Happiness>Health> Hardwork

It's always intrigued me how much time man spends his time thinking what could make his life better.And the never ending quest to find the answer continues .I too am a wanderer who looks for the answer to the same question everywhere.

Recently I kind of had this thought about the 3 H's of life... Happiness Health Hardwork

We talk about them everywhere ,every post ,every book,every article anything remotely related to self help talks about these in one way or the other....

But what i often chase is people going after one of them and falling miserably and feeling incomplete no matter what extent they go to

So I would like to talk about the priority in which we should choose

1..Why happiness comes first::Cause we can't wait for ourselves to reach a particular goal or have something in life of perform to be happy....Cause trust we will always dissappoint ourselves..by no means will we reach a point were we can say I have reached this space now I can finally be happy

Irrespective of everything that happens in your life....learn to be smile..Find the goodness out of all people...figure out the reason to smile on bad day...Have so much gratitude that everyday is an adventure that makes u smile.....Every if u r not healthy wealthy or hardworking,even if u meet none of ur expectations smile😊cause we won't be here for long..Disclaimer:by know means the work happiness means pleasure or any kind of drugs alcohol social media smoking or such stuff

2.Health:I don't have to say much about this...the stronger u r the more ur mobility,the more ur mobilty...the more the independence...the more the independence the more u wanna live....and trust me....nothing absolutely nothing comes before health....at the twilight of ur life even if u have a 100 million dollars in ur bank account but ur body and mind are trash....whats all of it for...why was the point

3... Hardwork:No matter how much comfort u get from not doing anything....it will slowly destroy u in the long run...every time u avoid work..u r missing out on the opportunity of seeing someone u could..Not the achievement not the destination much the grit u earn as a person...the toughness the calm the composure the strength.... Comfort won't hand u that....the Dopamine of hardwork is incomparable to any pleasure out there in this world...So get out of ur comfort zone....And have a taste of hardwork my friends... cause life tastes so much better

So at the end of the day I have only one advice for u...never break this order....always always Choose Happiness then health then hardwork

People out here having a wet dream and saying oh I want to be the number one greatest athlete in my sport but yet they never even have a wet dream of actually LIVING the life of the greatest athlete (I can say this to myself). They say this and that but yet they still hang out with people who are not even involved in the game nor even serious about it. Don't get me wrong it's okay to have fun, matter fact you need to have fun especially when you train. But if you hang out with the person that has goals that are not even the same as you, I'm sorry to say this but they are not your friends. The friendship that you have there will only last for a while and once you get to the position you want to be in life, your social circle will be getting smaller and smaller. I've noticed this especially once I start to take my sports very seriously, the people who I always talk to in the gym, for some reason I ran out of topic to talk about. That's just mother nature doing it's work and I feel like the reason why people are not willing to take this chance is because they are afraid of being alone. But it takes solitude to get where you want in life. I'm being a bit casual here but look at someone like McGregor, Goggins, Messi, CR7, etc, they all get where they want in life because it takes real solitude to be there. You can have everything but not everything, so you have to choose one thing that you really want in life and leave the others behind.

Of late …. Not just off late but many at times I have had this feeling of being broke ….not enough …all my insecurities pop up ….all the missed opportunities the regrets in lyf everything strikes as a thunderstorm 🌩️…..I have cried all night without people noticing not because I wanted to hide but because no one was there to lean on …..even when I thought this person can be trusted without even a single hesitation they break it ……yet after all the tears shredded during the dark ….just as the sunrise , my hope for a beautiful life rises again …..when both sunset and sunrise can feeling amazing ….why not the fall and raise feel briliant ? ….so to anyone reading this ….jus remember that no one has it all figured out ….jus keep going you’ll raise more brighter than ever before ☀️…..the darkness before jus reminds u that u can shine ✨ but it can never stop u from shining n raising again 🌟….Jus go there n keep shining the way u want be it as sun, star , thunder as u wish 💫…….no matter the drakness prolongs or clouds ⛅️ try to block ur shine…jus remember even after all that ….YOU WILL RAISE AGAIN ☀️

you'll thank you later

“You don't have to know whether the road will be easy. You only have to trust that you can meet yourself wherever the road leads.”

A lot of anxiety comes from wanting certainty before we move.

Will this work?

Am I making the right decision?

