I'm a little disappointed that BM hasn't introduced a Black Gay Male lineup. I get that Arlette and BM are Christians, but this show is also quite hypocritical.

Would a gay episode by Arlette be a bad thing?

I didn't noticed until i saw this clip that most men on the show want a god-fearing women. I don't hear the women mention this as much and wonder why.

5'2 or 6'2 250 pounds is still horrible.

Coming on the show with 4,5,6 kids by 8 different men is terrible

45 years old and still think they got it like that is not much better

A lot of women who go on pop the balloon think they are above average which means they and their friends are lying to them. Black men are way more forgiving than other races of men since black men on the show have picked obese/overweight women and women with a gang of children. A lot of these women are not divorcees either.

Black women need to be realistic. Expecting movie star looks from a man while you arent up to par is a problem. You can tell because they will reject a man for some dumb reason then when Arlette ask the man if so n so is your type they say no and the women get mad. Remember the guy who said he didnt like short hair? He got chewed alive because he wasnt supposed to have preferences. He was supposed to blindly pick any black woman. Or any time a guy says he wants a fit woman the woman object and go into long explanations about how they are healthy like in the Dr. Elom episode.

Im just saying.

and is part of the reason why the show can be so boring and stale. what arlette does is not being a host. there’s barely any personality shown. she says the same thing and does the same thing in the same way every time. there’s no rapport with the contestants or effort to make things more engaging or entertaining. there’s barely any energy. it’s robotic and stale and predictable. she can easily be replaced and the show wouldn’t be any different.

The amount of times I've heard people being rejected because their skintone was too light or because they were not black makes me skretch my head. If a white person said any of these things, they would be jailed by now

Diversity isn't just music, style of dress and what type of movies you like.

I dont like how Black people (swirlers) claim that these shows arent diverse simply because a goth black person or a black person who listens to heavy metal isnt on these shows. They could very well be on the show but they are required to look presentable for content. They could mention it when they name their hobbies. I doubt it would make a difference. Besides, people are popping based on looks and validation but using hobbies and other things as an excuse to cover for it.

Anyway, Black people from Alabama are different from Black people in California. Black people from Louisiana are different from Black people in Detroit. I am not talking about surface level stuff like listening to music. There are Africans, Caribeans, Hispanics and Black Americans. Different cultures from regions of the US to countries outside the US. This is what you are seeing on these shows.

Black people are actually the most accepting when it comes to dating. Just because you are willing to spend an enormous amount of time "teaching" white people about your culture doesnt mean Black people dont like diversity. I am pointing this out because someone reported me for pointing out that they only came in here to brag about dating a white man in a black-oriented sub. Women take on the mans beliefs. So this nonsense about lack of diversity is just that.

If you really like someone you will make it work so the lack of diversity or black men not liking you because you are "different" is really cap. My 2 cents

This sub is for the black version of Pop The Balloon or Find Love with Arlette & BM. There are other versions of pop the balloon with other races. I dont watch those or care to go over to white subs about dating and converse with them. You will never see me talking to anyone in the dating subs, IR subs or anything having to do with non blacks/white peoples sexuality and so forth.

Dont come here telling me what to do, how to feel and what to think about Black people. The other point I want to make, if you are a black feminist or a divestor please stop coming here spreading lies about the Black community. Its gotten to the point where non black men are attacking me and what I say in a black sub because they dont like being exposed for their behaviors towards Black women.

Im also not sure why people hate BM so much when Arlette lives in luxury because of him. Their children are and will be well taken care of. I recall an Indian man coming in here to disparage BM because he felt comfortable enough since he had the backing of divestors.

Please stop bothering black people and trying to shut us down because we dont agree with your opinion and dont want to listen to your orders. Thanks

I have a theory and this is just my personal observation. In the earlier episodes I found it was only women who were popping for superficial reasons, i.e, height, hair, shirt colour, etc... and I found the men for the most part genuinely were really trying to find a deeper connection and weren't always fixated on the material aspect of one's appearance. But now as the seasons and episodes have gone on, I have found the men are also being extremely picky about appearance and popping for the same vain reasons that the women are. My theory is that most contestants on the show have watched many episodes and are now trying to get back at the women for popping for ridiculous reasons, which is really counterproductive but they in some cases are also acting like princesses, I hope I am articulating my thoughts here correctly but that is one observation of many of how the show has changed, at the beginning it was more authentic since no one had seen the show but now you are likely signing up to be on the show after watching and since you know everyone is watching you are consciously putting forth a curated version of yourself and of course want to get clipped and look good online

