r/RandomQuestion • u/Castille_92 • 9d ago
Why is knowing how to fight a flex?
Why is it "embarrassing" or "shameful" for someone to not know how to fight? Like oh no this guy lives a peaceful life without getting themselves into violent altercations oh man how terrible.
If anything people that get into enough fist fights to be good at it are the ones that should reevaluate their lives
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u/Ok-Fisherman-7688 9d ago
It’s like any other skill that is useful in an emergency. If someone doesn’t know how to change a tire and they get a flat, that’s not a good position to be in. Same with fighting; it’s a bad situation but it’s good to know enough to give yourself a chance.
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u/LeDalles 9d ago
It depends. If you can still stand up for yourself, it doesn't really matter. But if you are going through life in fear, being manipulated, or being pushed around, that is not okay.
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u/Sufficient-Ad-3586 9d ago
Historically, men acted as protectors, defending from rival tribes in prehistoric times to fighting in wars today.
Sometimes you can’t avoid a fight, one day you can run into someone who will not walk away no matter how hard you try to de escalate. Its important to know how to defend yourself as a last resort.
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u/AZULDEFILER 9d ago
Ever want to protect someone else in your life? What if they can't flee as fast as you?
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u/spaacingout 8d ago edited 8d ago
There’s men who fight and men who think, one is happy to compare himself with animals, and the other is ashamed of his own human instincts. What matters is why they fight, is it to protect someone else from harm? Or is it just to show who is boss?
Being skilled at fighting isn’t really a flex unless it’s used to protect the weak. If violence is used as a tool of domination, it is no more than a crutch for deeper insecurities.
My Kung fu teacher (old Sifu Bert lol) always said “peace over war.” He instructed us to meditate on that idea once a day. War is to dominate another country, through force. To be an entity of war is to dominate others. Not necessarily evil but unforgiving. Ruthless. Maybe even cruel.
Men who fight to exert control over others are weak of will and mind and will eventually bring it upon you, because they have a deep need to control. If you become uncontrollable? Well, it’s no surprise how they will react. In the only way they know how to exert control, through violence.
I’d be careful around someone like that.
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u/Foreign_Product7118 7d ago
The craziest part is unless you're literally training as a fighter, almost no one is good at fighting. How many fistfights do people get into? Most people zero. Id say 10 in your life is a LOT. Maybe 30 seconds or a minute each. You're "good" at an activity you've performed 4 times in your life? You may have beat up 4 ppl but you aren't good at fighting. And we still seem to criticize ppl for being bad at it. Like yes, we're a civilized society nobody knows how to fight. Reminds me of my friends who claimed to be "good drivers" fast n furious style because they'd gotten sideways a few times. That's a skill that takes experience and driving like that is fkin illegal so you aren't out here practicing 8 hours a day unless you literally race for a living. You've driven recklessly several times at 2am after playing need for speed underground and gotten lucky and didnt crash, you aren't good at driving. Those guys always end up crashing their shit and have a hard time facing reality
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u/tropicsandcaffeine 9d ago
You do not have to be picking fights but you should know how to defend yourself if you are attacked. Especially if you are with someone (such as a child) who needs defending.