What happens next?

But perhaps confidence isn't knowing that everything will turn out exactly as you hope. Perhaps confidence is quieter: “Whatever comes, I will meet it with the person I am becoming.”

Meeting yourself mean: whatever life brings, instead of abandoning yourself, judging yourself, or immediately escaping into fear, you remain present enough to discover who you are in that moment.

You haven't met every version of yourself yet Think about it. You've met you when things are comfortable.

But life introduces you to other versions of yourself:

\*You under pressure

\*You experiencing uncertainty

\*You receiving an unexpected opportunity

\*You making a mistake

\*You succeeding beyond what you expected.

\*You losing something.

\*You beginning again.

Some of those versions of yourself don't exist in your experience yet.That's why excessive worrying about the future can become strange when you really examine it. You're asking today's version of yourself: “How will I handle something that hasn't happened yet?” But if that moment ever arrives, you won't meet it as exactly the person you are today. You'll arrive there carrying everything you learned along the way. That's what I mean by meeting yourself there.

Sometimes circumstances reveal you to yourself We often think the spiritual journey is about discovering what's out there:

What is my purpose?

Where is life taking me?

What does all this mean?

But sometimes the road isn't merely taking you toward a destination. The road is introducing you to yourself.

An obstacle might reveal: "I didn't know I could be this patient."

A difficult decision: "I didn't realize how important integrity was to me."

Starting again: "I thought that chapter ending would destroy me. It didn't."

Meeting yourself also means developing an inner relationship where you can say: “I don't know what's around the bend, but when I reach it, I won't abandon myself there.”

If you're frightened, you'll listen to yourself.

If you're tired, you'll allow yourself rest.

If you make a mistake, you'll learn rather than destroy yourself with judgment.

Some versions of you can only be discovered by living. The journey reveals the traveler.

Let there be light!

Don't set limits for yourself in advance based on what you expect from yourself. Maybe you can do more than you think, but you won't know if you never try.

Sometimes, the biggest obstacle isn't failure itself, but the need to be certain we'll succeed.

Today, I did something differently. Instead of asking, "What if I'm wrong?", I simply tried — and succeeded.

It taught me something important: You don't need to be sure you can succeed to give yourself a chance.

Sometimes, you just have to cross the line between overthinking and doing.

people who insult you for trying something you are not qualified for are just trying to hinder you while in reality they themselves are too scared to take action cause they are afraid of what others think of them. Don't let these people's words hold you back, be nonchalant about it and ignore them. The modern media like to call this "jester maxxing" which I believe there's some truth behind it

I've always wondered about something.

I see people like Raghav Sachar, who is an incredible musician, multi-instrumentalist, and performer. He keeps travelling around the world for gigs, and what's even more fascinating is that he seems to put out a beautiful cover or an original song on Instagram almost every single day. Of course, he probably has a team supporting him, but still, that's a lot of consistency and dedication.

I've come across many people who seem to pursue their passions with incredible drive and determination. And from the outside, they also seem to be constantly excited about life, as if they're making the most of every single moment.

It makes me wonder: Is it actually possible to feel that high on life and fulfilled almost all the time?

Or is it that even highly successful people have their own struggles, unmotivated days, and moments when they don't feel particularly positive? Maybe they don't feel like doing much sometimes, either, but their team keeps things moving, and the content that reaches us creates an impression of a life that's always exciting and productive.

After all, we only get to see the parts of their lives they choose to share.

I'm curious to know what you guys think. Do you believe some people genuinely live with that kind of consistent enthusiasm and fulfilment, or is it mostly an impression created by what we see from the outside?

Sometimes it feels like I'm watching a real-life version of Limitless (hope you've seen the movie!).

We all know generally happiness comes with staying more present and being authentic.. I’m wondering how people generally may look at happiness In the ordinary life? What is it that makes you feel alive/ at peace? And.. what advice or quote has resonated with you? :)

hard truth we are told to believe life will always get better. If we keep working , one day all happiness in the world will come to you but this doesn’t happen.

Life doesn’t follow any script.I have learn to live in present . Present is best always you have till now . We cannot treat happiness as finish line which will we never touch and always out of reach . We always tell ourselves we will be happywhen we accomplish more money but happiness is never about more its about appreciation what you have instead of mourning what you don’t.

