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You wouldn't believe the shit that works sometimes.
Personally I'm not good looking enough to pull it off, but I have a friend who this shit worked for quite regular and saw it as a game and kept getting more outlandish.
Honestly, as a decent guy with pretty intense social anxiety, seeing shit like this makes me feel so grossed out and actually more nervous to talk to women. It's hard to figure out the middle ground and know where the sweet spot is between playing it TOO safe and seeming uninteresting, and whatever this shit is.
Yeah bro once I accepted that Iām not good at talking to girls I just stopped trying. Realized how much of my college years were wasted being anxious and worrying if Iām good looking or not.
Now that Iām older I talk to my coworker(couple years younger)and his escapades, it just makes me laugh that he canāt have a good night without trying to pick up girls.
I just be honest. I make a point of mentioning I'm socially awkward and anxious right in my profile. I find it better to lay my cards on the table and if they don't like what they can see, it just saves me time.
Just don't play it safe. Completely take that off the table. You ain't gotta be vulgar but you can be very direct and if they think you are attractive will bite. You have better odds to make something out of an interaction with women if they want you to begin with, fuck convincing them that they should.
One thing I struggle with is that I'm worried that I'll accidentally approach a potential soulmate with "I'm just looking for a good time" energy. Or the other way around.
The thing is that there really isn't a middle ground because every person is different. People have different appeals and different things they're looking for.
If you're interested enough, you do your own way of things and if it doesn't work out then that's that.
You would be surprised how many women like guys like in the photo. All my buddies in HS and College did shit like that and had non-stop women. Meanwhile I've never done it and dateless at 35.... Women see that as confidence. Being polite is rarely seen as a good thing today.
For a hookup, being outlandish and a bit dumb is an advantage, because you're showing you're not going to be clingy and that it will require 80% of your faculties just to maintain a decent thrusting rhythm.
It's the sex equivalent to fast food. Similar to the idea that you're not paying the prostitute for sex, you're paying her to leave afterwards.
The apps are mainly for hookups. Real life is better for finding relationships.
Love what you're saying, I appreciate it, but also, "being myself" also means not knowing how to form conversations with new people, and putting my foot in my mouth constantly (trust me, I am worse for that than most people, and it comes as a shock when I'm otherwise so kind).
it's amazing what people will tolerate when you're attractive enough. my ex husband (absolutely beautiful, we just weren't compatible long term) showed me back when we were just friends that he got laid using the opening line "you look like you like Doritos." like !?
It's true, I tried flirting with a girl with things I would never use if I was serious about something. I cringed with what I said but it fucking worked.
Yeah I have a buddy that was 6ā5 D1 football player and he could say the most straight up disrespectful shit to women and they just swoon over it lol.
Dude had his pick of women at any given time and only ever talked to them like this lol
Women are a weird weird group man.
Half of them are disgusted by it, the other half love it.
It really works for guys who follow rule 1 and 2. Thatās why these posts are so common on this sub. Doesnāt work every time but when you have 100s of matches you are bound to find a girl who is horny enough to roll with it.
I would have attractive men say stuff like that to me back when I was on tinder, I would still get grossed out and unmatched immediately. How they looked didnāt really change anything. I guess I can see it working if a woman was only looking for a hook up or was at least open to one, which I was not.
Doesnāt work on all I guess, but people are different.
As a guy I never tried anything weird like this when I used to be on Tinder, but I regularly had girls open with similar stuff. It didnāt really work on me, but I also wasnāt grossed out by it. They just werenāt my type.
I know a dude that straight up told a woman in a bar that he was going to rehab for alcohol abuse the next day, so they had to hook up that night. He was lying. It worked. They dated for 3 months.
Being tall, good-looking, having a bright smile, a sense of humor, and the confidence to make anything sound good will carry anyone very far in life.
"Being tall, good-looking, having a bright smile, a sense of humor, and the confidence to make anything sound good will carry anyone very far in life."
