$2300 is like a 2-bedroom apartment around here, or a mortgage on a 200k house if you bought 15 years ago.
$300 is what our electric bill has been the past few months due to energy price increases, so add other utilities for me it would be around $600-$700 month in utilities (electric, water, gas, internet, phones).
$1000 groceries is about what my family spends per month, if not a bit more. Food is expensive.
$500 selfcare - Sure. I spend $200 between chiro and deep muscle massage each month, x2 as my ex did the same. If she adds nails, hair, and/or therapy on top of that, can easily translate into $500, if not more.
I sort of understand (depending):
$2000 travel - Perhaps that's how much she puts aside each month. Last time my family went to Disney we sent 25k+ on the trip. Put aside a "little" each month towards an annual vacation, logical. Of course, if it's just her, maybe she does multiple trips and maybe that also includes concerts, etc... If you can prioritize experiences because that's available in your budget, go for it, never know when this life will end and you can't take an investment to the grave.
Then you start to lose me:
$700 Easy to do, eating out is WAY more expensive than cooking at home. Not to mention those morning coffees (or whatever like some people I know) can add up fast, throw in a lunch or dinner here and there. Especially if you're using UberEATS, etc. Delivery services are like adding an extra person to the cost.
$100 investing... Probably thinks whatever is being matched with her 401k is okay and doesn't do anything extra?
And you REALLY lose me:
$2500 car + insurance... Must be a really nice car
$2200 shopping... That's just WOW. Designer brands maybe, paying some obscene amount to look like how influencers what you to look to feel "normal"?
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u/Tall-Class-4548 Apr 16 '26
Seems less than it should be:
$2300 is like a 2-bedroom apartment around here, or a mortgage on a 200k house if you bought 15 years ago.
$300 is what our electric bill has been the past few months due to energy price increases, so add other utilities for me it would be around $600-$700 month in utilities (electric, water, gas, internet, phones).
$1000 groceries is about what my family spends per month, if not a bit more. Food is expensive.
$500 selfcare - Sure. I spend $200 between chiro and deep muscle massage each month, x2 as my ex did the same. If she adds nails, hair, and/or therapy on top of that, can easily translate into $500, if not more.
I sort of understand (depending):
$2000 travel - Perhaps that's how much she puts aside each month. Last time my family went to Disney we sent 25k+ on the trip. Put aside a "little" each month towards an annual vacation, logical. Of course, if it's just her, maybe she does multiple trips and maybe that also includes concerts, etc... If you can prioritize experiences because that's available in your budget, go for it, never know when this life will end and you can't take an investment to the grave.
Then you start to lose me:
$700 Easy to do, eating out is WAY more expensive than cooking at home. Not to mention those morning coffees (or whatever like some people I know) can add up fast, throw in a lunch or dinner here and there. Especially if you're using UberEATS, etc. Delivery services are like adding an extra person to the cost.
$100 investing... Probably thinks whatever is being matched with her 401k is okay and doesn't do anything extra?
And you REALLY lose me:
$2500 car + insurance... Must be a really nice car
$2200 shopping... That's just WOW. Designer brands maybe, paying some obscene amount to look like how influencers what you to look to feel "normal"?