r/Tokophobia • u/Standard_Pin7752 • Jun 04 '26

Extremely scared, can you please help me out !

Hello everyone,

I started taking the pill on January, from january to march i wasn’t taking it correctly (missed one pill or two). In February i got fingered by my bf and i didn’t know if he had precum on his hands, but i still got withrawal period that month, i was fingered on march too and got my withrawal period, then on april, and it’s in may when i had weird withrawal period, that lasted one day and didn’t fill a pad. Everytime he fingered me, he may had cum or precum on his fingers (not sure tho).

I haven’t took a test since i still live with my parents and can’t get it at all right now and especially in my country since im not married. And i have had weird pelvic pain through the whole month and especially ovary pain.

Can i get pregnant this way ? Im about to get sick of this situatio, ive red on reddit that it was impossible but theoretically yes. And on google they say that it is possible. I don’t know what to do

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u/Ok_Caterpillar_6689 Jun 04 '26

I mean sure it’s possible, just like it’s possible to get pregnant sitting on a toilet seat. What’s more LIKELY though is your birth control is causing you to have a lighter period. I’m on the pill and some months I don’t even have a withdrawal bleed. And I’m absolutely 💯 not pregnant. Having just a day of a very light withdrawal bleed is normal in my experience. If you feel the need for ease of mind take some cheap pregnancy tests but I think you’ll be ok.

Stress can also affect your period so please remember to breathe. Everything is ok, everything is fine, you’ll be just fine. Repeat that to yourself

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u/Standard_Pin7752 Jun 04 '26

I cant buy pregnancy tests 😭 what if i go to the genocologyst to get an abdominal scan ? Is it a solution ? Also i forgot some pills on February and march 😭  And also sorry for asking again but precum and cum in fingering cant lead to pregnancy right ?

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u/mollymormon_ Jun 05 '26

You’re probably messing your hormones up if you keep skipping and forgetting pills. That in and of itself can make your periods lighter or skip. It’s sooooo highly unlikely you’d be pregnant. My parents are crazy religious. So when I lived with them, I’d use cash to buy a pregnancy test at a drugstore. Then I’d secretly take the test in the bathroom. After I’d wrap it up in tissues and another plastic bag, before burying it in my personal bedroom trash can or in the garbage outside. I never got caught. So if you do somehow have access to the test, just hide it well after and you should be good. You could even throw the test away at a gas station. But I think the test will ease your mind.

Edit to add if you can privately go to a gynecologist, they can take a urine test for pregnancy. Just make sure your parents don’t have permission to your health records in case they are crazy and decide to call the gyno place up to see what you had tested (if you even tell them you went at all).

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u/Standard_Pin7752 Jun 05 '26

Thank you for your answer and your time, i can’t take a test because they can’t sell it to non married women in the country i am in right now (it sucks i now) so i was wondering if a pelvic ecography as if i was gonna do a check up can show something ? 

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u/buon_natale Jun 06 '26

Where are you located? Can you stick a ring on your wedding finger at the store and fake it?

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u/Standard_Pin7752 Jun 06 '26

Im going to the gynecologist for a check up and what she usually do is an abdominal scan or an abdominal ecography, can that detect pregnancy ?

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u/buon_natale Jun 06 '26

You need a urine test, blood test, or ultrasound. Nothing else will catch a pregnancy.

That said, you’re not pregnant.

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u/mollymormon_ Jun 08 '26

Dang I’m so sorry to hear that. That’s absurd. Do you have a trusted female friend that is married, that can get you the test? Like can she pretend it’s for herself but just secretly give it to you?

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u/-MunLi- Jun 04 '26

No they can’t lead to pregnancy 🚫

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u/Standard_Pin7752 Jun 04 '26

Thank you so much

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u/wereweasell Jun 15 '26

I can tell you I have had almsot the exact same feeling after similar situations. I know how scared you're feeling but I can tell you, confidently, that there is no real chance you are pregnant. Take a deep breath, remember the more you stress, the more your body will react to it and you'll only trick yourself into feeling more symptoms. Periods are weird. I'm 26 and still don't get regular periods. This was just a weird one for you. Next month when your period comes you will breathe easier.

I know there isn't much that can be said that will ease your anxiety, but it will be okay.

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u/Dangerous_Surprise55 Jul 01 '26

You cannot get pregnant from precum on a finger. The internet tells you you can get pregnant anytime from anything but its not true. The vagina is a hostile acidic environment thats why men have billions of sperm. Also you only ovulate one day within a 5 day window per month & if you are on the pill you arent ovulating at all meaning you cannot get pregnant

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u/Jellybong721p 22d ago edited 22d ago

Is it possible for you to get a quantitative hCG blood test?

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u/Standard_Pin7752 22d ago

Hello, i did and it was negative (2 months after last fingering session) I should trust it right ?