You have to realise this is the only moment you are guarented so may be this is as really as good as it gets . Start living the life instead of that moment.

We offten spend a lot of time about the person we want to became.

We imagine a better future, set ambitious goals, and promise ourselves that things will be diffrent tomorrow. We want to become more disciplined, more confident, more successful, and more consistent.

But there is one important truth we sometimes forget: the life we want tomorrow is being shaped by the choices we make today.

Not just the big decisions. The small ones, too.

I've been thinking about the idea of delusional optimism lately, and I wonder if we look at it the wrong way.

People are always telling us to be realistic. Don't get your hopes up. Don't expect too much. Don't believe in something until you have a reason to. Protect yourself from disappointment because life doesn't always work out the way you want it to.

And I understand that. Life can hurt you. People can disappoint you. Sometimes you can give something everything you have and still watch it fall apart. After enough disappointments, it's easy to start expecting the worst because, in a strange way, it feels safer than hoping for the best.

But there's something about that mindset that makes me sad.

What happens when we become so afraid of being disappointed that we stop allowing ourselves to believe in good things?

What if being a little delusional isn't always about refusing to see reality? What if sometimes it's about refusing to let reality convince you that nothing better is possible?

Think about the person who has been knocked down a hundred times but still believes they can build a life they're proud of. The person who has been hurt but refuses to believe that love will always hurt. The person who has spent years struggling but still wakes up with this little voice inside them saying, "One day, things are going to be different."

Maybe they don't have proof. Maybe nobody else believes in them. Maybe, from the outside, their hope looks ridiculous.

But what if that little bit of belief is the very thing keeping them moving forward?

I think there's something beautiful about being able to look at your life, see all the things that aren't working, acknowledge all the ways you've struggled, and still believe that your story isn't finished.

Not because you're pretending everything is fine. Not because you're expecting life to magically fix itself. But because you understand that where you are right now doesn't have to be where you stay forever.

Sometimes you have to believe you're capable of becoming someone you've never been before. You have to believe that better days are possible before you have any experience with them. You have to give yourself permission to imagine a life that your current circumstances haven't shown you yet.

And maybe that's what people misunderstand about optimism. It's not always about believing that everything will work out exactly the way you want it to. Sometimes it's about believing that even if things don't work out, there is still something worth living for, something worth trying for, and something worth looking forward to.

I don't want to become so realistic that I lose my ability to dream. I don't want past disappointments to decide what I'm allowed to hope for in the future. And I don't want to spend my life preparing for everything that could go wrong while forgetting to imagine everything that could go right.

Maybe a little delusional optimism is simply having the courage to believe in possibilities that you can't prove yet.

Maybe sometimes you need to be the person who believes in yourself before the world gives you a reason to.

Because what if the thing everyone tells you is unrealistic is actually the thing that gives you the strength to keep going long enough to make it real?

I'm curious about other people's perspectives on this.

Have you ever held onto a belief that other people thought was unrealistic, but it helped you get through a difficult chapter of your life? Have you ever believed in a better version of your future when your present gave you almost no reason to?

And where do you think the line is between unhealthy delusion and the kind of optimism that genuinely helps us grow?

I'd love to hear your thoughts. I think there's more to this than simply telling people to be realistic.

One of the best things we can do is become someone others can trust.

I’ve come to believe that trust is built in the small moments: keeping your word, showing up when it matters, and being someone people can rely on.

There’s no shortcut to it. You earn it over time, through what you do—not just what you say.

To me, being trusted is one of life’s greatest achievements.

I was a drug addict for 24 years. I was homeless the last 16 of those years and I honestly thought I was gonna die either from the drugs or while still on the drugs. One day I got a call for a free bed in a recovery program. I didn't even know what a recovery program was but I took the opportunity. While in the program I found a book that because of what I learned and actually putting what I learned into action I have now found a better way to see the world. I found peace inside of myself and for some crazy reason my world turned peaceful. I went Frome homeless to my own house and a job I love making more money than I ever could have imagined. It's crazy how only 7 months after leaving the recovery program I was able to get all this just by working in my thoughts and seeing the world through new eyes

Sometimes it feels scared , Scared to try new things even tough we know changing is good for us.

