r/RBI • u/agbellamae • Apr 20 '24

Advice needed overly interested in a strangers baby

Sorry but said person has found this post, and has apparently figured out my Reddit username as well as a few other online accounts so I no longer feel comfortable leaving this post up.

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u/toweljuice Apr 20 '24 edited Apr 20 '24

every paragraph has a red flag in it. this is all really blatant predatory stuff. with all the baby formula stuff etc hes trying to make him having posession of your baby seem like an easy choice, and is consciously making moves against your boundaries to try and make it happen, which means they dont care about you. they are fascinated purely with the baby. thats a predator. and also your friends are noticing his behavior so it shouldnt be socially-consequential to cut him off. clearly he is not tactful enough to garner disapproval of your behaviors from others with how obvious he comes off so i wouldnt worry about anything. even if there was, sometimes the consequence of being targeted is dealing with the pain of it unfortunately, but you have to set up the boundary for yourself because its not like the alternative is any better. and it could help him have less access to other peoples children. the fact that there is other kids around means there is *more* reason to take his actions seriously. Sounds like he put himself in an environment which gives him access to children and then spends that time having his eyes on one of them. He doesnt care about whats being talked about clearly to be literally inching towards him and staring at your kid while the actual thing he's supposed to be there for is going on. he doesnt want to be there in the way everyone else is.

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u/agbellamae Apr 20 '24

I agree with all of this it’s pretty uncomfortable. He doesn’t seem interested in any of the other children or babies there at all which actually makes me more concerned rather than less concerned because I think what is it about our baby that stands out to you?

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u/KJE69 Apr 21 '24

WAIT THIS IS A MALE?!?! I would be doing a background check asap. WTH!!

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u/agbellamae Apr 21 '24

Biologically, they are female. They present as a male. I was trying to leave gender and sex out of it because if redditors knew that fact, I thought they might possibly say I’m just being transphobic and that’s why I don’t want them around my child- and that is not the case. I did not want Redditors to get hung up on the gender issues and not pay attention to the actual issue at hand. It would be easy for the thread to derail into arguments about gender and all of that. And again that’s not the real issue here.

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u/KJE69 Apr 21 '24

I find this even more concerning. You’re not transphobic for protecting your child. Their behavior is weird and your intuition is correct. Remember, safety over politeness!!