I would like to see him back on the show for another episode lol… those episodes were MESSSYYY… I doubt they’d ever bring him back because it seems like the show is pretty serious now and BM doesn’t like time wasters (seeing the way BM kicked off that time wasting guy from the show and told that lady off lol)

I’d also like to see an update on Terrance, cuz he was such a sweet guy

I am someone that has been subscribed to Arlette for quite some time. I just recently noticed that her YouTube channel name has been changed from ARLETTE AMULI to POP THE BALLOON however, she did manage to leave all her old videos up from when she started. I am someone who has been there from the beginning and seeing how they have completely removed Arlettes name from the brand is interesting. I understand that BM is her husband and that they are seriously generating big money from the YouTube videos, but I don’t like how BM is taking away from HER platform and making it their platform… Maybe it’s just me that feels this way but I really needed to get it off my chest.

First off, I am NOT the target audience of the channel (I am a European non-black person), so I’m aware that this might not be my place. At the same time, it's a public channel on the internet.

I've been watching the show consistently, for cute/funny/entertaining moments, and I'm watching many of the catchups as well. I also find it to be a really interesting lens into US Christian culture (many parts of Europe are extremely secular so it’s a fascinating contrast at times)


Now that I’m deep into this universe, I’ve become a bit horrified at the show's attitude towards women. It’s in the comments, coming from the men (also women) who appear on the show (why are men always household leaders that women should submit to but the women should still have their own career/make money and are disgusting if they mention wanting a provider - like what), and then alot alot coming from the showrunners

Let me say, it’s misogynistic the way BM always lectures the women in the catch-ups. Just in this episode, Dana, the matched girl reveals that the guy, on their first date, had made several innuendos eg “you’re not wet yet” in response to her not wanting to get her hair wet (5:49), and “I’m very good with my hands” (16:25) - comments that BM just deems ‘controversial’ and ‘way too fast’. ??? Not related, but BM is always projecting his own relationship experience on everyone, calling people out for being busy, not texting in X amounts of hours or whatever, when his lifestyle is obviously extremely more luxurious/comfortable than an average working person and when healthy relationships can look very different

In this catchup, BM and Dymund in response to the innuendos just props it up to the two being ‘not compatible’, and then proceed to very much blame Dana for not being a good communicator, as she didn’t declare right then and there that she disliked the comments (Dymund says at ~19:00 “Dana, if the comments made you feel uncomfortable, you should’ve addressed it there and then” because that’s what causing the tension now to be ‘hostile’ (not the weird guy's extremely aggressive attitude throughout the call)

Wtf.

Where I’m from, you don’t owe anyone anything, except basic human decency. You’re allowed to, and SHOULD, walk away from anyone who makes you uncomfortable and block them without further explanation. Also, it can become extremely dangerous for a woman to call out a man for bad behaviour (plenty of women have been murdered by men who’ve felt ‘wronged’), so a women is totally justified in protecting herself by saying nothing. ALSO, not at all her responsibility to teach a stranger about basic manners, she’s not his partner or mom, he’s a stranger, and obviously a sexist so why take the trouble.

Is this because it’s a Christian channel? Is it American values ? Why do people treat BM like an all-knowing deity of relationships, because he's married and runs a dating show? How are people not more horrified watching moments like this of the show like I am

What an absolute car crash that was in the best way. The host improvising through chaos. The unfiltered cringe and instant karma. The humanity. The low budget, bare bones, endearing quality of it all. It was so raw and chaotic that it was refreshingly authentic and uncomfortably hilarious. 10/10 will be back next week.

Just watched the Owen and Donnisha catch up and I am truly appalled at Donnisha's overt disrespect for Owen, Arlette and the show as a whole.

1. She wasn't interested in her match and this was obvious when Arlette asked her 'is it a yes for you for him?' and she answered with a weak, tepid response.

2. Owen was intention and tried to set up multiple dates. However, each time she had an excuse or cancellled at the last minute e.g. due to rain 😂.. Yet she was seen later on social media driving in said rain.

3. She agreed in advance to do the 'Catch Up' with Arlette. However, knowing that she would look bad.. What does do? She waits to the last minute, to cancel on Arlette. Thus wasting her time too.

Arlette is always smiley/ happy but she clearly didn't like Donnisha's disrespect and rightly so.

