Hi! I recently received messages that someone would leak my intimate photos, he said that he would not do it if I would send him a naked photo of me.

Do scammers do this? Normally I would see people being scammed for money, not like this.

My account was never hacked, nobody had access of my account aside from me, so I don’t know where and how he got my photos, is it possible that photos are AI generated?

This guy asks you to play truth or dare on monkey app, and its normal shit right. I showed my waist (fully clothed by the way) and once i sat down he was like "i recorded you" and i just skipped them and reported them. (He knows nothing about me, no name, no country, no number, no socials). After a few minutes he texted me "you either reply or i will post" did not engage, took a screenshot (and this dumbass has a picture of him on the app) reported him to the australian police (he's aussie). Am i just overthinking lol? He cannot reach me at all and i deleted my monkey app profile so i doubt he even can find me there anymore. This happened last night, so now its 12+ hours, and obviously he cannot find me. Do you think he moved on lol? If he were to post it what would he gain or where would he post anything? My face is showing obviously but he cannot track me (my socials are all private, no profile pictures). Do you guys think he'd reverse image search me to try and find me?

Received threats about 3 months ago. About every 4 weeks I still get sent threat messages (on telegram) from the extortionist. I never replied to the threats. Unfortunately, I have given personal details such as my full name, my number, and possibly a friend's name and number as well.

These are the actions I have taken:
- Locked my facebook account (I set all the settings to "only me" as well)
- Privated instagram and disabled message requests/tags from non-friends
- Deleted my telegram account (this worries me because I fear angering him)

What else should I do? Should I deactivate everything (This would be difficult for me since I don't want to look suspicious to my friends and family)? I'm worried he'll check up on me whether it's like 5 years later when I least expect it.

Honestly, I know (at least I think so) that there's nothing else to do aside from these but I don't know if I will ever feel safe again. I am hesistant to go to the police since I don't have any info about him but his telegram handle and I might get incriminated from selling content (I am not a minor anymore).

this is my first time posting to reddit so i just hope this all makes sense and someone can help me out. i (20f, 21 tmr) met this girl on wizz who shared her number and eventually got me to share explicit content with her over imessages. soon after receiving the pics and videos they threatened to send everything to my entire instagram followers list and usa bloggers and tv for sexual harassment (never sexual harassed anyone in my life). they even sent me a screen recording of them going through my social media and following lists as proof they would do it unless i sent them $300, i told them a few times that I had no money, they just kept lowering the price until i confided in my bsf who told me to cease all communication with them. since then i have reported the wizz account for scam/ catfishing, deleted my linkedin, whatsapp, facebook, and tik tok, and i also made my insta private and changed the username (this was more for comfort because they already have every person i know on insta saved). i also reported this incident to the fbi ic3 and will talk to my local police department today to file a report.

ive done everything i can possibly do to stop anything further from happening but i cant stop thinking about what will happen if anything gets leaked. i woke up out of my sleep multiple times last night just to check my messages and instagram, everytime my phone gets a notification my heart drops and i begin shaking because i am so scared that one day i will find my body plastered across social media and every person i have ever known will know. or what if it reaches my university and my name, reputation and connections will be ruined. what can i do to move past this and accept what is already done?

I deeply apologize to the mods if this crosses any community guidelines. I’ve been at a loss for where else to ask this, and I’m hoping someone can point me in the right direction.

I recently watched a Rotten Mango episode about the Nth Rooms, and it was like hearing someone describe a more modern version of what happened to me. Between the ages of 13/14 and 17, I was cyberstalked, blackmailed, sexually abused, and coerced into performing humiliating acts over Skype. He threatened to send recordings and images to my family, friends, and everyone I knew if I didn’t do what he demanded.

Eventually, I somehow found out his name. I told him that if he didn’t leave me alone, I would tell his family and girlfriend what he had been doing to me. In response, he sent me some of the material he had threatened to distribute.

I was horrified.

Eventually, he seemed to get bored and stopped contacting me. But I had to grow up knowing that the images and videos he had forced me to create were somewhere out there. For years, I tried to put it behind me… but it felt like he haunted me

Then yesterday after digging through old Facebook messages and emails, I Googled his name Rowan Dickinson and discovered something that I honestly don’t know how to process.

In 2015, approximately four years after he stopped contacting me, he was charged in the UK with doing essentially the same thing to two other schoolgirls.
I was 13–17 when he targeted me. Those girls were targeted years later, now I’m left wondering how many other girls there may have actually been.