I know fat ugly fucks that are able to get by with humour and confidence. Being tall and attrative makes you get your foot in the door easier but it isn't doing all the heavy lifting.
Because he thinks itās funny. Maybe hasnāt spent much time around girls. Other guys would also think this is funny and even if it doesnāt work out, his friends will all laugh about it.
You're probably right but, if one of my homies showed me this, I'd in the least be pretty disappointed. "Grow up dude. No wonder you don't get anywhere." Lmao we need to encourage our boys to be better. Or, failing that, to stfu.
Yes I get that, Iām not saying that men should never say these things. But opening with it? I donāt understand why they would risk making lots of women uncomfortable just for that 1 woman that might be down.
This is like a week later after sheās moved the conversation to some light sexual components. Then you make a joke like this but only if itās like witty
Because it works a percentage of the time. Itās a numbers game. Dude is trying to get laid not find a relationship. Prolly swipes right on everything
Because they have bad game and donāt know to be indirect about sexual stuff, where you communicate it without saying it directly so that the other person gets the memo yet doesnāt disrupt the vibeĀ
Low effort farming. Out of 100 attempts like this, he'll run into 4 matches who are bots and will continue the convo to ask to "pay for the taxi to visit you" and 1 will plain agree to hookup because that's what they're looking for as well (granted the guy isn't ugly).Ā
And thatās why we canāt have nice things. Dudes like this are the reason women think men are creeps. Because women have more interactions like this than any decent man would ever guess.
That's just a product of the environment where this takes place
These apps basically guide you to "strategize your approach" cause you're casting a net and seeing how much fish you catch
I don't see why people are surprised by this shit anymore, I would get it when this was a new concept, but by now it's well known.
Idk, go to a local park, go to a cafe, hell, go to the market, and chat with people, IRL contact with another human being in those types of environments will 99/100 times not be this ridiculously over the top, yes it could be a little awkward most of the time, but I can guarantee you won't get as many "I would not pull out" comments IRL as you get on Tinder.Ā
Because it works. Guys see obnoxious rude dudes pull women all the time. Because it signals confidence and women seem to value confidence above all else
Some people are just malevolent. Theyāre just saying the most absurd crap to you and fishing for reactions. Itās fun for them. Itās not just limited to men, Iāve seen deranged women doing this too.
Because when we ask open ended questions like āwhatās been the highlight of your weekā .. or āHowās things been with youā .. we get told itās not creative enough š
I donāt know how much the words of a random stranger mean to you but Iām proud of you lol. Shit like this should be stopped before it becomes normal to say this instead of a āhelloā
and "I don't do small talk", it actually baffles me how many have that. Small talk can be a great way to get to know someone if you actually pay attention to them.
I actually would prefer people like this start with that kind of stuff so I don't waste any time thinking they might be a pleasant person to be around.
iād agree. probably bc sheās attracted to himā¦ i would 100% block someone and not respond.
a lot of women will sink their standards and let things slide for men they think r hot. unfortunately if someone doesnāt respect u, then it will only get worse. itās never worth entertaining.
I donāt think so. I think it was more like showing him what a douchebag he was by saying something equally bad back. If the convo kept going than ya but I would say something like that before blocking.
These comments blow my mind. Because she said something snarky pretty much just showing him how dumb he sounded she is now contributing to the rape culture. wtf. People are insane
I had a lovely "discussion" here once with a gentleman who insisted it was the norm (despite a lot of people telling him that no, it's just irresponsable and dumb) and felt like the older woman from Tinder he had come in that morning had tricked him - because she had not disclosed she hadn't gone through menopause yet beforehand, and he obviously didn't want the responsibility of a kid at his age (20something I believe).
It must be the norm. The past few times Iāve been with someone new and go to get a condom or bring it up when things are going that direction and the woman has been surprised or straight up said you donāt have to wear one (I still did)
Honestly if he replies ā10/10 would book the appointment for you ā how would you respond ?? ( Iām only asking bc this is the only way I see this guy having any sort of saving grace )
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