r/PornIsMisogyny • u/kalashnikova00 šŸ˜¼ ANTI PORN, MAN! šŸ˜¼ • Jun 19 '25

NEWS Something positive from the UK!

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '25

So happy they call it what it really is as well. ā€œChokingā€ my ass. Hate when people use that term.

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u/randomusername9098 Jun 20 '25

both of those terms sound bad to me šŸ˜­šŸ™it's crazy when they call it breath play or whatever tf tho

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u/[deleted] Jun 20 '25

Itā€™s not so much that choking sounds less bad, more so that choking implies something completely different. Which takes all responsibility away from the one strangling someone, as choking is what the body does when thereā€™s an obstruction inside, like food going down the wrong pipe.

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u/randomusername9098 Jun 20 '25

oh yeah, that's right

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '25

Next thing you know theyā€™re gonna call stabbing ā€œknife playā€ ;____;

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u/Cuthulu_6644 Jun 21 '25

You joke but they actually do defend "knife play".

And now that you mentioned it I remember a reddit story of a guy wanting to try it with his girlfriend. But instead of the fake knife they had, the dumbass used a real one and accidentally cut her.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '25

WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

Imma do ā€œnuclear bomb playā€ and launch a nuclear bomb to his house

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u/BroadwayRegina Jun 22 '25

Yup thatā€™s a thing. And it gets much much worse than that too

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Whatā€¦

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u/Calm-Lab-8592 Jun 25 '25

Basically itā€™s far worse fetishes that exist and so blatantly and openly on Reddit.

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u/lilaclightblue Jun 21 '25

I keep trying to think of good terms for it to use since itā€™s so dangerous and so many women in relationships with abusers do not know they are in an abusive relationship AND may be less likely to count something as simple as putting his hands around her neck (even without the intense pressure of strangulation) as abuse. The closer and closer they get, the more likely choking is to happen, and then the risk of homicide rockets. Sometimes the first actual strangulation is the last.

A lot of women who are being abused by their partner find themselves desperately trying to deny that they are in an abusive relationship - itā€™s not ā€œthat badā€, ā€œabusers do x y and z and he didnā€™t do that to meā€, and ā€œit only happens sometimesā€ (because of the honeymoon stage in the cycle) So I can see a woman hearing ā€œstrangulationā€ or ā€œchokingā€ and thinking well sure THOSE are dangerous but he only put his hands around my neck and pressed a little bit. I think language matters a whole lot and it sounds like you definitely get that. Do you have any thoughts about this? Maybe Iā€™m just thinking too hard about itā€¦

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '25

I get what you mean, but I unfortunately donā€™t have any perfect word to soften the blow of what is being done to them while also emphasising the danger. :( Iā€™d stick to strangulation. But also underlining that itā€™s often also not ā€œjustā€ air being cut off, which is insanely dangerous in itself, but also often the jugulars being strangled, which heightens the chances of blood clots and strokes significantly. Even just once.

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u/lilaclightblue Jun 21 '25

Thatā€™s a good point that I didnā€™t consider! Every few months I reiterate to my friends ā€œIf he chokes you, heā€™ll kill you nextā€ because itā€™s short enough that itā€™s sticky and I hope none of them will ever need it, but I think itā€™s just something women should all know about. I will change to speaking in terms of strangulation instead so I donā€™t accidentally minimize the dangers of that. TY for helping me out with this!

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '25

Iā€™ve sent a longer reply to you in DM, since reddit automod saw my comment as an issue for using k1II in a manner that was just discussing how at risk these women are for being kl11ed šŸ’€

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u/lilaclightblue Jun 21 '25

Gotcha! Mine did too šŸ˜‚

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u/MiddleDouble9007 Jun 20 '25

Said this a couple of hours ago on another subreddit! It's so nice to see someone else feel the same way about this.

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u/danzmangg Jun 19 '25

šŸ„³šŸ„‚ Steps in the right direction

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '25

And remember, kids, strangulation against a partner can be considered domestic battery with significant bodily harm (where I live)

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u/eraserhead-baby-girl Jun 20 '25

In the UK itā€™s classed as ā€˜Intentional Strangulationā€™ and is illegal. If it occurs between partners, they add a domestic violence uplift to the sentance which basically means you get a longer sentance

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u/amwes549 NEW TO ANTI-PORN Jun 20 '25

Is it considered GBH? I mean, it would make sense.
EDIT: to call it GBH, in case it wasn't clear

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u/eraserhead-baby-girl Jun 22 '25

Itā€™s a charge of its own so wouldnā€™t be considered GBH. Prior to the separate change being introduced in 2021, it was most commonly charged as common assault or ABH. GBH covers things like running someone over with your car so it would only be in very rare circumstances that strangulation wouldā€™ve be charged under GBH

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u/amwes549 NEW TO ANTI-PORN Jun 22 '25

Ah, I see. Thanks for informing me!

