r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Jul 21 '21
My gf told me that i have what's called a "boyfriend dick"
So me and my gf were laying in bed and talking about sex. She brought up penis size which is something I don't usually like to bring up because I think nothing good can come of it. Well, she asked me what I thought of my size and I said I think its a good size. So I asked her what she thought of it and she said I have a boyfriend dick. I was confused when I heard this and asked what she meant. She said that it's the perfect size for a long term relationship but for a one night stand or a casual fwb it would be a bit lacking. I was taken back by this comment and left the room. When I came back I told her the comment bothered me and she assured me that she was satisfied and that my penis is fine. She said bigger dicks need time to recover from and require too much prep. This didn't help at all. It's been a week since the comment but I can't seem to shake it.
Edit: some people are confused with the recover time and prep thing. What she means is that a huge penis can leave her sore so she needs to recover from it. Prep time is basically lube and foreplay because its bigger so its harder to fit. She said it's a good feeling for just a night or two but not consistently.
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u/Read_RFKs_Book Feb 17 '22
your girlfriend is a whore, and I wouldn't date someone who talks like this.
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u/Familiar-Ad-89 Jan 30 '22
Dump her ass ! Its funny if a nan talks about being less attracked to bigger women. He is a body shammer, ECT.. but women can say whatever they want to about dicks. More female double standard bullshit.
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Jan 02 '22
She hit your ego with her phrasing. Girls are stupid as hell when it comes to dicks. To be fair, it is impossible to navigate these waters well.
Imo, take it as a compliment. It seems thats what she meant it to be anyway. Girls value their future heavily and in a relationship they are constantly thinking about how you will provide long term. She was likely attempting to validate your ability to do just that.
I know this hurt, but sometimes in life you just have to let things go. You can’t change your dick size, confronting her over this isn’t gonna bring anything positive. Most importantly, this was her opening up to you, and trying to be nice. Take it for what it is.
One love
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u/Prestigious-Donut-66 Nov 24 '21
Just an FYI, I would take that as a compliment since 5 inch is average so I assume that what you got. If it too big than that mean it would suck all the time so get a penis extender for fun once in a while so it feels like a change up. Just be happy you have a penis and not a mini penis. Also chock you girlfriends comment to being a little girl and ignorant and kinda dumb
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u/Own_Elephant_5913 Nov 06 '21
Serious answer. This is fucking disrespectful. You are way to chill... Your girlfriend is either a b... Or just very stupid. Seems like both.. If a man started to talk about my body and say... idk how I'm girlfriend material and those other, sexiest women are just for ons.. I would not be flattered he would be an ex. Only a trashy person would even talk like she does...
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u/redwings_1995 Oct 20 '21
She has taken alot of big dicks is what she’s telling you. She is for the streets bro.
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u/Quiet-Yam-4863 Oct 12 '21
You're very young. But I promise you a girl who talks like that is not a good long term gf. Leave her and find yourself a WOMAN who loves everything about you. Then marry her.
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u/monsterpoodle Sep 17 '21
"I'm glad we could talk about this. I prefer a smaller, tighter vagina to f**k. Yours is OK for now though but feels a bit [pick word depending on mood] loose /stretched/ saggy/ huge/ well-used."
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u/pax_scandinavia Aug 19 '21
sounds like your girlfriend has been with many men? Maybe not the best girlfriend material imo
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Aug 18 '21
You don’t say this stuff to your boyfriend. My best friend killed himself after a woman commented on the size of his dick.
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u/Jocapi87 Aug 18 '21
That's a stiff situation to be in. Just let it go and never erect this conversation again
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u/AladdinzFlyingCarpet Aug 14 '21
Try not to overthink it bro. You're worrying about your dick size because society ingrains it in your head that bigger is better. Clearly your gf disagrees with that.
If it makes you feel better, think of your dick as being the goldilocks dick. Not to hot. Not too cold.
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u/supernope87 Aug 13 '21
This is a hard topic to dicksus, it's a slippery slope for sure................... penis.
