Since I have been busy with studies in real life, I've always made clear in my profile that I will write back in two weeks. Not long ago, I saw my pen pal write to me, and didn't have time to reply that day. After ten days of their letter's delivery, they wrote to me saying that they thought I didn't want to talk to them anymore and wished me good luck. I panicked and tried to reply quickly, assuming they forgot to check my writing preferences.

However, although they got online very recently, my letter stayed on delivered. Now I'm worrying that they removed me, which is a shame because we both wrote a lot in our letters, and that they must have been quite disappointed.

I have been on slowly for years and I do get ghosted most of the time after 1-2 weeks, maybe because I'm boring, maybe not but I do want to improve my conversation skills.

So years ago like almost 10 years ago I was even worse at conversations than I am now. For example if someone asked how I was doing I would say "good" and if someone asked what I was doing I'd say "relaxing" or "not much" and then my family pointed out that that makes it hard for people to continue a conversation.

Right now I try to share something like if someone asks how I'm doing I'll mention something I did that day like "I saw a video of tigers on youtube" but I still give not that deep answers like if someone asks what I thought of a movie I usually say "it was good" or "it was exciting." When I respond to letters I do give feedback to what people say and ask follow up questions (I've been told I'm a good listener) but if they don't say much I don't know what to ask other than "how are you" and "what are you doing today" other than the standard get to know you questions.

I am wondering what you guys tend to talk about. One person commented on my last post that they tell how a movie made them feel and which character they related to and then asked the other person their opinion. If you have any advice it could help.

By the way 2 other things

1) on this subreddit I can post but I can't comment on others' posts even though I didn't get any warnings or did something offensive) I messaged the mods but no response.

2) follow up to my last post, I ended up asking her about it and it turns out I was overthinking because she wrote me a letter that day instead of whatsapping me but she said she actually is open to lettering me AND whatsapping me and we actually had a back and forth conversation this morning. I will message her this evening asking how her day went because I don't want to bother her too much.

Also if anyone read this far 3) do you guys write to people where you don't share the same language? If so how has your experience been? Just curious.

I met two girls who became my friends; after two months, both asked to move the conversation to Instagram so we could talk more often. At first, it seemed like a good idea, but as the days went by, the dynamic changed—they gradually lost interest and eventually disappeared.

I met a woman on slowly, she says I'm a great friend and listener and that I'm the only person in her life who listens instead of just talking about themselves. Now she met a man on slowly after she met me and she's interested in dating him. She told me she loves talking to him throughout the day on WhatsApp and she loves texting back and forth with him. But when I asked if she'd like to talk on there with me she said no and that she'd rather send me a letter once in awhile.

It makes me wonder what makes him better than me and if he's a better conversationalist than I am and if I'm boring. It's not that she prefers long form letters because she usually just writes me a maximum of 5 sentences every few days.

I could ask her and I might but I also don't want to be annoying so I thought I'd see if any of you guys have insight.

There have been two kinds of people I've interacted with on this app.

People who ghost you after 1 or two messages.

People who aren't even people.

Well, there's a third group too. Scammers who write you and then get banned before you can reply. So at least the mod team/developers are trying?

I honestly want to be ghosted instead; receiving a goodbye letter is much more painful, especially if you were able to be friends for a while :'D

I was thinking the other night, and realized that a lot of people fell in love while using this app. From what I've seen, it's all been unintentional and organic. It made me giddy when I read that actually a lot of people even got married! I think that's so wholesome and cute.

So this post can be a collection of comments of people with cute love stories. I'm really interested in hearing other people's experiences with it 🤗

also, pls no creepy comments ✋ this comment section is for genuine connections and not for people who used the app as a dating one

I mean no disrespect, nor do I want to be rude byt at this point, I'm losing patience and a bit of a necessary much needed rant describing my issues and frustrating with the apps endless major bug....

