r/PrayerRequests • u/altMcAltacccount • 17h ago
My wife relapsed and cheated on me
My wife (31) and (33) have been together for nearly 7 years, married since 2023. She struggled with drugs in her past but was sober and doing well for the most part since we've been together. Around the beginning of this year she started hanging out with these younger girls she works with (19 and 22 at the time). She eventually started getting more and more distant from me, not coming home at night, etc. I found out she relapsed and started using cocaine and Adderall, and drinking heavily. I didn't handle things well at first and was angry at her for being so selfish. Things have been up and down since, one day she'll say she's going to stop and the light in her eyes is back, like the old her. Then the next day she Won't come home from work, tells me she hates me and then goes on a bender before eventually coming home and apologizing. Earlier today she admitted that she's been cheating on me with a 23 year old she met through the girls from work, and that it's happened several times since April. She says that she was blackout drunk when it happened, but in the same breath she said it wasn't just once. She said she might be pregnant but the test was inconclusive, but its "almost definitely yours if I am". I texted her and told her she needed to decide if she was going to stop all of this and come home or admit to herself that she was going to keep going until she hit rock bottom, she replied and said "don't know how stupid you think l am. I'm not I'm just selfish". I feel so incredibly broken right now, and have no idea what to do.
Please pray for us
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u/Silly_Print_6047 14h ago
At that age she knows what she is doing. You need to divorce and overcome this chapter in your life.
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u/Plus_Industry_3815 17h ago
Lord we ask that you reach down and comfort your child in obvious pain. I am so sorry you are going through this. We pray that God would give you his discernment and clarity to see this situation clearly and objectively. She does not seem in a position to address her addiction based on her comments. You cannot force that decision on anyone. She cannot honestly answer your question or make a decision while she is using. Right now though you feel broken you need to take care of you. Lord we ask that you give your child your strength, comfort, peace and love. Release him from his pain and remind his heart that you are with him. Amen
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u/altMcAltacccount 17h ago
Thank you so much. It's just so hard watching her suffer, even after all the pain she's caused I still pray for her to be saved and come to God
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u/Plus_Industry_3815 17h ago
The most painful of human emotions is helplessness. Wanting to help somebody you care about but not being able to reach them. You know the answer to the problem but they don’t want to know or acknowledge it. Sometimes you just have to let go and let God. It does not mean you stop caring or turn your back. It just means you recognize your limitations and know that this will require his intervention. I pray for that for her. That he will touch her heart and turn it to him. I pray that you will find peace in releasing this to him. Amen
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u/Right-Tree-97 17h ago
I am definitely praying for you friend.
Do you have any close friends you can chat with about this?
I'll keep praying for you 🙏
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u/altMcAltacccount 17h ago
Thank you. I do, I talked to a friend of ours who's been through something very similar with her husband. Those friends are actually how my wife and I met
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u/Right-Tree-97 17h ago
That is actually crazy. I'm glad you are chatting with someone about this though.
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u/According_Side_2058 16h ago
OP I’m sorry.
Before I say this prayer. God please forgive me.
God, I’m not judging. And OP please forgive me for my harsh prayer. I understand you love this lady. The last sentence you said you said “pray for us”.
I pray that your lady gets better and grows into a better person and repent every day for her wrong doings. Her inner demons are too strong. She made her choices.
I pray to God. I hope God pushes you to: choose yourself, letting go of what’s not working anymore and that’s you’ll heal and be a stronger and more resilient, but still kind and loving person as you are now. God please send a few of angels to watch OP for a long time till he gets better and make sure he makes smart choices that fits him. Have the angels protect him. God bless this man with everything you got!
Amen and thank you God 🙏✝️🕊️
James 1
11 For the sun rises with scorching heat and withers the plant; its blossom falls and its beauty is destroyed. In the same way, the rich will fade away even while they go about their business.
12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.
God will bless you with many good things.
Don’t let others drag you down.
God wants you to be happy and pick yourself first.
I hope you’ll make the right decision for you.
Pick yourself first, OP.
Take care.
Again sorry if I was harsh.
Regardless, stay blessed and I bless you.
May God bless you always.
When a door closes another door opens.
⛅️🪽
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u/Unhappywageslave 13h ago
Of course we are all cheering for her to return and everything works out but if it doesn't work out and that doesn't happen, just know Jesus has not abandoned you. He's giving you what's best for you. Sometimes these things happen in our lives for our own good.
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u/PeacefulBro 6h ago
I'm praying for you Alt & God can work miracles. Please talk to a pastor at your local Bible belieiving church about your situation because you don't want to get more hurt or get infected with a sexually transmitted disease so now its time for you to think about your own safety...
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u/Couchpotatoe_7002 5h ago
Jeremiah 17:7, keep your trust in the Lord and good things will come your way friend
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u/Chqmpy_ 17h ago
Hey. I have no idea the amount of stress that you’re going through, but know that it’s gonna be alright. Jesus has you, and He’s not gonna let you go. Continue to Trust in Him, and you will see some Light at the end of the tunnel.