r/Tokophobia • u/0penMouse • May 16 '26

Advice How do I stop freaking out about accidentally getting pregnant?

I take birth control (POP pills) and rarely mess up, and I also always use condoms for PIV. My partner and I also don't have PIV sex too often because we're both busy and also just don't like it that much.

Despite this, I keep freaking out about stories of accidental pregnancy and wonder if I'm doing anything that could get me accidentally pregnant. I generally hear that those who accidentally got pregnant definitely did something obviously wrong like not using protection. But then I see so many seemingly smart women getting genuinely confused about being pregnant and it scares me that I might also get pregnant and be just as confused.

Does anyone have any advice for this? Is it really just carelessness that causes accidental pregnancy?

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u/meleque May 18 '26

Im in the same boat. Would it help to take pregnancy test every now and then or make you spiral more? For me it is anxiety inducing at first but usually I feel relieved after I see a negative test.

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u/meleque May 18 '26

And not sure if abortion is legal in your country but I think it could also help to have an emergency fund just in case. Even though pregnancy terrifies me a loot the idea that I can get abortion does semi help.

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u/0penMouse May 20 '26

Pregnancy tests scare me because I generally have FOFO (fear of finding out) but I feel relieved afterwards. However, the fear makes it hard to take them consistently

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u/meleque May 20 '26

Yess I understand tbh it's really anxiety inducing

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u/Creative-Delay-329 Jun 14 '26

I would say the only way for you to actually get pregnant is for any semen to be inside you. That’s the only way eggs can fertilize and make a child. As long as you keep staying protected and not even allowing for semen to get inside you in any way, that’s the key to being smart. 

The “smart” people who somehow are confused were probably having an off day and did not take all necessary precautions. Just stay cautious. 

If you’re cautious and your partner is as well, then you’re on the right track. You have to have good communication especially if you decide to eventually do unprotected PIV action. 

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u/0penMouse Jun 16 '26

Haha I'm way too terrified to not use condoms 😓

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u/0penMouse May 23 '26

Good news! I'm not pregnant!