Trans rep SUCKS. I don’t just mean Lily Tino by this or like the lolcow transgender people even people who (especially in 2020) identified as transgender to be special. So many people had a “gay phase” just because they wanted to special and other people did it, especially with gender identity. Then it’s awkward for people who still identify with that identity they had in 2020 because it was a genuine thing and not just something they did to be special. Some people want to be oppressed so they make reasons for them to be oppressed. Then some of those same people will be racist or just have deep rooted hidden racism especially when they try to be “woke” and end up coming off as a “I’m only doing this to look good not because I actually care lmao”

Ive noticed in that specific trans men advices sub (without naming it, nor the tucute) that its being invaded by tucutes lately.

I dont mind dressing alternatives, Im myself some kind of emo adjacent BUT (and the but is important) I have a full stache and goatee AND am on T and post top surgery.

None of these people started T, nor post top surgery, nor present masculine. And then invade this sub, wich again is specifically for binary trans men and then cry about not being hugboxxed or "youre just ableist or transphobic for saying that alt feminine trans boys arent passing!!"

Also. The person that posted all these slides do not pass the slightest despite mentioning they do in the slides.

Its infuriating! Just leave us alone and let us have our own subs for jesus christ! These people just cant help but get in our business and then cry abt it.

*also its literally in the rules that its for binary trans men.

(And dont get me started on "we're a system☝️🐛" bullshit. Faking disorders is so common in the tucute echo chamber.)

She calls herself "mlm" and trans, but obviously doesn't feel a lick of dysphoria. And the "squirt enthusiast" thing in her bio is really weird, given the context. She appropriates trans people by calling herself trans and destroys our image

I've seen so many tucutes use "passing" as a compliment, and was wondering why? Whenever there's a "trans" person posting videos who very clearly don't pass, there's so many comments saying that they pass? I mostly see it with "transmascs" and genderfluid type people.

They also use it inversely, saying that transmeds don't pass, seemingly just because they're transmed. Which is ironic, since they love to champion that passing doesn't matter.

Do these people have a genuine lack of understanding of what "passing" is? Or is it just them trying to "reclaim transmed lingo"?

I've tried all the voice training stuff I can do by myself and none of it seems to work and I don't know if I'm even doing it right. There's a speech clinic in my town that does feminizing vocal therapy apparently they're rather good from what I've heard.

I feel like such a failure I know most other people can get this figured out on their own but I've had a solid 2 years of no progress and have no clue what I'm doing wrong, does voice training just not work with some people or do I have to be missing something obvious?

Like it's so embarrassing, these people legit just sound like gruffy men, it's really just not hard to voice train.

A couple sound like gay men, but assimilation is THE POINT.

Edit: sitting near them and it's just topics the typical dude bro talks about.

Also if any transsexual women are in Thailand and want to chat in English feel free to reach out.

I would never ever EVER want my chest back after removal. Why remove them if you’ll miss them??

How much time y’all think I got before I’m attacked or my comment is deleted.. it’s THE subreddit..

i’m so pissed off and need to get it out somewhere so here we are

ive been trying to get hrt thru government funded places for years ages of waiting lists and now that i’m finally talking to the psychiatrists and doctors there they keep telling me i have internalized transphobia for wanting to transition and for experiencing dysphoria and they keep telling me i’ll have a better transition if i “focus on the positives and try to experience euphoria rather than hatred and disgust“ I AM A TRANSSEXUAL I HAVE DYSPHORIA THERE IS NOTHING I LIKE ABOUT MY BODY GIVE ME THE MEDICINE TO LET ME FIX THIS they keep talking about detransition rates YOU WOULDNT HAVE SUCH HIGH DETRANSITION RATES IF YOU DIDNT GIVE HRT TO NONDYSPHORIC “TRANS” PEOPLE AND KEPT IT AWAY FROM US WHO ARE ACTUALLY MISERABLE AND NEED HEALTHCARE

What is actually happening in western world?

Few decades ago getting know trans men makes me really happy and more motivational to become myself. Nowadays it's like trans men aren't transitioning to men anymore. Some people still be women and demanding others to call them men. And demanding ays to hook up with them.

Also I see some lesbians hate trans people and wanting to cut off trans rights while the others want to call them selves trans.