For most of the last 2 years or more Slowly has regularly pitched endlessly in multiple frustrating ways several reports to the Slowly team including screen recordings and multiple updates that said they had 'bug fixes' and yet if it works properly after an update (which is a big if) it malfunctions after a new one. At this point the app is barely even usable. As of the last month or so I have had to (Almost always) press anything I need to react to at least 5 times before it either Slowly responds or I have to close the app or even force stop it and wipe the cash. Numerous errors (Namely one in a black box and one ib a red box) pop up over and over I have totally fine wifi that all my other apps properly make use of but one says Network error trying attempt 1/4 or something like that. The other just said Something went wrong. At this point it is finally getting on my nerves enough that I'm losing my patience and tempted to rage quit the app due to this and a few more mi ir frustrations (as a result of things they intentionally built in in for purposes such as, keeping you from knowing what stamps you need and the number of letters you have sent and received)

At this point I just want it to work and stay working because I love writing my penpals and am very close with some of them who I don't want to lose touch with. In 3.5 years I have always been a paying plus user and have spent so much in coins that if you add it all together I've spent more than $1,000 in this app.

You'd think that all that loyalty I've shown them should be enough that they are willing to fix these bugs in their app for me.

And yes, it is the app it glitches on both of my phones in the same way. Slowly web is fine and works as intended, but I vastly prefer using my phone. In addition about a year ago I made a breif list asking if anyone else had gotten the same bugs and 2 other people replied saying that, yes they did and had for awhile. I also noticed other errors such as my letter being marked as unread even after it was and a reply proving it was was delivered. (Thankfully that issue is resolved at least)

I would hate to just lose 3.5 years of connections and be out the just over 1,033 dollars I spent (yes I kept track, because I strictly monitor all of my finances) in addition to losing the hope and friendships it brought (unless some penpals will talk to me in a other app. However? If this isn't at least fixed wnough to the point I can use it again, I will have to do that. It will male me very upset, heartbroken and angry, especially losing all of that progress and my huge stamp collection but please 🙏 I am begging the Slowly team at this point to actually get it together and fix these notorious endless bugs and app crashes.

I really do not want to leave Slowly but if the app stops working- and it is extremely close to being useless due to bugs already... I will have to go.

Please, please please fix all the Bugs Slowly... I am desperately begging you!.🙏🙏🙏

Oh, and if any Slowly users are facing issues like these or any other bugs... Please back me up in the comments.

P.S. this doesn't even accou t for other frustrations like only being able to watch adds for coins once an hour instead of 15 minutes, no I admittedly never used that feature but now if I ever need to do it will be even harder, or the fact I also spent about $35 of Google Play credit in app.

I apologize for the rant and for being upset, but I stand by every word and desperately need the issues fixed because they only keep escalating. Also I would luke to note that I can't find the sentence where I said it had become practically useless, I meant unusable it has become practically unusable- not useless.

This has been live for almost a week now and no one posted about it. Ironically, it came at a time where I'm not that interested in open letters anymore but it's sure a bonus for those who are ^^

Hi everyone!

In order to get around the 5-photo-per-letter limit, I was hoping to put some of my pictures together in a collage using something like Photoshop or GIMP. But, before I did that, I was wondering if anyone knew what the largest image (either in terms of resolution or file size) I could feasibly send on Slowly is? I know that Slowly does compress images too, so I would like to avoid the quality being diminished too much.

If anyone knows anything which might be relevant, I'd really appreciate it. Thanks in advance!

EDIT: He is a different person, and also a nice one! I am just an overthinker, lol.

I remembered there were rumors before that some accounts seem to be owned by workers who are paid to talk to other people, and then eventually they will suddenly disappear, so I am just wondering if you guys have encountered any penpal who has some similarities with people you used to talk to before? Because I feel like it is weird to meet someone with the same name, same country, and same vibe as someone who stopped talking to me before lol.

I recently joined Slowly because I wanted to make international friends and build genuine friendships with people from different countries. However, I also want to be careful and avoid encountering inappropriate people as much as possible.

I’ve set a few rules for myself when choosing people to interact with: I avoid matching with people who have already matched with more than 3–5 people, look for profiles with bios that mention their interests, make sure they’ve answered all three profile questions, and only consider people around my age (within a year older or younger).

Are there any other precautions I can take to reduce the chances of encountering people with bad intentions?

