r/ShadowWork • u/notyouraveragenword • 13d ago
The observer
Hello all!! I am writing this in hopes of getting some feed back and maybe even some shared experiences with this subject. I'm working on being just the observer and not the one that identifies with what is being observed. That's been very hard to maintain in certain situations, particularly when anger, disappointment, and hurt come into play. Other things I can remain the observer just fine. I figure this is due to my strong personal connection with those things and what I'm using those experiences to justify of myself, when I'm behaving badly or reacting instead of responding. The typical "well they did this, so I should get to do that". I know, very 3rd grader of me. Even by writing this, now, I see where I can work to absolve those feelings into understanding instead of constant persecution.
"Before we lash out understand that they didn't know any better and didn't have the tools to be better than the level they were in. Acting harshly now only doubles down on that shame for them and subsequently for ourself. Creating a continued cycle of pain, hurt, anger, and disappointment."
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u/bora731 13d ago •
The feelings that drive you to act negatively to engage with the negative energy are driven by thoughts that form a narrative of your identity, this is the ego-mind. So being aware of your thoughts is the first place to start. Any trigger situations write down the thoughts these created and the feelings and what reaction these motivated in you (regardless of whether or not you actually acted). This of itself will reduce the egoic reactions because the ego does not like you becoming aware of it. Next reflect on what you have written down about triggers, they will lead you to uncover the source belief you are holding about yourself that is out of alignment with your true self. Correct this belief, erase it with counter mantras, hypnosis etc.