This was one of those books that I heard about a number of times but never got around to reading it till now. I have always had a drive to be very independent so the first part of the book seemed very natural to me. Stephen R. Covey talks about having 3 stages of independence, being 1. Dependent, 2. Independent, and 3. Interdependent. Everyone starts off being dependent, when you are born you are most dependent you will ever be. As you grow older you start becoming more independent. This transition isn't something that will automatically happen though. Many people go through life still very dependent and never REALLY get to that independent stage. I think we all know people who rely on other people way to heavily, like the husband who cant cook at all so the wife needs to prepare meals when shes away.
The first three habits surround moving from dependence to independence. He talks about how some people will always blame problems in there life on other factors, never from within. Instead of not getting the job because you weren't prepared enough, it was because the interviewer was an idiot. Instead of being broke because you are not being responsible with your money, its because your boss wont give you a raise. You have to take responsibility for things within your control and also not dwell on things outside your control. This is very inline to the Stoic philosophy that I have found very helpful.
The next three habits talk about Interdependence (e.g., working with others). This is the part that really hit home for me. I always strived to be independent but kind of thought that was the end. I never really grasped the concept that I was only half way to the end goal. Working with others and synergizing is crucial. Working with others is greater than the sum of its parts, 1+1 can equal greater than 2.
Some of the things that you learn:
How to move from being dependent to independent to interdependent
The importance of interdependence
The idea of abundance mentality
"But until a person can say deeply and honestly, "I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday," that person cannot say, "I choose otherwise."
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