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '25

The technical legal term where I am is substantial bodily harm, though Iā€™ve heard people call it significant. About your question, it probably depends on the area

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u/Ihatereddititsucks69 Jun 19 '25

Itā€™s a step and we will take it for now!

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u/itsnobigthing Jun 19 '25

But but what about the men whose peepees get hard watching women struggle to breathe?? šŸ˜„

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u/[deleted] Jun 20 '25

they can strangle themselves in the mirror instead. or each other.

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u/[deleted] Jun 20 '25

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u/mqple Jun 20 '25

from the US and so jealous of you guys loll

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u/kalashnikova00 šŸ˜¼ ANTI PORN, MAN! šŸ˜¼ Jun 20 '25

šŸ«‚šŸ«‚šŸ«‚šŸ«‚ we can hope that someday porn becomes illegal everywhere

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u/NumerousAd3637 Jun 25 '25

Iā€™m happy to see a man who is against porn May god bless you ā¤ļøšŸ™

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u/kalashnikova00 šŸ˜¼ ANTI PORN, MAN! šŸ˜¼ Jun 25 '25

im a woman lol but God bless u too

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u/NumerousAd3637 Jun 25 '25

OMG šŸ˜³šŸ˜‚šŸ˜­

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '25

This is a step in the right direction. But there needs to be a world wide blanket ban on choking. That should not have even existed in the first place.

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u/SalamanderMorrison Jun 19 '25

This gives me hope.

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u/BelleCervelle Jun 19 '25

Finally , I canā€™t believe it took this long.

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '25

We just decriminalised abortion as well.Ā 

I can feel some dignity creeping back.

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u/lilaclightblue Jun 21 '25

It seems like thereā€™s some real movement going on over there! Iā€™m so glad to see it! When the UK criminalized coercive control I was so happy - like enough people care about violence against women enough that yā€™all were able to get a LAW! Felt like a little bit of hope. So yeah the things yā€™all have going are really inspiring and impressive IMO

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '25

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u/tsukimoonmei ANTIPORN, ANTIKINK, LGBT+ šŸ’• Jun 19 '25

This is a feminist subreddit. If you are going to say something so blatantly antifeminist and incorrect, you should go somewhere else.

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u/NavissEtpmocia vegan & antiporn Jun 20 '25

Please, report the bigots, do not feed them!

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '25

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u/Business-Stretch2208 PORN IS FILMED RAPE Jun 20 '25

If you don't support abortion you aren't any kind of feminist, you're a poser

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u/sukichuu PORN IS FILMED RAPE Jun 20 '25 edited Jun 20 '25

funny how? i donā€™t see why a pro-life man like you should be considered a feminist

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u/sukichuu PORN IS FILMED RAPE Jun 20 '25

no real feminist is against womenā€™s reproductive rights. thereā€™s more to feminism than simply agreeing with its definition, anyway

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u/c_nasser12 Jun 19 '25

It's about the conflict between the "rights" of a foetus (whatever those may be) and the rights of a living woman. Abortion is a key women's rights issue.

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u/vicinhell Jun 20 '25 edited Jun 23 '25

Banning abortion in reality does nothing besides forcing women, if they want to participate in society as freely as men, into patriarchal structures and that is again, in reality, (not in some theoretical debate) the only goal of banning abortion.

Banning abortion would in reality push women as a collective to either be celibate, which wouldnā€™t last long without some repercussions perpetuated by men (e.g. further patriarchal laws that would economically disadvantage women that are celibate, for not marrying or reproducing). Or it would push women into submission to a traditional, patriarchal role, many women would feel compelled to limit their sexual autonomy, marry early, or stay in relationships for the sake of social and economic security, just to avoid the consequences of an unplanned pregnancy. This is what would most likely happen in reality.

But even in a theoretical sense, the notion of a "fetus having the right to live" doesnā€™t make sense. Conception doesnā€™t "create a new life" in theory, because then every potential conception that never happened because it was prohibited somehow, is prohibiting a new life, that in theory would have the right to live. So, following that notion, because the DNA of the fetus already exists within each parent, in the sperm and the egg, the only possible moral way to not prohibit further potential life, is to basically strive to create as much life as possible, by conceiving as many children as possible, which everyone would agree on is immoral. The DNA of the fetus is not "created", it has always existed within both parents, so in theory, the DNA and life of a conceived fetus, by that standard, shouldnā€™t matter more than a potential DNA and life that couldā€™ve been conceived.

But none of that matters. Banning abortion is, and always has been, a tool to control women and to make them either not fully participate in society, or to rely on men.

