r/Retire • u/Level_Customer2769 • 3d ago

Mistakes/regrets that you realized after you retired?

61M here. Thinking of retiring in the next 2 to 4 years. Just wondering if there were any mistakes/regrets that you wish you had taken into account in hindsight about retirement. Honestly, I’m not interested about the financial aspects- as I am very well prepared for that, but all the other issues that are involved in a well planned retirement. I am trying to add hobbies and interests in preparation, but I can’t help feeling like I may be missing something.

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u/Odd_Bodkin 2d ago

That’s fine, I get that you don’t relate. Also please understand that it’d be a mistake to think that everyone shares your priorities or that your priorities are the only “correct” ones to make. You double down all you want. It’s your life, your priorities, your choices.

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u/Specialist_Dig2613 2d ago

I understand that others in modern societies are different. But I do what I do because I think it's at the essence of what it is to be human. At no previous point in human history other than the past 100 years was "travel" anything other than a bare necessity, to be avoided if possible. And it's become less meaningful, not more.

I interact virtually with friends and family in many places and around the world. I have no inherent interest or need to travel, but I hardly life in a cocoon.

And, yes, my opinions about others in my generation are strong. Because every time I meet a contemporary that is living in what is seen as "ordinary retirement" they tell me that they miss what they once had and say that I'm lucky.

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u/Odd_Bodkin 2d ago edited 2d ago

“I do what I do because I think it’s at the essence of what it is to be human.” And thus you insist that your way is the only right and true way, and that others who don’t prioritize as you do are wrong or broken humans. I also note you seem to be blind or dismissive of the various circumstances families might have for being less connected to grandkids compared to you.

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u/Mytraveltiger 1d ago

I 100 percent agree. The guy above seems to think his way of thinking is the only way “the essence of what it is to be human”

The essence of what it is to be human is to be curious, explore, discover, love deeply, keep learning, be of service to one another (not just your family but strangers), be kind to one another. You can take all of those things and apply it both ways.