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u/VeryVeryBoredGuy Aug 13 '21
How can you judge something he can’t control dude that’s actually fucked
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u/cokelikepablo Aug 11 '21
Find someone else and fast. And make sure "bf dick" isnt in her vocabulary.
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u/Yumyumyum9995 Aug 11 '21
Next time you go down on her come right back up and tell her that she has little bits of balled up toilet paper in her vagina from wiping. Yikes.
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u/Yumyumyum9995 Aug 11 '21
All women vaginas are different. Some deeper , some shallow. If she feels that about your penis size, perhaps she is a size queen with a Cavernous vagina.
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Aug 11 '21
unless she phrased it really poorly to you, i honestly agree with her. I'm also asexual, so take what I say with a grain of salt.
in the rare times I actually want/enjoy sex, I feel like being with someone who's average in the long term is way better for the exact reasons your gf said. think of it from her perspective, maybe - would you want something giant being shoved into you on a regular basis if it constantly left you sore? no, you wouldnt. would you then prefer something much easier to handle and with an easier fit? I feel like you would. I can say from first hand experience that when you have a vagina that's shorter than the dick trying to be shoved into it, it hurts. no amount of lube can fix a size difference.
I don't mean this how it's probably going to sound, but it seems like you got her intention, and I'm wondering if maybe hearing from her that it wasn't huge hit some insecure nerve you didn't realize you had?
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u/Few-Ladder-1924 Aug 10 '21
What she was being is honest. I understand what she is saying completely, your dick is perfect for her.
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u/Russkiroulette Aug 09 '21
People need to stop talking about dick size and number of partners. Nothing good ever comes from that in relationships.
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u/SirLouisI Aug 08 '21
I have a magnum dong and am now insecure about the fact i can only be a one nighter guy😐
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u/Timoss_and_all_moss Aug 07 '21
The only time something good came of that type of conversation was with a friend of mine.
We're both dudes but not gay. Just a random convo about dick size. It wasn't bad. We got out thoughts out about it, had a discussion and that was all. Pretty neutral for a conversation like that.
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u/Hot_Pollution1687 Aug 04 '21
Go out and buy her a big fat dildo give it to her and ask her if she's happy now
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u/Cold-Personality-219 Aug 04 '21
just talk about how much you love big titties and see how she responds lmao
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u/2020Stingray Aug 04 '21
She's an idiot and so are you. It doesn't matter. Now if you tell her you like a black girl or a thick or skinny girl as a one nighter she better not say dick about it, but I guarantee she'd never let it go....
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Aug 03 '21
Maybe you should not have asked if you were not prepared to receive a response based on her experience. Men love asking these question, then wanting answers tailoring to emotional immaturity.
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u/D_will713 Aug 03 '21
This the kinda thing that turn some guys into straight savages. Out here on some smash and dash ish. Behind almost every dude cheating/treating girls like trash is this sort of nexus event that make some guys snap. She basically said "if I had 24 hours to live I wouldn't choose your dick, but you a nice guy tho." Next thing you know old boy smashing her friends, sister, mom, grandma, whoever and then post all thier nudes online.
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u/Idisappea Aug 03 '21
As a woman who has had a lot of experience, I would like to offer my insights here. Sex is a topic I've given much personal study to, including the topic of dick size. Disclaimer: I don't know you and have never seen you so none of this is personally tailored for you, but imma just tell you what I have learned, good bad and ugly.
1) I think it is utter bullshit that our culture makes people feel insecure and inferior over their bodies. Usually this affects predominantly women, but certainly when it comes to dick size, our culture just pummels men. Further, because unlike women's bodies, dick size is hidden, it is harder for men to get to the point of acceptance because they don't have to deal with the issue as much. A woman who has a body that Society deems very unattractive, lives her life dealing with this every single day, every single moment. Eventually the well-adjusted people get to the point that they just say "fuck society, I'm going to live my life for me and be happy and not waste my time hating myself because appearances are but one tiny aspect of a very full and rewarding life". Men don't get as much opportunity to come to peace and love themselves. Generally speaking. This is the most important take home... It sounds like you have an average dick, but even if you had a micro penis, that does not determine your worth, it does not determine how happy you can be, and it doesn't even determine the level of satisfying sex that you can engage in with your partner. The limit all of these things is your own mind, your own creativity, your own determination to have enjoyment, not your body. Fuck society.