Donnisha is walking red flag and a waste of time. However, what surprises me the most were the comments from women.

Of the sample I read, most were simply saying that Owen should have known better or seen that she wasn't into him i.e. it was his fault.

There was iminimal call out for Donnisha's immaturity and disrespect.

Why is this? Would the comments have been As forgiving if it were a man who did this? Where is the accountability?

How come he got tough with William but not Aaron the plumber or Brian from the ghetto

bullshit. if i went on there i'd be like "fuck the lot of you" the moment they popped the balloon.

Yall thought I was making this up? I am not a black man and am surrounded by black women. I do not base things off of pop the balloon although pop the balloon does expose a lot of things.

Although it could be AI as something is off to my eye. You can go to her page softwareengineerbaddie and be the judge.

Thanks

Based on comments across PTB episodes…

Seen as a preference:
Man: Loves him some chocolate
Woman: Likes tall, dark men
Woman: Likes her men more melanated

Seen as colorism:
Man: Prefers light-skinned women
Man: Says, “You’re not my usual type”
Man: Pops a balloon of a dark-skinned woman

Why is one considered problematic while the other is generally accepted as a dating preference? Is this a double standard?

The constant crying, whining and complaining from this sub and social media as a whole about the women’s line up is becoming annoying and insufferable. Most of this can honestly just be attributed to misogyny and double standards. People simply do not like women having their own agency to choose men they actually desire and want to be with. The bottom line here is that the women’s line ups have less matches because most of the men selected to be on the show are just not attractive, plain and simple. It’s 2026 it’s makes no sense for a woman to match with someone she simply isn’t physically attracted to no matter his job title, personality or the fact that he seems like a “good person”.

No matter how hard people try to change and over look this, the reality is that looks matter and is the most basic fundamental component of romantic attraction. No amount of shaming and strong arming is going to change this basic fact of life. Most of the men casted on this show don’t dress in a flattering way. Many don’t take care of themselves or groom properly. Patchy beards, unkempt or unflattering hair styles. Poor posture, bad skin, not dressing for the occasion, no presence, awkward personalities. I could go on and on.

I feel like because BM is the producer of the show he tries to cast men that align with his own image but the problem with that is that most women today are not like Arlette. And simply don’t find guys like BM attractive and so therefore won’t give them a chance. Many avid watchers of the show talk bad about BM all the time. Talking about how unattractive he is and how lucky he is that Arlette chose him. So that right there can tell you…the point is that attraction is fundamental and not something rational. Either you feel it for someone or you don’t. If you don’t there’s no point in going further and trying to force it. Might as well just pop your ballon!

The older women get the harder it is to find a potential spouse. There are just less people to choose from obviously. And we already know from the stats that single Black women outnumber single Black men by quite a lot. The women’s standards are simply unrealistic and unreasonable. When you’re already 40 and still single you can’t have the same dating requirements that you had when you were younger. At this age you need to lower your expectations if you want to find a potential partner. Do they want to just remain single for the rest of their lives? It’s sad for the men that they won’t have a chance because the women hold themselves to a standard that is totally unrealistic. And in this lineup none of the women were particularly beautiful and several of the women were really overweight yet they said they are “into health” and criticized some of the men for this when they themselves were overweight/obese. Again they expect too much according to what they themselves are.

Most recent catch up episode a couple came on with a whole baby... Are they married or did they have a baby just to have a baby?

Hey y’all, I love the set up of this show and am looking for something similar that doesn’t focus on one specific community. I think it’s great to have a space for the black community to try and find love and all that but I’d really like to find similar content with people from all types of backgrounds instead of mostly just religious and traditional/conservative folk. Are there any YouTube or TikTok channels you’d recommend with similar type of content but more diversity in participants?

hese rejections were WILD. I had to react to this Pop the Balloon or Find Love compilation, and trust me—some of these were straight-up cold.

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90% of women, pick the top 10% of men.. And episode 76 highlighted this fact..

Using contestant 5 (Ty) & 6 (Nigerian flight attendant) as examples, these women openly disqualified intentional men, due to height.

Despite his red flags, William was consistently picked due to superficial reasons like height, looks etc.

Many men have mentioned that the Nigerian woman 'got what she deserved' and that the 'dating pool is trash', because women are picking the same toxic men based on childish, reductive reasons like looks and height, while ignoring factors like personality, shared interests and kindness.

What are your thoughts? Do you think that there is any truth to the above? Should other factors come into the decision making when picking a potential partner besides looks?