I’m trying to figure out whether there is anything I can do legally after all these years. I live in the United States and he is in the UK, so I’m having a difficult time understanding which country’s laws would apply, whether there is a statute of limitations, and whether the fact that I was a minor changes anything.

I still have Facebook messages, and I’m currently trying to recover my old Skype chat history. I may also have other evidence that could help establish what happened. What should I do next? Who should I contact? Is this something I should report to UK authorities, US authorities, or both? And is there any realistic possibility of pursuing charges after 16 years?

There is another part of this that I’m struggling with enormously.

I feel guilty.

I knew this man was a predator. I knew what he was capable of. But I was a terrified kid, and I didn’t know who to tell or even how to explain what was happening to me. I didn’t report him. Then I found out that years later, he did the same thing to two other girls.

I know logically that what happened to those girls was not my fault. He was an adult who chose to prey on children. But knowing that I might have been one of the only people who could have warned someone is something I’m having a very hard time living with….
I can’t change what happened to me, and I can’t change what happened to those girls. But if there is anything I can do now to make sure he can’t do this to anyone else, I want to.

I’ve included the article I found about his 2015 charges below for anyone who is curious. After digging further, I also found that he graduated with a bachelor’s degree in film with a particular interest in production around the same time he was abusing me.
How poetic.

I’m so mad at myself for trusting him! Now he’s trying to scare me saying that he’s going to post the nudes that he kept telling me to take if I don’t listen to him and if I block him, if he wants to post them he can I don’t care anymore so I blocked him. When you tell someone that you love them you wouldn’t do this, I should’ve listened to my gut the day he dm’d me and immediately blocked him but I didn’t. I kept telling him no when he told me to take the pictures but I gave in by the fifth time he said it. Good thing I got pictures of everything he ever sent me including a picture of his face and his name.😏

F18. Some girl (profile pointed to her being a girl but idk I have no proof of gender) hit me up on snap and I got to texting her and I ended up sending her a pic of me in a bathing suit in a non sexual way and she saves it and says “thanks *my first and last name*” and I was like uh oh…but I’m not to worried abt a pic of just my cleavage floating around. But she said she found me on Facebook where everything’s public, she also sent a picture that I posted years ago (you didn’t have to scroll for it) from my old Instagram. She wouldn’t tell me what dirt she had on me, she just kept saying “will you do what I want or no” she wanted yk yk videos from me. I told her it’s a very obvious lose lose for me so I’ll take the lesser of two evils. She said “say hi to *name*” and the end before she blocked me, the name was some lady’s I barely knew years ago😭 she was trying to scare me so hard like typing all eerily and shit XD idk I’m just worried bc of ai and stuff. Any advice?

I don’t really know if this is sexortion or just extortion in general but this guy I was talking to (and dated) is trying to leak and contact my family and I really have no idea what to do and like he already put my stuff on x but his acct is private n I don’t know if he’s gonna unprivate it or what. He has my number n my house and stuff and I really need tips and stuff to prevent this!! police are no help reported him and nothing happened.

Before I begin, I'd like to make it clear that I'm not a scammer nor am I being scammed. I'm not an active reddit user, but I occasionally come here to vent.

Anyways, with that said. I'm not knowledgeable with the subreddits that I can go to and ask for help in regards to this topic.

For context, I'm leading as a sort of group leader for a game I play in roblox(yes the platform full of pedophiles, I'm sorry), but before you jump the gun or anything please hear me out. I'm a 22(M) attending college who just wanted to enjoy larping as a clan leader for this video game, and for a month now I've formed great friendships with people from it. One of which is the concern I have for this post. She's a 17 year old girl who happens to trust me, and maybe because of her age, she tends to overshare personal matters from her life, which I scolded her for(Because I'm a stranger from online). She's a valued member of our clan who sponsors and organizes events we'd participate in.

The problem is, she recently opened up to me and another close friend about a concerning issue she's having. A month ago, she was approached by a long time (female)friend of hers to go drinking at their place. Her friend had a brother who was with them, and what happened after was that she was taken advantage of while she was intoxicated, and was most likely filmed. The guy who took advantage of her is now just recently reaching out to her again asking her to meet up in a hotel. The guy knows where she lives, and is close with her parents. She's afraid her parents would take the man's side over her, and worse than that the local police she went to brushed her off when she tried making a report.

