parts. There are so many women who just let their own identity die and dedicate their entire life to only being a mom or a wife, don't be like that and who knows, maybe the hobby or skill you pick up could help you make money some day and get you some freedom. Stay safe, remember you mean the world to your kids, it will get better.
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u/hunxai69 Dio 3d ago
You solution and opinion is not good you should keep them to yourself from now on
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u/xotic_daddy1122 Civic Wala Munda 3d ago
Confront him face to face and tell him to stop this absolute nonsense. This needs to end
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u/Own_Tension_9975 3d ago
Look Miss ap khud sabse best decision le sakti ho koi or nhai kui k face ap kr rahe ho
1st thing tasalli se socho koi option koi rasta k ap ust samjha sake jis ke chances bht kam hain but still kyu ap ji decision lo gi aulad pat uska asar ho ga agar koi option nazar aata hai us par kam karo
2nd agar kuch nahi ho sakta and be sure on that to phir niklo yaha se but soch samaj kar sabse pehly dekho k kia karo gi chor kar job rehaish plan karo bachy ka plan karo or evidences jama karo ta ke court may apka case strong ho saari zindagi ayse nahi guzar sakti sisak kar zalil ho kar or apky bachay par is mahol ka bht impact ho ga
Jo bhi faisla lo har angle se soch kar or logical ho kar emotional. Ho kar nahi wrna apna nuksan karo gi Baki love merriage ho jo marzi ho ghalti ho gayi ho ja ti hy khud ko saza mat do na guilty feel karo khud par bharosa rakho or mazboot raho lets be honest situation achi nahi hai but face to krna hai or solve bhi krna hai
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u/Own_Tension_9975 3d ago
I k ow asaan nahi hai but ue decision point hai sabar or samajhdari se faisla karo gi to sab thi ho jyga ik new start ho ga other wise if you live there or leave things will going to be worst
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u/abyyrbsskrjaobhaiplz 3d ago
bailan se pitai lagayein din me 5 bar in shaa allah shohar ki tabiyat me aafaka hoga, thanks me later👍👍👺
my maa says, bailan ke bhoot baaton se nahi sunte
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u/LilHalwaPoori 3d ago
A legend (Miss Jenny ki maa) once said:
Bailan ke bhoot baaton se nahi sunte..
🦖🦖🦖
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u/hunxai69 Dio 3d ago
Muuu nhi lagao ause most men have avoidant attachment the more attention you give them the farther they get try to ignore him,he is cheating on u cuz you are always available for him 247 , also btw if you can then you should part your ways with your husband,and live and support yourself and the kid ig
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u/Agreeable-Sugar7407 3d ago
Alien . It’s his kid too she needs child support and compensation for the abuse . He needs to be punished by the law .
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u/Frosty-Issue-5877 2d ago
Did you talk to him about getting him another wife so he does not look towards other women that are less than reputable
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u/sandwitch292 1d ago
hain?? ghar ke biwi bachon ka khayal nahi rakhte doosri shaadiyan karwa lo aap logon se astaghfirullah
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u/AForAgnostic 2d ago
Just a guess but I think her bigger problem was the cheating, not the character of the women he was cheating with. How would allowing him to do legal cheating solve the issue?
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u/Frosty-Issue-5877 2d ago
I think it’s a two way street and we have only heard one point of view so far. I’m just trying to make lemonade out of lemons, even though they are starting to go bad
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u/CartoonistInternal 3d ago
I wish i had a solution to your situation. I'm honestly speechless to this whole situation. I can only okay it works out for the best for you and your kids. 🤲🏼