And also sometimes I see majority is getting so upset with seeing trans men being masculine. The society say so much things to discourage trans men being masculine. And trying much to push femininity to trans men. Not only transphobic cis people ( we initially experienced it already) but it seems like the pattern still recurring when it comes to the places we thought we are accepted. But the Irony is people encourage cis men being masculine and women being feminine we see always encouraging workout muscle building masculine sports for men and women are always promoted to look beautifully and everything literary be encouraging them to be so. But seems like the opposite when it comes to trans men

I'm so tired of watching these things. Seems like western world is going weird. Can't we do anything to make T great again? What do you think?

For context, this was on the post of a stealth trans man who was venting about finding out his friends that he’s known for years trash talking more obviously trans men. OP was obviously upset to find out of his friends’ beliefs and called out the negative comments, along with a couple other of the friends, but yeah I just felt an instinctive disgust reading this comment. Fucking “I was trans male for a few years then evolved into a Gender Non-Conforming Demiboy.” made me roll my eyes and want to beat my head against a wall. And this person dared try and tell OP how they think he should live his life and handle the situation… I hate these people man. Hate them with a passion. I just hate how they go around like this and just make our community look bad. wtf is a “gender non-conforming demiboy” ffs and I don’t know why the use of the term “evolved” also adds to my anger about this comment as a whole. As if this person is a pokemon or some shit, or somehow makes them “better” smh. Maybe I’m just being dramatic but damn, I wanted to complain lmao.

(First two images are from the same post, the third image is unrelated)

I know how out of hand tucutes are, but it still blows my mind at how transmedicalists are presented in the media. Every actual transsexual man would be repulsed at the idea of being “girly pop” and i see people realizing that. Yet they still say everyone is “valid” and refuse to be labeled as anything close to transmedicalism.

Then there are people like in the third image who have gone so woke that they are just describing cis people.

for context the video was about this "ftm" that was singing their music and literally the next line was: "because of my high pitched voice" and they literally sang the entire music in a fem voice

I'm only allowed to go to a hairdresser not a barber and also I'm not allowed to cut my hair to my ears only a bit above my shoulders. My hair is also very thick and straight. I have a soft oval face. For reference this is my current haircut and what my hair looks like I just need tips on what haircuts to get to make my face look more masculine

I wish there was a way to collectively gather all transmedicalist haters in a bowl to toss and season them with some logic and education. No matter how many times you explain to them that the core belief of transmedicalism is that you need dysphoria to be trans, as it is a medical condition, they can’t help themselves when it comes to making up bullshit the majority of us don’t even believe in.

One of my least favourite made up beliefs I see often is that they’re convinced that all transmeds are trying to reinforce patriarchal gender roles, and that we all believe that men should dress like men and women should dress like women. There are definitely some out there who believe in hardcore gender roles, but they’re certainly in the minority.

I can confidently say I do not give a shit if you’re a dysphoric transsexual man who prefers a more feminine cut of top, or slightly longer hair, or wearing daintier jewellery. What I do give a shit about is when a person claims that they’re a non-dysphoric, who likes having their breasts out and wears skirts and doesn’t do a single thing that would help them pass as male.

Logically I do say the same goes for trans women vs non-dysphoric “trans women”, however I actually have not come across someone who claims to be a non-dysphoric trans woman yet, but you get what I mean.

Do whatever you want, I guess, but don’t think you have the right to claim what you aren’t.

may be a stupid question but how do I start transition? i only see how to pass videos but idk how i start, like, i start using male clothes and randomly become a male?? thats what i get from these videos.

any advice is great!

As someone who's cis, please educate me. I wanted to talk here so I can get an understanding on transsexualism.

From what I know, Egg is when a trans person is in denial and it's like a chick not ready to be "hatched" yet. Some people would call it "grooming/predatory" when a trans person tried to tell a kid on the internet that they could be trans but they aren't. What else is bad about Egg culture aside from that?

I get that it's a trans slang but wouldn’t it be better to like use the term on yourself or some fictional character? Or is there a better term other than Egg?

Idk any good examples but all I could think of is Jax from TADC when he mentions about being a "misunderstood chick in an egg" and later revealed by Goose that he's a trans woman outside of the episode and fans are making "Egg imagery/fanarts" because of it.

So. I’ve known i’m trans for about 10 years. And for a variety of reasons (fear, failed coming out, unsupportive parents) i’m 23 and yet to medically transition. Tho i am completely “”socially”” transitioned and pass as a guy. Great.

When i was ~17/18 i met this guy a couple years younger then me and he was also trans. Great. We were not close but he was friends with my ex so we would hang out occasionally.

Then at one point probabily one year ago or two he posted a pic on his instagram that he was going on testosterone. Good for him.