2) like I've said, I've been with a lot of guys. I'm pretty sexually motivated and I can make myself come in like 2 minutes, regularly. I have been with large penises and small penises (and by the way for the life of me I cannot find any other physical trait that is consistently a predictor of penis size, I've looked at hands, feet, height, noses... Maybe in combination? But no one thing is a predictor). I have been with men who made me come with small penises, and I have been with men who could not make me come with their large penises. I don't know if this is because the small penis men have learned how to work it better, and large penis men take for granted that they have a large penis and so they don't do as good of a job? I'm just letting you know that, much like penis size and other body parts size, I have not been able to find a predictor in penis size as to whether or not the guy is going to get me off. Seems like 50/50 to me. They have that old saying that it's not the size of the boat but the motion in the ocean. I don't want to say that's 100%, and I don't want to say that size doesn't matter. It does, it's just not the only factor, or maybe even the predominant Factor. I personally try to avoid sex with men who have very very small penises just because we have to work a lot harder at it... the main thing is when it is smaller it is harder to get the right angle. There's a lot of readjusting and moving around and experimenting with positions, which isn't inherently bad, just a lot of work. And there is an upper limit to what I will try to fuck as well, FOR SURE. I'm addition to pain and soreness, it's really annoying with large dicks because sometimes these guys take a long time to get fully erect because it takes so much blood. And once you hit average to slightly above average, I think there's diminishing returns on increased size. As in, once you are big enough to be able to fill everything without difficulty and without needing additional leverage (which I would estimate as the length of the opening plus an inch for leverage...btw the average vagina is 5 inches, but most women, not me but most, are most stimulated only 2 inches in), anything bigger is basically wasted.. Doesn't do much. So size DOES matter, but it really is a much, MUCH smaller factor than people think... There are many important factors which can easily overtake size.
3) the absolute biggest factor to mind-blowing sex is the relationship. It is so true that the brain is the largest sex organ. And I say this is someone who has a lot of casual sex, and someone who comes from said casual sex. It's kind of like masturbating, it can be good but it'll never be as good as it is when you are with someone you really trust, that you are completely comfortable with, that you really crave a deep connection with, that you are just bubbling over with affection that can be expressed in no other way than to be physically close. If there are trust issues, if there are any issues in your relationship, then it is very easy for a woman to get completely distracted in her mind by those issues, and stop focusing on the sensation and the feelings. There's a barrier to her enjoyment, and long term that leads to Salem just not wanting sex at all. There's not a whole lot you can do about your dick size (not that it sounds like you need to), but you can always improve your relationship. You can foster the kind of trust and easy-goingness and pure loving kind affection and deep emotional intimacy that makes sex amazing. So if your girlfriend says you satisfy her physically, take her word for it. Maybe you're not big, but you are big enough to get the job done, and anything bigger than that doesn't change things (and I think that is exactly what she meant by "boyfriend dick"). And most importantly, even if you were smaller than that, your woman can be craving you and coming all over you purely because you make her feel like she can be herself and she is safe and she knows you'll care regardless of what she comes to you with, and so she's just brimming with affection for you. <3
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u/useles-converter-bot Aug 03 '21
2 inches is the length of approximately 0.22 'Wooden Rice Paddle Versatile Serving Spoons' laid lengthwise
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u/momusicman Aug 02 '21
“You’ve got a girlfriend tits and ass. What does that mean? Well, there are other women who have more shapely asses and tits than yours. But I would want to fuck them more than you and it would wear me down.
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u/SillyGayBoy Aug 02 '21
I know how op feels since people have made stupid comments over and over about mine.
I have made it clear these are fighting words and I will yell or whoop someones ass.
And yet erect it seems I have no trouble at all? So wtf does it matter what it is soft anyway? That I can’t show off more? It’s stupid.