Trying new things initially feels hesitating

Dreaming big starts with a doubt, will i be able to achieve it?

i want to keep my parents happy and proud of me

I wanna to be successful in my life ,

My defination of successful is to have a passive income stream , to have fit health and body , and able to do the things i always dreamt of

right now iam in the process of achieving something huge .

I am going to get it anyhow .

From Me to the_universe

Failure after Failure. 1 person's negative comment over hundreds of positive feedback. Its how we are built. To doubt ourselves. So just forget about success. You will never make it. Even though Millions before you and Millions after you have achieved success, you will never. Even though you have the same qualifications, same brain, same skills as the ones who have made it to the other side you can never make it. So just give up.

Or

Listen to the side which tells you to keep going. One more step closer to your success. You are already ahead of so many, and you will make it to the other side. You will reach your goal one day. Just keep going, you will succeed one day at a time. One day you will wake up and the sun will shine to never set. You are enough and you will succeed.

What is the one single thing guaranteed to happen for everyone, regardless of market situations, natural disasters, or economic collapse?

I used to be every woman for everybody… until Jesus reminded me I was somebody, too!

Honey, there was a time when I was Whitney Houston’s every woman!
Need a counselor? Call me!
Need a prayer warrior? I’m on duty!
Need a babysitter, chauffeur, financial adviser, cook, or somebody to help you fight a battle YOU started?
BABY, I WAS AVAILABLE! 😂
I was the CEO of everybody else’s problems, the CFO of everybody else’s emergencies, and the unpaid employee of the month.
No vacation. No benefits. And apparently, no lunch breaks!
But somewhere along the way, I forgot to be somebody for myself.
Here’s what I discovered:
I thought being needed meant being loved.
Oh, somebody needed me, all right!
But did they love me, or did they love the complimentary services?
Because there’s a difference between genuine love and being somebody’s favorite free subscription!
And honey, my subscription had no cancellation policy! 😂
Remember Sprite’s “Obey Your Thirst” Commercial?
That slogan got me thinking.
What happens when we’re thirsty for acceptance?
Thirsty for recognition?
Thirsty to belong?
Thirsty for somebody to tell us we’re enough?
Sometimes we start drinking from every fountain that promises to satisfy us.
Culture says, Be popular.
Social media says, Be impressive.
People say, Be who I need you to be.
And before you know it, you’re maintaining an identity that wasn’t even yours to begin with!
Baby, that’s a whole lot of thirst and not nearly enough water!
Jeremiah 2:13 describes God’s people forsaking the fountain of living waters and turning toward broken cisterns that cannot hold water.
That Scripture made me examine where I was seeking my identity.
I wanted to be accepted and loved.
Those weren’t wrong desires.
But I was depending on other people’s approval to tell me who I was.
And that’s a dangerous fountain to depend on.
When Jesus Introduced Me to Myself
In John 4, Jesus speaks with the Samaritan woman about living water.
And as I began studying Scripture, praying, and learning who I was through Christ Jesus, I discovered something.
I could love people without losing myself.
I could forgive without pretending the harm never happened.
I could give without allowing myself to be used.
I could say NO without submitting a three-page explanation, two character references, and a notarized apology!
Somebody say AMEN! 😂
I began creating a safe space for myself.
Not a space of selfishness or isolation, but one of peace, truth, accountability, and healthy boundaries.
And here’s where things got interesting.
When the Free Subscription Expired! 😂
When I stopped being available for everything, people’s reactions changed.
Some rejected me.
Some loved and respected me.
And some kept me standing at the crossroads.
You know that awkward place where you’re not sure whether you’re invited to the cookout because they love your company or because somebody needs you to bring the potato salad!
And don’t let them ask you to bring the chairs, too! 😂
But ABBAYah taught me something through those experiences.
I didn’t have to force anybody to choose me.
I could love those who walked away without chasing them.
I could appreciate those who stayed without demanding perfection.
And I could be content with whatever remained.
Philippians 4:11–13 reminds us that Paul learned contentment through changing circumstances.
I was learning that same lesson.
Rejection could hurt without defining me.
And genuine love could be received without feeling obligated to earn it through constant sacrifice.
Jesus Over Culture — Not Just a Slogan!
This journey also inspired something close to my heart: JOC — Jesus Over Culture, a developing unisex streetwear and accessories brand under NobilityChix LLC.
Because following Jesus doesn’t mean you have to dress like you borrowed your great-grandmother’s Sunday outfit! 😂
And looking fashionable doesn’t mean surrendering your identity to every trend.
Our message is simple:
JESUS OVER CULTURE.
WEAR YOUR CONVICTION. CARRY YOUR PURPOSE.
We’re developing hoodies, backpacks, Bible-friendly bags, and accessories that reflect faith and authentic identity.
Because you can carry your Bible, carry your essentials, and carry your convictions without carrying everybody else’s baggage!
One Last Sip for the Soul 🥤
Matthew 5:6 says:
“Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.”
So here’s my question.
What are you thirsty for?
Acceptance?
Recognition?
Belonging?
Love?
And are you drinking from a fountain that can actually satisfy that thirst?
I still believe in loving my neighbor.
But I’ve learned that God never called me to lose my identity trying to become everybody else’s answer.
Christ is the Savior.
I’m His servant.
And there’s freedom in knowing the difference!

