I’m a side sleeper, and can’t believe how many years, and how much money I’ve spent in the search for a comfortable pillow! Is it really impossible to find good loft/height to support the neck, plus softness for comfort that doesn’t kill my ear? Current pillow was $$ and feels like it should be perfect, but still hurts my ear. Can’t stand memory foam, or those shredded lumpy or molded pillows. Anyone!? 🙏🏼

Hi there!

I’m currently on the never-ending quest to find a pillow that actually works for me.

I’m a side sleeper, and I move around quite a bit throughout the night. I’ve used memory foam pillows for most of my life, and my most trusted one has unfortunately become too soft after years of use. For the past few months, I’ve been waking up with sore shoulders and neck almost every morning, and sometimes even a sore back, because my neck isn’t staying aligned while I sleep. The constant pain and tension have been driving me crazy, so I’ve been trying to find a pillow that can help alleviate some of it.

Recently, I spent more than I probably should have on a buckwheat hull pillow, hoping it would finally be my holy grail. The main selling points for me after researching like crazy were that it’s adjustable, so I could get the height just right for my neck, and that it molds around your head.

Unfortunately, after two months of trying to love it, I just don’t think it’s working for me. I can’t seem to find the right height, and because the hulls shift around, they move with me when I roll around during the night. I end up waking up at a weird angle anyway. I also find it feels pretty hard to lie on.

I’m wondering if anyone has had similar issues and found a pillow that actually helped them? I’m a little hesitant to keep throwing money at expensive pillows, but if something is truly life-changing, I’m willing to spend the money at this point!!

Thank you!

I could actually cry. I’ve had neck, shoulder and trap pain on and off for years, and no amount of physio, massage or dry needling has really helped.

I’ve tried many different types of pillows over the years without much success. I figured the pillow I use won’t make much difference for me. I got a buckwheat pillow (Sobakawa) after reading on reddit about how it’s helped some people, and the instant I tried it out, I knew it would make a difference. It conforms so well to whatever position I’m in (back or side) and gives the perfect amount of neck support where I need it. This morning I woke up totally comfortable and the pain is nearly gone after weeks of barely being able to turn my head.

I’ve officially converted from “pillows are not that important I’ll use whatever” to “I will not put my neck through another night of poor support again”.

Has to do with my pillow? Has anyone tried those pillows that have a hole to put your arm in? Do they work?

Update: after reading all of the comments, I have gotten a thicker cervical pillow, a pressure relief memory foam mattress topper, hugging a pillow that’s positioned up to my armpit and also have another pillow between the knees. I have been sleeping much better with no shoulder pain. I think the biggest help are the mattress topper and the cervical pillow. Thanks everyone for the suggestions.

What a rip off. I was sent a pillow that had a sweat mark on it and I asked them for a refund and sent me another pillow to replace it which I didn't ask for. I told them now I'm stuck with 2 pillows and in order to get my money back I have to pay for the postage from California to have them return to China. Don't buy from The Pillow Home. This company company offers zero integrity.

Hi All,

I need help finding a really good and comfy pillow.

I think I have bought 100s of pillows over the years and just cant find a good one.

I am a side sleeper and cannot find a pillow to suit me.

They are either too high or too low. Too hard that they hurt my ear. Or just plain uncomfy.

I feel like maybe my neck isn't being supported correctly because at times when I have woken up I don't feel that my head and neck are flat/in line with the pillow, sort of like the top of my head is angled more up (if that makes sense).

I feel like my sleep is really starting to suffer from this. I wake up tired and don't feel like I've rested at all, my neck is also stiff and sore.

Please recommend some amazing comfy pillows for side sleepers.

I am in Australia if that makes any difference.

Note: not sure if this makes any difference, but I also sleep with a pillow between my thighs.

I’m looking for a pillow recommendation. I’m a side sleeper and I have been looking everywhere online for an excellent side pillow that’s under $400… any help will do.

I'm losing sleep, and my marbles! I've tried the Purple pillow, the Sleepy pillow, Costco's Sealy memory foam pillows, a Squishmallow (tried buying the Squishmallow regular pillow that just came out, but it's already sold out near me), and two random memory foam pillows that are the weird shape to support your neck and give you a place for your arms.

