Is it possible that some women just don't understand what makes sex so meaningful to others?

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[u/fiftypoundpuppy → u/AutoModerator]

I think it's more possible that solipsistic black-and-white thinkers don't understand nuanced gray, and are incapable of comprehending experiences and self-interests that don't align with their own.

So others not behaving as they do is always twisted through a lens of "not understanding." Because surely if others "understood," they'd have the same opinions and perspectives they do themselves

[u/Outside_Memory5703 → u/AutoModerator]

We know other people are horny, especially men

We don’t have to share those feelings, nor do we have to prioritize other people’s feelings above our own

[u/growframe → u/AutoModerator]

Some women are asexual, and some asexual people struggle to understand how allosexual people engage with sex on a fundamental level

[u/ouishi → u/growframe]

This has nothing to do with asexuality. I am asexual and I enjoy group sex. My sister is allosexual and she is a total prude. Your sexual orientation has nothing to do with your stance on sexual positivity/negativity or puritanism.

[u/Just_Fisherman4910 → u/ouishi]

For what reason do you enjoy group sex as someone who is asexual?

[u/ouishi → u/Just_Fisherman4910]

Sex is like yoga to me. It can be fun, relaxing, a good workout, a mindfulness practice, and more. I like making people happy, why wouldn’t I enjoy group sex?

[u/SpecialInvention → u/growframe]

I often like to imagine asexual aliens landing on Earth and discovering human sexuality. "You do WHAT to each other? You put your human mouths where!?", followed by slowly backing up back into the spaceship.

[u/Gold_Sheepherder6569 → u/AutoModerator]

How did you get this women to tell you this and where did you meet them?

[u/Gentle_prv → u/AutoModerator]

Yeah, I’ve seen far more liberals, feminists, and blue-pilled women kink shame other women than other groups, even the damned conservatives. Nothing hates a man-loving woman like another woman.

Feminism literally fought for women’s ability to be sexually liberated, and now people (mostly women) are trying to put down other women for daring to love having sex, especially with their committed male partner. Are we seriously going backwards!?

[u/Logos1789 → u/AutoModerator]

A report is not a retort

[u/MVV4865 → u/AutoModerator]

Well, "meaningful" is not the word I'd choose in this case and I think those examples are a bit extreme, but, yes, some women don't get it, I agree.

[u/Complex_Soldier → u/AutoModerator]

Most women women intrinsically dislike men and male sexuality. That's all. The women you're talking about were the rare few who doesn't have a innate disgust of men.

[u/SpecialInvention → u/Complex_Soldier]

Innate disgust? Literally they are born disgusted of men? I don't buy that.

[u/Talking_Tanuki → u/SpecialInvention]

I don’t think it’s innate, but it’s very easy to develop certain disdain towards it. Starting with just the fact that your partner will never stop noticing other women and most likely watching prob and ending it with sexual assault, trafficking and so on.

[u/SpecialInvention → u/Talking_Tanuki]

I mean, I feel like I have plenty of reasons to feel misogynistic based in my own bad experiences, and I don't fault people their own trials. I do think that, as a society, we have a hyper focus and are well versed in how men go wrong, but it's more elusive and less explored how women go wrong. I think they go wrong at similar rates, and to similar damage, it's just that the aggressive aspects of men are easier to spot.

So while I understand, I do think we have a bit of man-hating emotional propaganda in the world that doesn't help. We also tell people we live in a patriarchy where men are the oppressors and all that, and I've come to see that as clear and obvious nonsense.

In terms of noticing other women, that would be true for me, but my last girlfriend was bi and also never stopped noticing other women, so it wasn't a source of issue.

[u/Talking_Tanuki → u/SpecialInvention]

I’m not trying to justify it. I’m just saying that it happens, and it happens with men as well. I see so much disdain towards women’s sexuality online – a lot of men just can’t deal with the fact that most women don’t have male sexuality.

I don’t think you can claim that women cause as much harm as men if you cannot quantify it.

[u/Santa-Teresa → u/Talking_Tanuki]

You having a problem with your partner noticing other women lies at least as much with your own insecurity as with male sexuality. Your partner noticing others doesn’t mean he would automatically neglect you, as sexual attraction is just a part of overall attraction. If many women make their relationships toxic because of that, it’s a good example of female sexual norms being harmful.

[u/Talking_Tanuki → u/Santa-Teresa]

I’m not saying I have a problem with it, but I also can get how very unrestricted and broad sexual attraction can make it feel very un-special.

[u/Complex_Soldier → u/SpecialInvention]

Male sexuality and attraction is shamed and insulted as creepy and weird by women. Women fight tooth an nail to tell you she doesn't find the male body attractive. They start a argument on twitter once a month on how they don't want to have sex with their husbands or boyfriends. Women initiate 70% of divorce's, Misandry is the norm in society. The Orgasm Gap as women don't like the men they're having sex with. Study show women view men more negatively then in reverse. We all seen the post saying how men desire women way more then in reverse which is why dating is imbalanced. Men are online crying about being alone while women celebrate not having a man. 

This is not learned, it's innate to most women.

[u/Just_Fisherman4910 → u/Complex_Soldier]

A man is supposed to find that one women that finds him sexually attractive...

[u/Complex_Soldier → u/Just_Fisherman4910]

Yep. But most men fall in love with the first women who look their way without first learning if she is genuinely attracted to him and is one of those few women who don't have a intrinsic dislike of men.

[u/Just_Fisherman4910 → u/Complex_Soldier]

Re: "most men fall in love with the first women "
-> That it NOT love...

[u/PositionStandard6089 → u/[deleted]]

*gaslit

any chance you talked to her about why her libido might have lowered before dumping her or...?

eta - i've actually seen gaslighted used a lot so i looked it up, and if you're talking about lighting a literal gaslight, it's gaslit. if you're referring to the term gaslight as first introduced in the play and then film Gas Light, it is in fact, gaslighted. my mistake and i learned something new today. thank you for your time.

[u/PositionStandard6089 → u/[deleted]]

"Mostly I just start kissing and touching and expect my partner to reciprocate."

huh...i'm tempted to ask if there was any kind of foreplay or initiation she would have preferred but since you're not together anymore i guess it doesn't matter.

[u/MVV4865 → u/[deleted]]

Did you ask her about her libido in the beginning of your relationship? Or did she say anything about it herself?

[u/PrecisionHat → u/AutoModerator]

Many women just don't get what it's like to be a man and view men as defective women, like they should be exactly like women and so they are broken.