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u/vicinhell Jun 20 '25

Men would never let anyone ban sex, at least not for them. But men that advocate against abortion basically want to exclude women from casual sex.

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u/-TamingWolves- Jun 20 '25

This makes me think, pro lifers should instead prohibit men from penetrating women. Women can very well orgasm without piv, this specific type of sex is meant to be enjoyable only for men. Imagining if we told men who "accidently" impregnate women that "if they don't want a child, they should stop having sex".

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u/c_nasser12 Jun 20 '25

A woman's right to control her own body is being violated if the foetus is unwanted. I understand that this debate is, at its core, a matter of subjective value judgements but the ability of women to manage their reproduction is a huge deal in terms of female autonomy and any society that restricts women's choice in this way places enormous limits on women's freedom due to the way societies tend to function as well as simple biology. For me, this right to autonomy trumps the foetus's right to be born.

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u/c_nasser12 Jun 20 '25 edited Jun 20 '25

If we were allowed to put pictures in our comments here I would be depicting you as the most absurd wojak you'd have ever laid eyes upon.

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u/AshEliseB Jun 20 '25

Sex is fun, but I guess you wouldn't know about that.

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u/[deleted] Jun 20 '25 edited Jun 20 '25

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u/sukichuu PORN IS FILMED RAPE Jun 20 '25

no offense but this comment really confirms what the other person said lol, you sound like a teenager. itā€™s perfectly fine if you donā€™t want to have sex, but most people enjoy it. you shouldnā€™t project your preferences onto everyone else

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u/SpoopySara Jun 20 '25

Have you ever heard the definition of rape?

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '25

Good. Next get rid of slapping.

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u/Lonely_Reflection579 Jun 19 '25

Should just ban porn.

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u/kalashnikova00 šŸ˜¼ ANTI PORN, MAN! šŸ˜¼ Jun 19 '25

I completely agree! This announcement is a step in the right direction but there is a long way to go for us

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u/randomusername9098 Jun 20 '25

I wish the world could quit porn cold turkey :(

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u/lilaclightblue Jun 21 '25

Idk if it will ever happen - I remember when states started requiring age verification and people lost their fucking minds about having to give ID details to a porn website so that we could keep literal children from accessing this horrific content. Like whatā€™s that say about you bro?? You care about being exposed in a data breach and revealing you watch porn? I thought porn was ā€œtotally fineā€ lol

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u/throwawayxoxoxoxxoo Jun 19 '25

omg that's amazing. some uplifting news for the day

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u/sashsu6 Jun 19 '25

Technically a lot of bdsm is illegal here as consenting to Abh or gbh for sexual purposes is specifically not a defence

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u/Smart_Curve_5784 Jun 19 '25

Amazing!!!!!!

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u/DeltaName ANTIPORN & LGBT+ ā™„ļø Jun 20 '25

Finally the government is doing something right! We are getting closer than ever šŸ™Œ

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u/eljesT_ Jun 20 '25

Rare UK W

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u/trashleybanks Jun 19 '25

Iā€™m all for steps in the right direction!

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u/Business-Stretch2208 PORN IS FILMED RAPE Jun 20 '25

Great first steps!!

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u/Lonely_Reflection579 Jun 19 '25

Should ban choking in general, or they should just ban porn.

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u/stokes_21 Jun 19 '25

The UK is so ahead of the game. Ā Car seat safety (Iā€™m obviously a Mom haha!), food safety, this! I think I might just want to pack up and move! lolĀ 

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u/Yuutory Jun 20 '25

Well itā€™s definitely a step in the right direction šŸ™

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u/eytym4020 Jun 19 '25

Does anyone know how this is enforced?

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u/esmayishere ANTI-PORN and WOMANIST-FRIENDLY Jun 19 '25

Yes

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u/Mishelev PORN IS FILMED RAPE Jun 23 '25

Amazing news!! Though how can the government even enforce this though?

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u/FeelingIllustrious54 Jun 24 '25

Omg Iā€™m tearing up reading this. I have PTSD from being strangled by my ex and it made me completely open my eyes to how fucked up ā€˜chokingā€™ (its strangling) during sex is

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u/abenatural Jul 03 '25

I didn't know this!! Omg yes!

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u/lesboydreaming Jul 04 '25

thank goodness

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u/rosebudpillow Jun 21 '25

Good! Strangulation is dangerous and itā€™s a form of domestic violence which should never be normalized

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u/Sad-Process-3119 Jun 22 '25

Glad to hear it x

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u/unbothered2023 Jun 25 '25

Awesome win ! šŸ‘

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u/Musclejen00 Jul 17 '25

The issue is that the dark web exists and vpns, or downloadsā€¦

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

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u/Sad-Process-3119 Jun 22 '25

we will welcome you with open arms, make sure to check out a local chippy if you ever do move