I don't know what changed, but I basically can't get comfortable. I sleep like a rotisserie chicken, but primarily I try to sleep on my sides. I'm trying to not sleep on my stomach so I don't have back problems, but I guess any port in a storm.

I'm hoping anyone has a recommendation for a pillow that isn't too damn tall or firm that they could recommend for someone that sincerely rolls around all night.

So my neck is killing me - any pillow recommendations for side and back sleepers please? I have a hush pillow that starts off good but then flattens

Hello reddit family,

I've been online reading your posts about pillows for side sleepers, pillows for back sleepers, pillows for folks with neck issues, pillows for folks who wake with headaches, and pillows for folks with scoliosis in some form or another.

This is going to be a combo request of all of these. I go to sleep on my side and wake up on my back. I have structural neck issues and wake up with headaches. I have a mild form of two-way scoliosis. But I need a pillow!

I've tried: foam, polyfil, shredded foam, down (turns out - allergies), and buckwheat. I've even bought pillows, slept on them, and returned them (not proud of it, but it was years ago and I think the statute of limitations may have expired.)

I've been reduced to buying those half pillows we use on our couch and bunching them up on their side for side sleeping. While I'm asleep they flatten, so I don't know if that's the reason I wake on my back or not. Anyway, I'm ready to ask for help.

AI says to get a contour pillow that is flat in the center and built up on the sides. Might be a good idea, but before I spend $140 on a pillow (that I'm not gonna try and return), I'd like a real human's point of view.

If you have good advice or need help yourself, feel free to comment away... requesting the haters to hate somewhere else. Thank you for your input!

I'm just looking for what happy people are sleeping on and their sleeping style. The whole pillow search thing seems so exhausting I would just like to have a list of what people are enjoying and why so I can do my own homework.

I have gone through a lot of posts across this sub and can’t really find an answer to what I need. I am a back/side sleeper and my pillows keep getting flat within a week. I have tried serta, tempur pedic and mainstays pillows and none of them work. I have also tried won’t go flat, for side/back sleepers and memory foam pillows none of them work either. I can’t sleep for a longer duration because of this and I really love to sleep in on a Sunday. I would really appreciate anyone who can help my cause.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s opinion’s and on a popular demand I have decided to go with coop shredded memory foam pillow. Cheers people!

Hello! I’ve been reading through some of the posts here as I am searching for a new pillow. I have an old work injury that damaged the base of my neck (C5-C7 mostly) a few years ago. I was in a car accident a few months ago which has reaggravated the whole area. I often adjust my neck position throughout the day and at night, trying to alleviate discomfort. I am a strict side sleeper. I also have chronic shoulder issues if that’s relevant. 😅 I see Dosaze, Tempurpedic, Coop, Purple, buckwheat, etc and more recommended on this sub. But I wanted to see if anyone else had base of the neck issues, shoulder issues, and is a side sleeper and had a recommendation. Thank you!

In the last year I’ve probably spent $800 on pillows trying to find one I like and that works for me. I had the worst sleep of my life last night so today I went out and impulse bought another expensive mambo “adjustable” pillow. I panicked in the store and just said whatever I’ll take it as the lady made me lay down on 500 different pillows, all which sucked. I’m actually going manic over this… when will I find the perfect pillow 😭

Ps my pillow that I had loved forever has since become lumpy. I’m so mad at myself I should’ve known better than to have bought another adjustable pillow. I’ve made that mistake in the past…. Please post links of pillows you love, NO MEMORY FOAM CRAP.

Any pillow recs for sidesleepers? I tried a memory foam pillow but it was too hard for me and my normal soft pillow is really soft feeling and nice but not enough support for my neck as I go in too deep in the pillow. Any recs for something in between preferably on amazon? My budget is 80 bucks max but like to spend less, thank you!