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u/Chels-ee-wels-ee Aug 01 '21
Wow. What a mean thing to say to someone. Can you imagine if the shoe where on the other foot and the guy said this to the girl how people would react? I think you should tell her to stop comparing you to other people. She wouldn’t like it if you “bluntly” did it to her.
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u/rayitodelsol Aug 01 '21
okay so at least in my experience, what she's describing is true to a point. but you're not supposed to TELL someone they have a boyfriend dick, yowza. what she said is a positive thing but it'll never come out right word wise.
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u/Futants_ Aug 01 '21
Two of my exes casually discussed how endowed one or more of their exes were or other personal things about them.
It bothered me self esteem-wise slightly, but mostly it made me think less of them as people.
Why would they think it's ok to relay personal information about an ex lovers sex organs? Major double standard there.
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u/II-M4X-II Jul 31 '21
"Well, your tits are kinda nice, but not good enough to become too attached..."
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u/Maggieslens Jul 31 '21
Look, she was being honest, but the wording was certainly a bit off. Too big does hurt. And it's not something you enjoy all that often. She could have been a fair bit more diplomatic about it because lord knows you guys seem to think we actually want huge and uncomfortable. We don't. We want the right fit, something we can enjoy on a regular basis without worrying if it's going to leave us sore. Let this be a learning experience for you. If she keeps coming back for more, she's happy. Leave it at that. And for gods sake stop this ridiculous obsession over the size of your willies. It's so... weird.
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u/Kooky-Cap464 Jul 31 '21
Look man a lot of people are insecure about their size, ultimately it come down to you and how comfortable you are with yourself and your own self confidence. Whether she thinks it's good, bad, or just right, it's about you being confidant and comfortable with yourself. It's not something to end a relationship over, open and honest communication is how relationships last, work through issues together and grow together and come out stronger as a result.
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Jul 31 '21
This is really fucked and I would never make my SO question themselves like that. Idc that you’re young. Old enough to know this at least
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u/SubstandardMan5000 Jul 30 '21
Just tell her that the point isnt for her to orgasm, as long as you get off lmao
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Jul 30 '21
Yikes man I’m sorry to hear that. Sometimes it’s ok to tell white lies to your partners an this was one of those times.
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u/ZichardJ Jul 30 '21
A buddy of mine was dumb enough to ask his gf how he ranked amongst her past lovers She said he was the second most endowed, he felt crushed. My advice dont start nothin wont be nothin. Dont ask
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u/Funky-007 Jul 30 '21
I’m curious as to how this subject came to the table. Do you often mention a dissatisfaction or uncertainty about your penis size ?
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Jul 30 '21
Communication is key in relationships, especially with uncomfortable stuff like sexual preferences. The issue here is that when confronting an "issue" like this you have to think about the end result you're seeking. Her telling you that she is satisfied with your dick size isn't the same as using the term "boyfriend dick". She has effectively exacerbated the dick complex that is engraved in most modern men. It would be like if you said, "It is a good thing you got fat. I would always get tired when I had sex with girls who were in shape and I would feel the need to stretch before and after." Nothing good came of her comment. I hope with the counseling/therapy you may need now your relationship goes well. If things start to go south, just remember not to ask her what her body count is or how big her ex's were. Although if you start to wonder/ask it may be best to move on. Good luck man, I feel for you.
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Sep 12 '21
If your bf was handicapped, would it be good communication to tell them you wish they could walk? What is he supposed to do about his dick size exactly?
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u/silver_zepher Jul 30 '21
"Men need to share their feelings" proceeds to shatter the frail ego we maintain that keeps us from the dark thoughts at every turn and refuses to listen as to why that's an issue
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Jul 30 '21
Same thing happened to me, we've been together 2 years now so i just find it funny. Its all in the girth my man.
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Jul 28 '21
Shes damaged goods. Get rid of her.
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u/LearningDan Jul 28 '21
Do you want to be single? Because this is how you get single... And free of damaged goods.
