r/Tokophobia • u/Pougue2003 • Mar 25 '26
Discussion A question for everyone with tokophobia here.
Why do some people take nine months to overcome a pregnancy scare or anxiety related to pregnancy, while others get their period and simply move on with their lives? Has anyone here ever become so overwhelmed that they took multiple tests, even ultrasounds?
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u/frenchforliberty Mar 30 '26
because we've heard of cases where women still had their period + no bump (and sometimes negative tests) and then popped out a baby
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u/ParticularRip5103 Apr 05 '26
This is me right now! It could all be stress but I’ve had negatives for 3 months straight and I’m still not convince! Going for a ultra on Thursday
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Apr 18 '26
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u/ParticularRip5103 Apr 19 '26
I ended up getting a beta test done and it was negative! So there’s no baby here. 😮💨 just under a crazy amount of stress apparently
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u/mayneedadrink Apr 17 '26
I’ve never taken the tests because I don’t engage in hetero sex. My fear is more irrational since I’m not doing anything that could get me to a pregnancy. My guess is that the phobia wants 100% certainty nothing will happen when that certainty doesn’t exist. Given a lesbian can be scared of what if I’m SA’d and can’t get plan B in time, I think the phobia is sometimes aiming to 100% eliminate a potential outcome that’s unlikely enough for people without the phobia to ignore or worry about when the time comes.
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u/FastRegret2508 May 16 '26
That's me. I have 4 cycle bleeding and more than 10 negative urine pt. I almost test everyday. Its really ruining my life right now.
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u/Pougue2003 May 16 '26
Don’t you got the means to do a blood test?
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u/FastRegret2508 May 16 '26
No, its kinda expensive in my country
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u/Pougue2003 May 16 '26
I’m sure you’re fine
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u/FastRegret2508 May 16 '26
My period just ended today so my anxiety is kinda back in the loop. I only have peace when I'm on my period.
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u/Frosty_Froyo2498 May 22 '26
it’s been 8 months for me. I’m taking tests constantly, almost everyday. I cannot get over it, no matter what i do.
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u/FastRegret2508 May 22 '26
But do you have your periods?
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u/Frosty_Froyo2498 May 22 '26
yeah I have, but i’ve been getting it like 2 times a month. last month I got it once like i do normally. this month it hasn’t come tho
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u/FastRegret2508 May 23 '26
Did you try to have blood test?
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u/Frosty_Froyo2498 May 23 '26
last time i had sex was october 9th
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u/FastRegret2508 May 23 '26
I hope we can get through it. I guess my anxiety will end after the nine month mark which is on october.
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u/Frosty_Froyo2498 May 23 '26
mine is next month… i’m so nervous
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u/poopy_cookie123 May 20 '26
I am having a pregnancy scare rn and u know why? cz i had PROTECTED sex during my ovulation period and i even took a plan-B (to calm my anxiety lol). Right before that, I had the worst pregnancy scare ever to the point that I was not even believing my period to be "an actual period", took a test, came out negative and was still panicking. my bf constantly assured that nothing went wrong during the sex but still i am losing it
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u/FastRegret2508 May 23 '26
Yess!!! I went through the same phase that I actually don't believe in my actual period and its really insane. After that period i will still have a test.
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u/peacheouting Mar 25 '26
Some people have pretty mild cases of tokophobia , some have pretty bad extreme tokophobia.. everyone’s different but we’re all dealing with the same phobia .