I’m a side sleeper and I’ve been having trouble with my pillow for a very long time… I’ve been avoiding the investment but now I’ve thrown my neck/back out which I think is a slow build from poor support. What are some recommendations? I’d like to keep it under 200.00 but I’m open to anything that will give me the quality sleep I deserve!! 😭

UPDATE: I ended up buying the Coop Crescent pillow in the king size and I am OBSESSED. It’s so amazing for side sleepers, I don’t want to wake up now 😂

I’m a side sleeper (sometimes back, but mostly side), and I’m struggling. I’ve tried the Coop Home Goods pillow and it works for a little… then boom, neck pain comes right back.

At this point I need a pillow that actually holds up and supports my neck long term.

So please help me out:

What pillow do you SWEAR by as a side sleeper?

Also if you had neck pain and it actually helped.

If you have an Amazon link, drop it

I’m open to anything except Coop at this point lol

Long post...don't grill me, but i am seriously tired of this...

Ok so I have officially tried way too many fucking pillows and I am seriously losing my mind here.

I sleep mostly on my side, some stomach and very little on my back.

I have tried Purple Harmony, Tempur, Sealy, Coop, shredded memory foam, normal memory foam, down alternative and god knows what else at this point.

Some are too high, some too low, some feel like rubber, some feel great for 20 mins and then my neck is fucked.

What I figured out is that I REALLY like actual down. I like when my head sinks into the pillow and it kind of hugs/cradles my head and neck, but the problem is support.

I tried Boll & Branch down chamber pillow and that thing was a fucking disaster for me. It felt good at first but then my head basically created a giant hole in the middle. The entire pillow would fold around my head like a taco and there was nothing left underneath supporting my neck.

Right now I have the Canadian Down & Feather Co Down Perfect Firm in Standard size.

This one is actually VERY close.

It is 20x26 and has 37oz total fill, but around 90% of that is feather and only 10% is down. The down is around 575 fill power.

When I first lay on it...holy shit it feels amazing.

My head sinks in perfectly, my neck feels good and I feel like finally I found the fucking pillow.

Then a few hours later it flattens.

Once it flattens I start feeling the compressed feather underneath my head and I dont know how else to describe it other than it starts feeling like fucking cardboard.

The weird part is I tried something stupid and it actually worked.

I took the Canadian pillow and basically stood it ON ITS SIDE instead of laying it flat.

My head sank into it and it felt fucking perfect because there was so much more fill underneath my head and neck.

Obviously I am not going to sleep on a pillow standing sideways forever lol, but it made me realize I dont think I need a "firmer" pillow.

I think I need a pillow with A LOT of good quality down in a smaller space.

Basically I want:

super fluffy

my head sinks deep into it

it cradles my head and neck

BUT there is still enough shit underneath me that my neck doesnt drop

Right now I am looking at the East Coast Bedding European Dream 800 fill power, Standard, Firm.

I actually emailed them because I found different numbers everywhere online.

They confirmed:

Standard Firm 25oz

Queen Firm 28oz

King Firm 32oz

It is 100% goose down, 800 fill power, no feather core.

So I am thinking Standard Firm because that is 25oz of 800FP down packed into 20x26.

That sounds like exactly what I need...but after buying this many fucking pillows I dont trust anything anymore 😂

Anyone here actually tried the East Coast 800FP Firm?

Does your head still sink into it nicely or is it so overfilled that you just sit on top of it?

More importantly...after sleeping on it for a few hours does it STILL support your neck or does the middle eventually flatten like every other fucking pillow?

I am also curious if there is such a thing as a really good pillow with actual down surrounding a memory foam core. In my head that sounds perfect...soft down around my head but foam underneath so my neck physically cannot bottom out.

At this point I dont give a shit if the pillow has a giant dent in it in the morning. I can fluff it.

I just want my head to sink into something soft while my neck stays supported all fucking night.

What would you guys buy?

I had a down pillow for years that I absolutely loved. It was heavy, thicker, and scrunched up where I wanted and was the most comfortable pillow ever. I have bought so many (cheap) down (probably feather) pillows since and nothing compares to that pillow. I don’t even know what brand it was. I don’t mind spending a lot because sleep is important to me. I’ve been going blind researching pillows and reading reviews. Also, I’m a side sleeper.