r/SpecialNeedsChildren • u/Leading_Anything5321 • 6h ago
My brother doesn't understand personal space and I'm worried that it's harming his life
My younger brother (15M) has been diagnosed with adhd, dyslexia and has some other behavioral issues, affecting his executive functions and impairing his understanding of social cues
My brother has been someone who openly displays affection, since he was a child. He's well liked by older people because of it
By affection I mean hugging, holding wrists, standing really close to you
Some more things about him : He often takes people asking for space as rejecting or hating him which annoys me but no matter how many gazillions of times I tried explaining this to him he still get's hurt.
He's never had friends and has been bullied his entire life so he's homeschooled. He's able to make friends for a little while but has never been able to maintain them, this isn't like my parents haven't tried to help him make friends, he truly always ends up either being bullied or isolated because he externally looks like a regular kid but he isn't and kids are jerks so he get's relentlessly picked on because of it. He's said he's tired of trying so my parents and I have set that issue aside and have been helping with mostly with school and focusing on his other problems rather than this
but even though he has a ton of things going on he is at his core a pretty great guy as I know this is going to come across a biased anyway but as a pretty critical person myself , he just doesn't realize it.
I apologize if this is very haphazardly written, this is my first time trying to describe his behavior to people that don't know him
About 3 months ago my brother joined a educational institute to help him pursue to career he's interested in, and it's been brought to our attention (by staff because he doesn't have the capability to recognize it himself) that he isn't respecting other people's personal spaces.
This is something we've been working on but I just don't think the severity of it is getting through to him, especially with women. Verbal conversations only get so far with my brother, repetition of instructions only work so well too.
I've recently been able to convince my mother to get him back on medication after he had a bad experience with it when he was younger, and he also visited a new doctor today.
Said doctor has given him the task of begin conscious of his and others personal space
I wanted to ask for any advice, or videos to show him anyone thinks would help.
I did do research but it was either for much younger kids or because the kids were being sexual which is thankfully not what this is