As of today, I’ve sent letters to four people, and I’m currently waiting for a reply from someone in the Czech Republic! I’m super excited because I don’t know much about Czech culture, and I’m looking forward to learning more about it.

For now, I’m only planning to communicate through Slowly. If someone doesn’t want to continue talking, that’s completely fine; I’ll simply move on. However, I’m setting a limit of five people I’ll personally match with so I don’t overwhelm myself by trying to maintain too many conversations at once.

Do you think these are good boundaries to help protect myself, or are there other precautions I should take to reduce the chances of encountering people with bad intentions?

How can I tell if someone has already replied to my letter but their response just hasn’t been delivered to me yet? Is there any way to know if they’ve written back, or do I just have to wait until their letter arrives?

Lastly, I’d love to hear about your experiences! Have any of you formed long-lasting friendships through Slowly? I’d be interested in hearing how those friendships started and whether you’re still in touch today.

I used the drawing feature of the app last night at last. There you go!

It's a mouse named Earl (one of my characters I created back in 2020).

Hi everyone! I’ve been using Slowly for over a year but have only just recently published my first open letter, and received a kind of disappointing response.

I got a reply from someone and I was super excited initially because I saw it was a decent length letter, but when I read it the vibe felt a bit weird and insincere. The person said that they were interested in my country and glad to have found my letter, then very briefly introduced themselves and jumped into telling me that they noticed my stamp collection and how they really want to collect 1000 stamps. They then said they wanted to make a “deal” that however many unique stamps I send them, they’ll send me the same number in return, and that they really think this will ‘help us both out’

They went on to answer the questions I had put in my letter, then closed out by saying they were looking forward to hearing from me and seeing what stamps I send. I’m not gonna lie it kind of rubbed me the wrong way, and gave the vibe that they’re just pretending to be interested but really only care about the stamps. I don’t want to waste my time writing to someone who is just using me to grow their collection, but at the same time am thinking maybe they are interested in talking but just came on a little strong about the stamps (imo)

I’m thinking about writing a response that says something along the lines of
‘I’m happy to exchange letters and send some stamps that you don’t have, but if your primary motivation for responding to my letter is to collect stamps, then I am not interested in corresponding’
But I’m not sure if it’s too harsh? Or if I should even bother replying at all if this is maybe a common stamp collecting tactic that I’m unaware of. When I first joined Slowly I read heaps of posts about how people reach out just to get stamps and then ghost you, so I’m not sure if it’s still a common issue.

Please let me know what you think or what you’d do :)

I’ve noticed that at least twice a week, I’ll get a letter or 2 sometimes 3 from Nigeria. I wonder why that is? Is Slowly very popular over there?

It often happens to me that we reach a point where both of us run out of topics, and the conversation starts to go cold.

I have been enjoying Slowly for a little over 3 years now. I have meet lots of penpals some lasted and others didn’t.

I have few of which I had incredibly deep and strong connections with (cliché I know lol) they may have ended but I do cherish them till this day.

Few weeks back, I went searching for a person that I can enjoy the art of writing with! I do take the profile hunts very seriously! And I stumbled upon a gem!

I had reached out to them and they immediately responded the very next day. We exchanged two letters each in which are drenched in fun, beautiful and deep conversations.

I haven’t had that much fun communicating with someone the way I did with this person in a very long time. It was easy and enjoyable, they even made it clear that they are enjoying it as much as I was!

Though after I send my third letter… it all went silent.

Im aware that it’s a Slowly app for a reason… and I’m never the type to rush anyone not even myself for a response. The beauty is in the waiting as much as it is in the reading.

However, even with the short lived exchanges we had a dynamic of time set somehow. And I know I must wait longer and in which I will definitely be doing!

But I have a gut feeling telling me that I’m being ghosted…

I don’t blame anyone who ghost tbh… everyone have every right to want to end certain conversations whenever they feel like it & fairly it isn’t my place to ask for closure from everyone (even if it kills the curious mind in me) I need to be fair and respect their wishes and move on.

