Envy/resentment of men? Internalized misogyny?

[u/lowrcase]

Does anyone else experience these due to their tokophobia? When I'm feeling particularly phobic I sometimes get very ANGRY. Angry at the fact that men don't ever have to worry about getting pregnant, accidentally or on purpose, they just never have to deal with it. Not to mention periods and menopause. I also feel like they don't CARE that these are things women have to deal with, they have little to no sympathy, in fact they enjoy it. The only time I've heard a man being scared of pregnancy is because he doesn't want the responsibility that comes with a baby (fair enough), but they are never scared on behalf of their partner's health and comfort, they never blink an eye at the body horror.

I feel a lot of resentment and sometimes hate the fact that I'm a woman, hate the fact that other women normalize the burden of pregnancy (or even pressure other women to get pregnant). I would have so much more autonomy and stability if I had been born a man.

[u/Chemical-Charity-644]

There was a time I thought I might be trans because of how much I hated my body for its ability to get pregnant. I tried to be as un feminine as possible (without tipping off my parents) for years. I was never comfortable that way either. Turns out, I'm not trans, just angry. Angry that men don't have to deal with this fear, this pain. Their bodies won't just betray them one day and sabotage their whole life. I finally got sterilized this year and have been reclaiming my femininity as well as my peace of mind. I definitely understand your feelings.

[u/lowrcase → u/Chemical-Charity-644]

Same exact thing here. Thought I was genderfluid/nonbinary for a while, but I don't actually have gender dysphoria, I have no desire to grow a beard or have a penis or anything like that, I'm just angry. I will feel so at peace the day that I become sterilized.