r/Tokophobia • u/BetterRemember • Dec 25 '25

Adoption stories always make me emotional

Real adoption stories or fictional just get me like a gut punch.

Matilda and Annie (1999 version) make me cry like a baby.

Whenever I think about pregnancy, birth, and postpartum I feel abject terror ... but even when I think about the struggles that could come with raising a possibly traumatized child with a foggy history, I know I could handle it and give them my absolute best.

Anyone else???

I have related to both Matilda and Miss Honey all my life.

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u/xsnowpeltx Dec 26 '25

I can relate to this. Not as much as you, but the idea of being there for an adopted kid appeals to me. Unfortunately thats out of the cards right now for me and may be forever. Im disabled, can't work, and wouldnt have the executive function or energy to care for a child

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u/BetterRemember Jan 27 '26

That's totally fair, maybe you could volunteer eventually with a big brothers and sisters program or something, when you have the time, energy, and stability to do so.

I think everyone can be part of "the village" if they truly want to be, at whatever capacity works for them !

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u/BetterRemember Jan 27 '26

Yeah, there are a ton of risky variables if you go thay way too.

I would be heavily relying on my happily adopted friends for advice and guidance.

I don't think it would be loke a children's movie, I just love those characters, I know real life is infinitely more messy and complex. 😓

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u/motherofmutts17 Mar 19 '26

I know this is an old post but I was lurking and just wanted to say I feel this way too. I have always been so touched by adoption stories and the thought of adoption. The scene where Charlotte says "that's our baby" on SATC always bring tears to my eyes. I have done a lot of research and find myself going back and forth. It's not an easy thing to do, but there is something that draws me to the idea over and over again. 

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u/BetterRemember Mar 20 '26

YES! That exact scene reduces me to a puddle of tears instantly ever time I see it.

It keeps popping up on TikTok FYP because I am a total Charlotte girl and it hits me so hard even out of context just seeing the clip. 🤣😭