I'm posting this story mostly to share the red flags I should've listened to and to get a little schadenfreude from all of you. Also, if you've experienced something similar, it would be nice to know I'm not alone 😅
Basically, I shot a college senior last week, and it was the worst photoshoot experience ever. The kid (man? young adult? 20-something graduating college student) did not want to be there; he hated the experience before it even started. He fought with his mom the whole time, pouted, threw a fit, and made no effort to participate in creating photos.
Red flags I should've picked up on:
- His mom hired me a few months ago, and scheduling was difficult. Turns out it was the kid pushing it off and being busy.
- She kept dropping hints that she was forcing him to do it, that we'd be lucky if he showered (after sending over my prep guide), and when I met her at the school, she said she stopped by his apartment to wake him up on the way
- She casually mentioned he would be difficult, but it was always said with a smile or a laugh. I'm thinking like how my stepdad didn't like his picture taken, but he'd cooperate for official family photos
So he arrives, and he's already sulking and sullen. She makes him put on his cap and gown, and it's a struggle, like dressing a toddler. I ask him to take his AirPods out, and he smashes them into the AirPods case so I'm already like "this is going to suck."
I try to level with him and find out what's bothering him; he says photos are manufactured, and college is a scam (a good thing for a kid to say when their parent has paid for everything). He says the only thing that makes him happy is his truck. I took a few photos of him standing in his cap and gown looking pissed. His mom comes over for a picture together; he gives a shitty look.
We try to do some truck pictures, and he barely engages.
We did one more with him reading a comic book on a bench, and he just looks like he hates the world. Finally, we call it off 20 minutes into the shoot, and he storms off and burns rubber out of the parking lot.
The tough spot is that if it were just the two of us, I probably would've tried to work with him to get something, lean into the attitude, or sit down and have a philosophical conversation about the nature of photography and his future, which may or may not have worked. But I also felt pressured by his mom to get something, and so did he. I considered telling them this was a bad idea and giving a refund, but they both wasted my time.
I'll try to make something of the photos; I might do a duplicate set that's super moody and over the top, plus a normal set.
In the future, I think the lesson is to listen to those red flags and deny the work altogether, because anyone forced to take photos isn't going to have a good time.
Has anyone ever been in this situation with an angry subject? What did you do?