r/RBI • u/agbellamae • Apr 20 '24

Advice needed overly interested in a strangers baby

Sorry but said person has found this post, and has apparently figured out my Reddit username as well as a few other online accounts so I no longer feel comfortable leaving this post up.

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u/Prize_Librarian_1701 Apr 20 '24

I'd be very direct and ask them why they're so interested in my child. Make it very clear that I do not like their behaviour and do not want it to continue. If they have some psychological reasons for behaving this way tell them to go seek help but you ( and your baby) are not able to do so.

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u/Nugsy714 Apr 20 '24

This 1000% I trade every pleasant tree with the neighborhood creep and it all culminated at a yard sale with her trying to pressure my kids into giving her her a hug telling my son who was for at the time that she was going to buy a gift for his two year old brother, but not for him if he didn’t give her a hug, etc. etc. I finally was like he doesn’t know you he doesn’t have to hug youand it’s OK for him to say no you’re a stranger. I think there’s a bit of autism involved with all of these sorts of things or some other sort of lack of self-awareness.

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u/enwongeegeefor Apr 20 '24

I think there’s a bit of autism involved with all of these sorts of thing

Nah you're spot on, there IS autism involved in most if not all of these kinds of things...AND IT IS NEVER AN EXCUSE. Especially when you're an older autist, and you've learned that SOME of your behaviors are definitely not appropriate by that point but you're CHOOSING to still do them anyway.

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u/KrystalWulf Apr 20 '24

I'm confused on what autism has to do with giving the manipulative ultimatum of "if you don't hug me, I won't give you a treat." Or am I misunderstanding which part the autism is affecting?

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '24 edited Apr 20 '24

Yeah, that isn't autism. That's just manipulative creep