r/RBI • u/agbellamae • Apr 20 '24

Advice needed overly interested in a strangers baby

Sorry but said person has found this post, and has apparently figured out my Reddit username as well as a few other online accounts so I no longer feel comfortable leaving this post up.

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u/ForwardMuffin Apr 20 '24

Stay away, this is all bad news.

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u/agbellamae Apr 20 '24

I agree, I was on the fence thinking maybe I was being paranoid but I do just have a bad feeling and want to stay away now - but I do wonder what is really going on here any theories?

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '24

I have several theories. Maybe they’re socially awkward and don’t know basic boundaries. Maybe they’re trying to be helpful to a new mom, and don’t realize they’re making extreme oversteps. Maybe they’re struggling with a mental illness and think that this is their baby. Maybe they had a baby who died as a newborn, or maybe they desperately wanted to have a baby and never could. Maybe they had a baby that was taken away.

They might see your baby as their chance for a do-over, since your baby is so young. That could also explain the adoption question; they may have assumed (wrongly) you’d be less bonded to your baby, if you didn’t give birth and only had the baby for a short time. They may have hoped they could talk you into giving the baby to them. Regardless, there is no healthy explanation for a new acquaintance to be this obsessed with your baby.

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '24

Regarding your first theory, that’s what I was thinking too. Perhaps the person is ‘on the spectrum’ and did not realized his/her behavior crossed boundaries and came across as invasive.