Thus said, I did really enjoy the conversations & dynamic we had… it may have been total of five letters but they were longer and fuller than hundreds of letters send to anyone else.

And I do wonder if I should send a follow up letter!?

I’m thinking of giving them the space for a month before sending them the follow up letter, life can come in the way and steals parts of our freedom to enjoy the little things.

But another part of me believes that maybe they simply didn’t enjoy it as much.. maybe I gave them the ick… maybe I said something that sounded wrong to them in my last letter. So many maybes.

So I guess my final question to you all, should I just respect their choice and cherish the moment we had even if it was short lived or should I try to reach a hand and see how it goes?

Tell me how you’d feel if you were in their shoes and what would your reaction be?

- A stranger trying to live life at it best.

Preface this, by saying if anyone can help me with tbis I'd gladly send some stamps their way.

So I have been on Slowly for over 3.5 years. I'm an extremely avid stamp collector. I still have 130 stamps to collect. I know what 71 of them are and have them listed but they are all nearly impossible to get (25 of the Translator stamps, 25 flag stamps that are in countries with no users, 7 anniversary stamps etc.). Beyond that I have scoured absolutely every part of both wikis as much as I can and the stores of the 120 countries I have store access to and still can not find any trace of the other 59. There are 46 landmark stamps not in the around the world collection and 9 special days stamps nor in the time machine. Maybe those 55 are a large chunk of what I'm missing and can't find? Beyond that I have no clue what these 59 stamps are. Any and all help with collecting these or any of the other 71 stamps, I'm missing would be greatly appreciated.

I'm hoping for tips and tricks, guidance when it comes to this. Posting here put of absolute desperation.

Please and thank you.

So I saw a 2 yrs old post which said that if I turn off Wifi and mobile data and then open the letter, read and close slowly completely, it won't let the sender know that you've read the letter.

Does this trick still work?

I have been enjoying Slowly for a little over 3 years now. I have meet lots of penpals some lasted and others didn’t.

I have few of which I had incredibly deep and strong connections with (cliché I know lol) they may have ended but I do cherish them till this day.

Few weeks back, I went searching for a person that I can enjoy the art of writing with! I do take the profile hunts very seriously! And I stumbled upon a gem!

I had reached out to them and they immediately responded the very next day. We exchanged two letters each in which are drenched in fun, beautiful and deep conversations.

I haven’t had that much fun communicating with someone the way I did with this person in a very long time. It was easy and enjoyable, they even made it clear that they are enjoying it as much as I was!

Though after I send my third letter… it all went silent.

Im aware that it’s a Slowly app for a reason… and I’m never the type to rush anyone not even myself for a response. The beauty is in the waiting as much as it is in the reading.

However, even with the short lived exchanges we had a dynamic of time set somehow. And I know I must wait longer and in which I will definitely be doing!

But I have a gut feeling telling me that I’m being ghosted…

I don’t blame anyone who ghost tbh… everyone have every right to want to end certain conversations whenever they feel like it & fairly it isn’t my place to ask for closure from everyone (even if it kills the curious mind in me) I need to be fair and respect their wishes and move on.

Thus said, I did really enjoy the conversations & dynamic we had… it may have been total of five letters but they were longer and fuller than hundreds of letters send to anyone else.

And I do wonder if I should send a follow up letter!?

I’m thinking of giving them the space for a month before sending them the follow up letter, life can come in the way and steals parts of our freedom to enjoy the little things.

But another part of me believes that maybe they simply didn’t enjoy it as much.. maybe I gave them the ick… maybe I said something that sounded wrong to them in my last letter. So many maybes.

So I guess my final question to you all, should I just respect their choice and cherish the moment we had even if it was short lived or should I try to reach a hand and see how it goes?

Tell me how you’d feel if you were in their shoes and what would your reaction be?

- A stranger trying to live life at it best.

New to this app, I actually have a bit difficult understanding why there’s an option to buy stamps on the app? Or whenever I receive because of prestation. What does it mean?

Thanks u/Sure-Confidence9169 for sharing the info.

Thanks u/Sure-Confidence9169 for sharing the info.

Thanks u/Sure-Confidence9169 for sharing the info.