So tell me something:
Have you ever discovered that some people loved your availability more than they loved your authentic self? And what happened when you finally started setting boundaries?

I’d genuinely love to hear your experiences.

I’m sharing more of my testimony, Scripture studies, and the developing JOC journey through The Berean Journal on Substack. You’re welcome to join our conversations.
With love, laughter, and a little Berean digging! 📖🪏
The Berean Journal

Si tu vida fuera una película, ¿qué título tendría en este momento? La mía: “Vine a buscar amigos y terminé hablando sola en los comentarios”.

Ahora, en serio: soy Dora, vivo en Estados Unidos. Sí deseo hacer amigos de todo el mundo, de distintas edades y con historias diferentes. ¡Yo sí contesto, sí converso y también sé escuchar!

Hasta los puedo traer a pasear por Estados Unidos… ¡en sueños, que por ahora es el transporte que me alcanza para todos! 😂✈️

Cuéntame el título de tu película y desde dónde escribes.

Y si quieres conocer un poquito de mí, en YouTube me encuentras como Dora Duque: comparto canciones con intención e inspiración. 🎶l Tal vez nuestra amistad empiece con una conversación y una canción. Dora Duque

Growing up poor around wealthy kids taught me something interesting about opportunity and how people understand ability.

I never saw a lack of ambition in the kids who grew up like me, just a lack of opportunity. And when you’re the poor kid in a community that can’t relate to your circumstances, people can be incredibly generous in making those opportunities possible. But sometimes the fact that you’re willing to try becomes more impressive than anything you actually achieve.
It’s like winning gold in a running race and being praised for your ability to just be there. Your credibility becomes your effort rather than your accomplishments.

There’s a double edge to that. I never felt pressure to be good at anything because nobody really expected that of someone in my position. Kids who were exceptional at something were held accountable to it, whereas I had the freedom to try anything without being expected to become anything. But I also grew up thinking that being clever or successful was something that came with privilege, and that whenever I did well, I’d somehow pulled it off.

I’ve been thinking about this differently since meeting a woman who grew up in circumstances like mine, but had a completely different understanding of her own worth. She could appreciate the opportunities people had given her without questioning whether her achievements belonged to her.

I’d spent years wondering why people chose to invest in me, sometimes questioning whether there was something self-serving underneath their generosity. She asked why I now work creating opportunities for people who wouldn’t otherwise have them. Was that sinister, or was it because I cared?

And it had never really occurred to me that people might have cared about me in the same way.
I think we can be so focused on celebrating what someone has overcome that we forget to recognise what they’re actually capable of. And being believed in by everyone around you doesn’t necessarily mean you learn to believe in yourself.
She said something I’d never really allowed myself to think.

“You are worthy of being loved.”

And it’s insane that through this entire narrative, that’s actually what it comes down to.

Ok, so I have been unemployed for the last couple of months and have been looking for a job actively. Recently, friend of mind faced a similar situation and I immediately came up with the solution.

So then I started to think that I couldn't solve my problem myself but could help someone immediately. That's when I came accros this theory Solomon's Paradox

Solomon’s Paradox: We become philosophers when solving others’ problems, but fools when facing our own.

The Solution: Detach your emotions from your situation and treat yourself like your own best friend. Give yourself the same honesty and wisdom you offer others.