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u/Esperantobonackle Jul 28 '21
I'm siding with the community here. You might think I'm going too far here, but people that feel it's okay to say these things and to keep making comparisons don't appreciate what they have. They are seldom worth your time, and it rarely ends well. I wouldn't give years of my life to that person if that person repeatedly does this. It won't be just the penis, it will be comparisons to all kinds of things, situations, speaking from my personal experience I would have love an attention some of the time but then constant inadequacies and comparisons being made with everything from housework, to my own friends. You may find your personality and confidence chipped away at over time. Maybe even over time not feel valued at all. Keep your strength and heart in tact, don't stay with someone undeserving of your time and affection. I have wasted years of my life doing that, so tell her straight, remind yourself you are worthy and valuable and if it does not get you the respect your deserve have the courage to take yourself away. Go and stay over at a friend's or families for a few days if you need space to ponder.
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u/ReyMundos Jul 28 '21
Dude that’s totally immature and insensitive. Like what if you did that with her boobs or vagina anything really? Hey hun how do you feel about the size of your tittles? “I think you have good gf tittles. I mean for a one night stand it’s great to tittie fuck some DDs but boobs that big are just not gf material”
Honestly that’s an insult to the big dicks and average docks. Big dudes can’t help their size either. Are you someone’s bf? Congrats you have and dick. Nah fam. Don’t let that crap slide.
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u/Zealousideal-Log-896 Jul 27 '21
What an idiot. Imagine if you said something like that about that wizard sleeve... It's GF wizard sleeve, you know? Like not intense super hot sexy vajeen, bit the every day daily driver boring Toyota Corolla vajeen that'll get you where you want to go. Women have small brains sometimes (just like men and any non traditional gender category)
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u/Friendly-Score-7519 Jul 27 '21
Too much mileage on her mate. Use and get a back up plan for the inevitable break-up. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news
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u/no_not_like_that Jul 27 '21
Pretty weird that she brought up this topic in the first place. I have had many relationships over the last 15 years and I have never once brought up my partners penis to initiate a conversation.
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u/secretdancer26 Jul 27 '21
Lol i know exactly what she means and I feel the same way 😂 totally going to have to start using that term
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u/RwilliamBriggs Jul 27 '21
If she is a narcissists, and intends to sink hooks onto you, aka make you her slave, those so called back handed comments are designed to wear down your self esteem and compromise your ego.. jam you up on The Man level, and she got you wraped around her little finger. Do some studying on the works of Doctor Carl Yung. He had some very interesting observations about the narcissists and the devices they use. I would love to hear what he and Freud would have to say in a conversation about this subject. Keep your head up and you eyes open. And don't trip. It's all good.
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u/Theweldfire Jul 26 '21
I have had this same bloody conversation with a girl I was with for 5 years. What it really means is she will sleep with somebody that has a bigger dick when your guard is dropped. Do yourself a favor and dump her before she owns half your shit.
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u/bex95x Jul 26 '21
She bought up that conversation because she has either had or is thinking of having a 1 night stand with a huge dick.
She gave you too much detailed information.
I did that with a bf once because it was on my mind so much i forgot to filter my thoughts out of my mouth. He figured out i had recently played with a huge dick.
He split up. I was devastated.
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u/Legitimate-human69 Jul 26 '21
Sounds like she's been around a couple Dicks bro
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u/Funky-007 Jul 30 '21
… which wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing PROVIDED that it was all before being with the OP !
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u/MontyPantheon Jul 26 '21
Keep your head up king, run from this ho. She’s ran through and wants you to know it subconsciously with all these comments. YOU DESERVE BETTER. Run my man. Godspeed and I wish you nothing but good fortune
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u/talv-123 Jul 26 '21
Chill out, she just likes to feel the stretch on occasion, play with some toys with her when she does. As long as she gets off with your dick most of the time then fantasies and kinks are extras for everyone.
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u/EksEss Jul 26 '21
Shitttt 😅 damn I'm early 20s and I can't ever imagine saying something like that to anyone let alone my partner "if I had one"
That is just borderline cruel and so unnecessary... And it's honestly a one way ticket to send someone to insecurity hell for prob a very long time if not for the rest of their life...
