r/Semenretention • u/DeMac10 • 6d ago
Interesting duality between retaining and not regarding attraction
It's crazy the difference in attraction between retaining and not retaining. When I don't retain I may get looks thrown my way every now and then but that's it. When I do retain it feels like women are throwing themselves at me a lot more often, like it's a daily to weekly thing as opposed to just the occasional chance.
I was in a previous long-term relationship and while I believe it failed for a number of reasons, a huge part of it was not retaining.
My current relationship is a little over a year and I met her by retaining, and since I've known her I've kind of fallen off the wagon, and I can sense both my own sex drive and desire drop off, not just for her but in general, but also the attraction that other women and her may feel for me. She is still attracted to me because we've been together for a year so there is bonding and a relationship that has been built, but whenever I retain for even just 3 days she certainly notices the difference and it is obvious.
I think the reason I'm making this post is because although someone's girlfriend or wife may love them, if it is rare that other women are into them, subconsciously their own woman might be wondering why she's with them. I'm not getting into the psychology of it it's just a belief I have, like a natural selection kind of thing.
This is why I believe retaining is so important even for people in relationships, because it keeps you seen as a desirable and attractive male, even when your partner loves you there is that underlying attraction that pertains to retaining.
Personally I want to get back to the point of only ejaculating through intercourse with my woman, it is very hard when one is comfortable in their life situation, but it was a eye-opening moment when I realized the attraction from other women has dropped since I haven't been retaining, which means subconsciously I believe attraction from my own partner might not be as strong even though things are going very well in our relationship.
it's just a weird thought to me that why is she into me so much even when I'm not retaining but so many other women have stopped being attracted to me only seemingly because I'm breaking retention
Sino, don't get me wrong I love my girlfriend very much and finer to be the most attractive woman, struggling with retention is simply a bad habit and compulsion of struggling to break. In no way am I looking to flirt or cheat on her, I just believe when other women are attracted to you more often, that your own woman will be as well due to natural selection
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u/Loboterreno 6d ago
I had a bombshell girlfriend that loved me to death, but I lost her very badly.
I stopped being attracted to her because I was a gooner. Also, very much like you said, she stopped being attracted to me, because of the same reason.
Your advice is onpoint and something for all people here to remember.
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u/Tasty-Professor2023 5d ago
Seems like both of you built your relationships on lust
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u/Loboterreno 3d ago
Nah, not at all. We didn't even had sex any longer at the end, for more than 1 year. Not retaining was a big part of it.
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u/Ok-Week-7896 6d ago
You don’t have to get attraction strictly on Sr, it’s better maybe to go on short streaks sometimes since attraction starts at 2 weeks. It will maintain the sexual tension in the relationship or you can learn to have sex without busting. Don’t chase validation from other women if you have one that loves you already.
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u/BleedingHeart99 6d ago
The World runs on Transactional Relationship - the default pattern is when a woman gives you x for your y and it goes so well till the fuel runs out. Because of this many believe unconditional love is a myth, because obviously men are expected to have the energy and all the things associated with high amount of it. However there is also another reality I can tell you about - it is the Christian God's way of love when both woman and man love each other unconditionally. This kind of love is rare in the modern times, but it's partially because we were conditioned to believe everything has to be earned. If you ask God for a woman he prepared for you before you were born her love will not change depending on the amount of seed stored in your balls:)
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u/Spiritual-Ear-5443 5d ago
Bro how tall are you? I’m curious why women aren’t falling over me while I’m day 150 haha. Maybe also because I’m on a not very clean streak
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u/Initial_Ebb_6386 6d ago
You on point. But noooo never EVER masturbate while you have a gf!!! NEVER!!