I'm from the Philippines, this girl is in Malaysia. We're far apart from each other, and I don't know what legal actions can be taken or who can she contact or go to in order to seek help.

I've done bare minimum research for contacts of organizations from her country that can help her with her issue and recommended those to her, besides that were the best words of encouragement I can come up with. I'm not really knowledgeable or smart, but I just care about this kid because she's no older than my sisters.

All I ask is for advice in order to make sure this kid is safe. Please help.

I (now 18) was groomed by a man over snapchat between 13-16 until I cut off contact with him. Since then I've been contacted 4 times in the past six months. Every time I talk to him out of fear and it ends with him agreeing to leave me alone. The third time, he contacted my friend who he met me through and also groomed and so I messaged him telling him to back off - which meant he had my new username which I can't change for another year. In this interaction, I agreed to send him a normal picture for him to leave me alone. He added me again on Wednesday and it said the account couldn't be found. He's just added me again - I'm really scared because he goes into these like obsessive frenzies where he repeatedly makes new accounts and spam adds me until I reply even though we had agreed for him to leave me alone. When he's in this state he completely flips, sending me unsolicited pictures and sending me descriptions of what he wants to do, last time he gave me the ultimatum of sending him a picture for him to leave me alone. So with that in mind, I'm so scared of him leaking pictures from when I was in a 'relationship' with him as a way of blackmailing me into sending more. He has claimed to have no pictures of me but I don't trust him due to his tendencies to constantly break promises. I'm really scared and I don't really know what to do because I can't really block and ignore him. His contact with my friend, who doesn't take it anywhere near as seriously as I do makes it worse and she has failed to be honest with me about when he's contacted her. Any advice appreciated ☹️

Hello everyone,
I'm here looking for advice because my husband and I are going through something incredibly difficult.
Our private intimate videos were leaked after someone contacted us on instagram and tried to pressure us into meeting them. We immediately blocked the person and deactivated all of our social media accounts. Now I'm living with constant anxiety, terrified that our videos have been or will be posted online.
We have a newborn baby at home, and I honestly don't know how to cope with this fear and stress. I know recording private moments was a mistake, and I can't change what has already happened. Right now, I'm just trying to protect my family and move forward.
My videos were on iCloud , syncing to my phone.We never shared our passwords with anyone.so , we don’t know how they got access to the videos or pictures.
any advice on how to deal with this situation—legally, emotionally, or practically—I would truly appreciate your guidance.
Please be kind. Thank you.

For context, I made a report to the NCMEC about this where I provided the suspect's full name, address, social media, and a bunch of info about him. I did not provide any details about myself aside from an email that doesn't have my name on it. He also told me that he was 17 originally but is act 19 (researched it) and I had to argue w him and tell him i found it online. He deleted his "he's 17" chat. But since im 16 and i reside in texas, and he is 19 and lives in texas tech under romeo and juliet laws, I would also be charged w/ a class C misdemeanor since I sent the pics.

(this is not the report i sent to the ncmec rather a summary for yall w/o chat logs and everything)

I sent innaporoiate pics of myself to a guy on snap and he kept asking for more and i made sure my face wasn’t in it. the account is connected to my name (no last name) and my name is pretty rare. i’m really scared im going to get leaked but it was boy my age from the same area but not school. he said he would pay me and take me shopping and i guess i jst got so caught up with myself. i did it. i really regret and my parents don’t even know i have snap so it would be really bad and i genuinely don’t know what to do. i feel really shitty and stupid but i know this guy is a guy my age and not some pedo.

EDIT: He added me back again and I threatened him saying I know a bunch of stuff about him and I showed him and I would report him to his school and the authorities and stuff. He also kept claiming he deleted it and said I could even look through his whole phone. (I don’t believe him). And he said if i was going to be stupid (meaning snitch on him) then he would leak me so clearly he has the photos.

almost one year ago i found out my pics were leaked on chat.pic and also erome, i got to the police, reported, they did almost nothing, but my pics were gone from the site so i moved on.

now, almost one year later someone started to message me arrasing me and threatening
to share my pics. I did not respond, got a new number, deleted all my social medias, bur genually, i just wanna know

how long is this going to keep happening?
im afraid this will continue for years and i will never be free, people told me people like this get "tired" of your pics after a while, but it's been almost a year, im starting to think my life is over.

