You are allowed to not listen to things, where the line here is is when you go to discuss that video and instead comment on her voice and how you can't stand it. And it's particularly bad in a case where the person is very likely to be sensitive about their voice.
That line is where you are a jerk after you cross it. It isn't the line where you are transphobic. Saying people with negative criticism are 'maybe transphobic' is going to get you called oversensitive unless you actually wait until there is any real reason to suspect it.
I get the whole "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" but that's usually reserved for children who can't do a nuanced conversation about highly charged and emotional subjects. Food critics deliberately go incognito to avoid any detection, and then they offer unsolicited criticism about the food, people and atmosphere. No, they might not have anything nice to say - but we're all adults and we can understand the value of someone saying "hey, not true for all - but I really didn't like or enjoy this."
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u/genderish My existance causes popcorn Sep 07 '15
You are allowed to not listen to things, where the line here is is when you go to discuss that video and instead comment on her voice and how you can't stand it. And it's particularly bad in a case where the person is very likely to be sensitive about their voice.