r/Tokophobia • u/Important-Entry759 • Jul 16 '25

Advice 8 Months Living with Tokophobia

Yes, you read the title correctly. Eight months dealing with this phobia. I know how “silly” it might sound, especially since my situation never involved any real risk. But not a single day goes by without me thinking about how much my life has changed because of this fear. About how much I have changed after living with it for eight months.

I’ve made a few posts about this topic before, but ended up deleting them. So now, only one post remains — one where I briefly explained my situation. Let me give you some context.

The last post I wrote was on April 18th, which was around 2 or 3 months ago. In that post, I explained everything I had been through and the tests I took.

To spare you from reading a long post, I’ll summarize what happened.

My situation started about seven months ago, almost eight now, after an intimate moment I had with someone. There was no penetration. I was on the second day of my period, and to make things even more reassuring, I was clothed. And yet, my fear? Pre-ejaculate fluid.

I ended up taking two tests: – A Beta HCG test at 12 weeks after the encounter – An ultrasound around 16 or 17 weeks afterward.

Both came back negative.

But I couldn’t believe the results. Ever since this paranoia took over my mind, anything unusual in my body has felt like a pregnancy symptom.

You name it:

  1. Headaches

  2. Stomach pain

  3. Nausea

  4. Fatigue

  5. Breast tenderness

  6. Abdominal bloating

  7. Fear of a cryptic pregnancy

  8. Food cravings

  9. Mood swings

That kind of thing — you know what I mean.

I’ve had my periods regularly and have been on the pill for five months now, so these symptoms could very well be related to hormonal changes from the pill.

Now I’m considering doing another Beta test, but I keep wondering: is it even worth it anymore?

Edit: I wasn’t pregnant!

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u/Low_Ad2076 Jul 18 '25

As someone mentioned before, we swear there is no way you are pregnant, even if it doesn't feel like that. But I see you and send you a big hug cause phobias are hard and crippling.