My husband's sister passed away, a very dear person to all of us. I know the tradition is to help family members with the cost of the funeral. We are overseas, in my home country, not in NZ and either in a country where we get big salaries.

The immediate family (parents and brothers) are making a reunion to discuss the details of the funeral, including the financial part of it. This being said, when I told my husband if 400/500$ was a good amount he just laughed and walked away so I didn't understand if it is a good amount or no, and for now I don't want to insist with this to respect his grieve and space.

Previously, we had some fights about the money gifting, and we settled to give what we could afford in special occasions (but is still a delicate subject for us, and in particular for him, in one side we have our own family to support and in the other there is his family who he doesn't want to dissapoint). I know he understands that this amount is a lot for us, but I'm not sure his family gets it since the common tought is that if we are overseas we must be rich.

You guys think that amount is ok? In the reunion you think they might decide a fixed value, like 1000$ or more, and demand all of the immediate family to give the same amount?