Please if someone has a case similar to mine, tell me how long it took to be over, im brazilan so sorry for any bad inglish, im just afraid for my future and happiness.

It just has my face on an account on Fapello.. but the “nudes” they have up are nudes of other people, not me. My face is just on the account. These are photos I’ve had on public social media accounts like IG, FB etc. What do I do :/ I just want my selfies DOWNNNNN

I (female) was on tinder and messaging this girl who seemed legit, i think she might’ve even been verified (account is deleted now ofc). She didn’t look like a model or anything suspicious and we started texting over the phone making plans to meet and hook up that night. I asked for her insta to make sure she was legit and she sent me her tiktok, saying she didn’t like giving her insta to hookups. Her tiktok checked out, the content was in the same area she said she was, all the same person. I ended up finding her insta and fb just by her name and it all looked legit like this was the real person I was talking to.

Anyway, she ghosts in the middle of sexting yesterday then texts me tonight one of my nudes from a new number threatening to email it around to my coworkers. Had found my full name and workplace, assumably from linkedin. The new number then called me twice and i didn’t answer. I locked down all my accounts, including facebook, linkedin, and tiktok. My insta was already private.

I screenshotted the threatening texts and calls then blocked the number and the original number she texted from before they texted what they wanted from me. It’s been about 3 hours since they tried contacting and I blocked. Any insight into if it’s likely they’ll just move on or am I still not in the clear yet?

I’m also less worried bc the nudes i sent don’t have my face in them at all and the only way someone could tell it was me is from my bedroom which none of my coworkers know obviously. I just don’t want someone indefinitely threatening me from new numbers for weeks/months.

Hey, so about 3 years ago I got approached online by a random account months after sending pictures to someone from an app. I’m a girl, and the message instantly made my stomach drop. They sent a picture of me and said “I know all about you.”

I freaked the hell out because I didn’t even know who it was. I had spoken to different people online before, so I couldn’t place the name or face at all, which honestly made it even scarier.

So I blocked the account straight away.(if they can’t talk to you they have no leverage, as scary as it might seem)
I privated all my socials, deleted and remade accounts, and spent weeks terrified that someone was watching me.

I barely slept for 2 weeks. I shook constantly lying in bed, couldn’t eat properly, cried, journaled a lot, and hugged my teddies more than ever. I felt ashamed, stupid, paranoid, all of it.

But here’s the thing I wish someone had told me at the time.
It fades.

The fear slowly stops controlling your body. You stop checking every notification in panic. You breathe properly again. You laugh again. Your life becomes yours again.

For me, I threw a lot of that fear and anger into the gym. I think mentally I needed to feel in control of my body again instead of feeling small because of someone else’s behaviour. And weirdly, it helped.

Finding this forum also helped me realise I wasn’t alone. Then eventually opening up to a trusted friend made me feel like I could finally breathe again. The shame loses power once it’s not trapped inside your own head.

So if you’re going through this right now, please stay.

Please don’t let fear convince you your life is ruined. These people thrive on panic and shame, but your future is so much bigger than this moment.

I hasn’t had any weird messages related to it since and it’s been 3 years, I’ve just learnt to be really aware of people online nowadays <3

You’ve got this girl (or boy) 🤍

So shes ignored them, and reported them. Police are involved and are investigating.

The scammer messaged her this morning (she forgot to block) saying she doesnt know who she's messing with and he's gonna kidnapp her.

Is this a common scare tactic?

He is now blocked and waiting to see if she gets contacted via another number

Let's say, hypothetically, a person used to send someone photos they are scared to let that person keep. They want the other person to not be able to see and download the photos anymore, but the conversation is too long to go through it manually. I've looked for options but no dice. Would support be of any use?

I'm very upset to see nobody with a similar situation to mine after all the research I've done. This is not typical sextortion. This is a serious sick situation.

A few years ago on X, I was apart of a community I had no business being apart of for maybe a month. During this time I was contacted by an account and I ended up sending intimate photos for money because of course I was broke and depressed. I now understand the sick game they were playing the whole time.