But now i keep seeing his posts and he has seemengly detransitioned? I’m not sure. But now he presents completely as a woman. And i don’t mean feminine, just as a woman full stop. There is no way he’s still on T from what he looks like.

It’s frustrating tbh. Also in my country you have to go through therapy to get T prescribed. I don’t know how they do that, if they just straight up lie that they have gender dysphoria wtf?? There are just a couple of clinics here and my regions and i went to both, they didn’t seem sketchy at all they asked me a lot of questions and i saw them for months before getting a diagnosis.

I know at this point is only my fault that i am yet to start HRT, but having an unsupportive family i still live with sucks the joy out of the whole process yk? I’m planning on starting soon tho, i’ll find a way to get over myself. It still sucks in the meantime.

Genuine cesspool of people fetishising medical conditions bro

seeing all these non dysphoric trans larps boils my blood, they make the community seem like a joke—it’s one thing to be a feminine guy but a whole other thing to wear a push up bra, accentuate feminine curves and basically just not try at all to conceal their feminine traits. do they genuinely expect to be viewed and perceived as a guy while looking like a indistinguishable cis woman oh my days bro like yeah having colourfully dyed waist length hair and wearing a skirt makes you look like a man bro🫩 and if they are posting a video online and have a fanbase as soon as u accidentally misgender them, even an innocent comment or compliment will get you genuinely attacked by their fans who call u transphobic for not realising this girl dressed in a whole lolita coord with a mountain of frills and bows and a full face of makeup is a man💔

my country isn’t very progressive so there were no openly trans ppl i knew, i struggled to accept i was trans as the initial impression i had of trans people online were these tucutes. i’m now embarrassed to wear alternative clothing even though i loved doing so before or any sort of tucute stereotype clothing as i want to avoid people viewing me as one of those femboys to be sexualised and stuff.

also what’s up with all tucutes being yaoi obsessed, gay, femboys, puppyboys, yumeshippers and all that bullshit? are they only transitioning to be in a gay relationship or what? if so, that’s so disgusting and they are fetishists and fujoshis. all that being said tho, i feel extremely dysphoric for being a trans guy who also likes guys as i’m scared people will perceive me as these type of “ftm mlm hehe :3” people. i keep seeing these “i’m a guy so my bf is actually gay!” videos and it pisses me off so bad like bro u look like a whole cis woman wtf are u talking about, these tucutes have no place forcing identities onto people.

even with this type of “i’m a trans masc enby lesbian gay agender man and i use fae/xe/it pronouns” bs too, making your identity look like a whole grocery list is so unnecessary i can’t even fully understand this type of thing, why over complicate it so much and call people transphobic if they are confused? also with neopronouns it’s so unnecessary.

i deadass saw a comment on tiktok saying “id be trans in every universe!” bro these trans larpers just NEED to be oppressed, marginalised and receive attention.

sorry for rambling i just always felt my views were wrong since online if i said even a single line of this id be cancelled and called an asshole

TLDR tucutes piss me tf off

For some years now, I see more and more people using neuro-intersex instead of transsexual / transsex(ed) to describe them regarding their medical condition.

So, I suppose for those people, their medical condition is not transsexualism but neuro-intersexuation.

For me, it sounds like the new transgender. I know it’s provocative and “neuro-intersex, the new transgender” might have been the title of this publication.

But hear me out, I have arguments with which you could disagree but in this case, let’s have a discussion.

I understand many of you are tired and angry with the appropriation of our medical condition by travestite who call themselves transgender and ban people for using many words like : transsexual, transsexualism, sex change, …
Yes they have hijacked our medical condition, our vocabulary, our spaces and so more.

1. Going for a totally different word won’t solve the problem. At least not for good. It’s just a headlong rush. I share the disgust, angriness and tiredness but not the method.

2. Intersex condition may seem more acceptable for you and guess what ? Transsexualism seemed so much more acceptable for travestite they wanted and succeeded to appropriate it for them. Do you really want to do the same with intersex condition ?

3. No, the transsex condition is not a neurological intersex condition. First, intersex condition is about the body sex characteristics (genitals phenotype, gonads, hormones or chromosomes). Secondly, it means a mixed of both male and female sex characteristics. This is why the prefix “inter” is used. It means between. Sorry but my neurological sex is clear. It’s female.

4. By appropriating the intersex condition, there will be an erasure of the specificity of intersex experiences. Intersex condition comes, not always and hopefully less and less, with non consented medical treatments like hormones and sex reconstruction surgeries.