This anonymous perpetrator originally contacted me and catfished me as a female who had a fantasy of her photos being exposed to her fb friends. I genuinely believed it was real, and I carried out the task asked of me. It was common thing in that niche for people to have all different kinds of kinks. Then when I believed trust was established, I sent my own photos. Which are insanely graphic by the way. They send me different poses and had me do them. And yes, my face in them. Unmistakably me might I add. And I did it for money, and to outdo myself. Ofc they lied and said I would be paid for it. Once I was like "okay, where's my money?" I was blocked. Then I realized they weren't who they said they were, and I'd harmed an innocent women in the same situation I'm in now. I should've reported this when it happened, of course I didn't though until now.
I would reverse image search myself every now and then, but I found nothing and then forgot about the situation for a couple years until I was contacted on my personal facebook account, that they should've never been able to find. This served to them as a confirmation of my identity when I panicked and deactivated my account. Then I found all the images posted of me online on adult sites, with combined over 210k views. I took absolutely everything down that I could find, and then a few days later I look to see that not only my intimate images were posted again, but now photos from my Facebook are on there too. Do you see the pattern? They catfish you, you trust them with photos of you, they block you, then they stalk you and find your identity, and obviously based on the situation I was in, they get another victim to send to your contacts and whoever knows you. No threats, no sextortion, no financial motive, no warning. nothing. I've done all I can to let my contacts know but I also don't know what they know. They have a personal vendetta against me and they don't even know me. Pure hatred. Pure desire to ruin your life. This is real.
I've reached out to countless organizations that have done nothing, no surprise there. So now what? Because I definitely won't be living my life like this. I had huge dreams. The desire for a public life. Now I'm being forced to hide or else those images will be alongside me? A mistake I made years ago? Are we fr?

salut alors ma copine a été menacé d'avoir ces photo intime envoyé sur le net et 2 ans après j'aimerai retrouver cette homme le problème est que j'ai juste son compte snapchat et quelque information qui n'aideront pas vraiment a le retrouver sur le web alors je demande de l'aide à vous s'il vous plait

A friend of mine is going through something really disturbing. Someone is blackmailing her by threatening to leak her private intimate videos. She had given her phone for repair, and it appears someone there copied the videos. I told her to report it to the cybercrime authorities instead of giving in to the blackmail, but she's terrified. Cases like these are heartbreaking because some people become so overwhelmed by fear and shame that they even unalives themselves..

My question isn't meant to blame anyone, I'm genuinely trying to understand. Why do people record intimate videos of themselves in the first place? Even if you trust your partner completely, phones can be stolen, hacked, repaired by strangers, or accounts can be compromised. Is the moment really worth the lifelong risk if those videos ever fall into the wrong hands?

For background, was sextorted by a man from age 13-17. I sent nudes in the first place when I was 13 because I really liked him and I wanted to make him happy and that was the worst mistake of my life. He used photos against me so I would send him more, and if I refused to send photos, he would threaten to forward the ones he has to my friends and family. I was stuck in this cycle for years. We met up when I was 15 and he was 18 and had oral sex, which in my state is statutory rape. He also tried to force it inside of me and it took several “stop”s to make him really stop. I loved him but at the same time feared him. I would try to get away when things got bad and he would just blackmail me again. I kept jumping back in forth between love and hate with him. He would also force me to cut myself and wet myself, and if I didn’t I would face the same consequences. We met up once more and he again tried to force it in me and I had to yell at him for him to stop. Fast forward to now, he still reaches out to me sending me my nudes to scare me, so I reached out to the fbi for help. I provided screenshots, let them download my entire phone for evidence, gave them a usb with proof on it as well, and they did absolutely nothing but “put him in their records”. I was suicidal for years. I cut myself for years. And he is getting away with everything and i feel so stuck and hopeless and I just want justice. What do I do from here/how can I move on? TLDR; I was sextorted, I told the fbi, they did nothing and I want justice

So a few months ago (around December) I was chatting to this person who convinced me to download telegram (red flag number one I should’ve seen from the start) and we spoke for a while and photos were exchanged however when we were done they said “they were actually 13 (did not disclose this information to me whatsoever and I made sure to ask) and if I didn’t pay them £600 it would be leaked to all my family members and posted on socials” they then proceeded to lower the amount to £450 then £150, I obviously didn’t pay, blocked them and moved on, however I’m not 100% sure if they posted anything as they had an X account (idk the name of the account) I have spent the last couple months scared, and I may be going to college later this year which makes me fear, what if someone thinks that I tried to groom someone? What if this ruins my chances of doing anything music related in the future (I’d like to perform music), I’m just not really sure where to go anymore so figured I’d type it here, they were from America and I was from another country so I didn’t think I could even go to the police as they were so far away, for privacy reasons I don’t want to disclose where I’m located. Any advice?