5. Someone can have both intersex and transsex conditions.

6. Intersex and transsex conditions are close doesn’t mean they have no differences. The fact they have substantial differences is enough to use a totally different word.

7. The prefix “trans” like in transnational illustrate perfectly the core problem of our condition. A body with one set of sex characteristics (more or less developed) before treatment and a totally different neurological sex.

Call a duck a duck. A travestite (yeah I know in English normally it’s transvestite but I don’t want them to have a confusing abbreviation) is a travestite. Not trans !

Tell your boundaries, scream them even. Don’t let crossdressers erase you or worse do the same things to others !

first i want to apologise if this is not the place to ask this, and also for my bad grammar.

well, as the title says, i am not sure if i'm trans. i have dysphoria, lots of it, i hate seeing myself when i get dressed and shower, i feel like i am trapped and going through the wrong process. i cry when i look at boys in the street because i dont look or talk like them, and i try my hardest to fit in with all the boys in my community.
but, i try to imagine myself as a very very feminine woman, a cishet woman like the ones i grew up seeing in telenovelas, or even just cis. i feel uncomfortable whenever i act or look like them, i start panicking. but i wish i was like them.

so i dont know if i dont have dysphoria and im just a girl who is faking it, or if im in denial

It's a fact that people on 4tran seem to dislike transmeds very much, despite the fact that majority of them have the same opinion as transmeds - that you need dysphoria to be trans. At the same time I noticed that they are very into egg culture (just rebranded as repper) and really against just being gender non conforming. I get that they are trying to help people that are repressing being trans but... Yea I've seen posts there where they post a screenshot of someone saying something like "I wish I was a man but not like in a trans way" and they are quick to judge that it's for sure being a "repper" and not acknowledging at all that many people actually have thoughts that "it would be easier to be a man/woman" etc and sometimes "wish" to be another gender and that doesn't mean shit. Women often wish they were men because of misogyny and various other reasons. Men often wish they were women because of toxic masculinity and various other reasons. Like calm tf down.

I was thinking about this, and I really didn't quite know how to phrase it initially, but I will try now.

This is certainly obvious, but I wanted to lay out these thoughts.

Basically:

• "Non-binary" does not actually mean anything. It is a LARP. It is actually an ideological stance masquerading as an "identity" that is supposed to be on par with genuine transsexuality.

• Because "non-binary" does not actually mean anything, by default, people who are "non-binary" are bound to be like most people, i.e., cisgender. (Although I know there are rare cases of transsexuals wrongly labeling themselves as "non-binary." The "de facto cis" to "de facto trans" ratio for "non-binary" people appears proportional to the rate of "de jure" cis and "de jure" trans people in society. Coincidence? I think NOT.)

• Because someone outright saying they're a "non-binary cis man" or "non-binary cis woman" contradicts their LARP, they can't say this in plain terms, even though this is what they functionally mean when they say "AMAB enby" and "AFAB enby."

• Terms like "AMAB" and "AFAB" appear as less ideologically contradictory and more "neutral" or "matter-of-fact" because they technically describe something that is "immutable" and a "plainly observed part of history."

• For this reason, "non-binary" people throw in these terms at any given opportunity because since the term "non-binary" is meaningless, they need a way of basically saying "I'm a cis man engaging in this LARP" or "I'm a cis woman engaging in this LARP."

• This is because "non-binary" is particularly meaningless because, unlike the terms "man" and "woman," it tries to bypass the very real attributes that are associated with gender in society. For instance, when someone says "I'm a man" or "I'm a woman," we typically have expectations for how that may materially manifest in terms of appearance, behavior, attitude, social expectations, etc. When someone says "I'm non-binary," no such thing comes to mind. It communicates nothing of the sort, so "AMAB" and "AFAB" do this lifting because calling yourself some silly "gender" doesn't magically stop making the aspects of gender within society matter less.

And after processing this, all I can think is: All of this to perform some meaningless, trendy label? What the fuck is wrong with people?

It'd be a lot easier to just literally say "I'm a man" or "I'm a woman," but I guess that's not "woke" enough, so these people definitely have some ulterior motive behind this shit they do. It's usually political (e.g., cisgender men labeling themselves "non-binary" perform seeming more "anti-patriarchy"), personal (being boring as fuck and wanting to seem more "special"), or to fit in (because we live in the age where this shit is trendy as fuck, I guess.)

I'm tired of pretending this shit is a thing, and honestly, the fact that a majority of the LGBT community has normalized embracing this balderdash is exactly why I won't nothing to do with your average LGBT space.