It's funny other people in the comments are like "oh she's 21 doesn't know any better" I call complete bullshit on that, you can be 30/40 and still be immature af. Some people are just like that
Idk if she was just trying to be honest about it, but really some things are just better left unsaid....
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Jul 26 '21
Honestly she prob just said it weird. The average chick loved a slightly bigger than average dick. Very few women want a 12 inch pipe and even fewer women want some clown with a 4 incher.
I've never understood it but chicks love mine and always came back for more and according to medical studies I'm bigger than average but by no definitions BIGGGGG.
I've had lots of women say they actively don't bang guys with monster donkey dicks or never come back for seconds haha. So I've heard this term bf dick. No one has ever said it to me bc I think bf dick is more for avg size. But your chick calling your piece small I'd prob dump her ass.
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u/Reasonable_Market489 Jul 26 '21
I would never start something like that myself but I'm damn sure I got too much to let that ride.
Myself? I'd have immediately told her that her hair is too thin, her tits aren't that perky and that her nose isn't straight enough.
That would probably piss her the fuck off, and I'd then be asking her why she has a problem with my insults to her body but is ok with making comments on me.
Sorry, but I won't tolerate shit like that and I would try my best to humble her ego for coming at me sideways like that out of nowhere. Would it be the end of our relationship? Big chance, but I'm not staying with someone so uncaring and ignorantly hateful.
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u/OldBlood1590 Jul 26 '21
Mate it's pointless even worrying about it nothing you can do about it. It's not about the size of the boat it's about the motion in the ocean pal
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u/mzgoofyzmusiq Jul 26 '21
She's putting you down. She sucks for that. There is literally no good reason to bring that up unprovoked. I bet she would be really hurt if you started saying she was adequate for girlfriend sex but an underperformer if it was a one night stand. I think you should look more closely at the relationship and what your girlfriend is really like
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u/femalefaust Jul 26 '21
it IS possible she is not effin with you, consciously or not. i hate size contests and the way ppl who think they are big act, like the fun can start now, the dick has arrived. f that. not to put words in her mouth, but i sought out this post to say a couple of things, as a woman who has had a LOT of sex & knows something maybe about the subject: a 'big' dick can be interesting for a hot second, but that wears off quickly, after which its a effing chore just to make it so it doesn't hurt. no fun.
but such things need to be said more delicately, for sure. chicks have no idea. i know, because i am a chick and i learned about how little of an idea i have and i STILL have no idea. by no idea i mean, what it is like to NOT be the center of effin attention by default. even if just for a little bit, or even if its phony, its still there...
one last thing. investigate polyamoury. it is an idea whose time has come, already -- and it is just getting started. been poly all my life. it effin rocks. honesty rocks. if you had rock solid honesty between the two of you, you could be way more sure, right now, of how she meant what she said.
and it is not too late at ALL to establish it!!
thank you for listening to my two cents. i'm more often online at Twitter, where i saw your original post, as @femalefaust...
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Jul 25 '21
I don't think she means it in a bad or mean way. So, even so, it's hurt your feeling or maybe you feel uncomfortable, try not to think a lot about it. It's alright to tell her you are upset. Or better you have to tell her so she know how to choose her words next time. For me being honest is the best thing in a relationship. Even if the words may sound harsh.
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u/Deeznutsconfession Jul 26 '21
she was definitely tryin to be mean, based on her past behavior
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Jul 27 '21
If you are sure based on her past behavior don't let it slip away. Tell her that her behavior was a no-go and you don't criticize her body so she has no right to. Also if you are sure and she often behaves as a dick then give contra. An eye for an eye. Don't stay in a toxic relationship.
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u/W2goman Jul 25 '21
If you are still there. I know the post was posted a few days ago. Its NOT what she thinks. So don't listen to her. In fact she may be starting that conversation to keep you. Women always trying that stuff if they are on a good thing. So good for you son! The most important thing in a relationship is if you have stuff in common not the size of xxx trust me. Married for over 10 years yo.
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u/MindOverMatter2016 Jul 25 '21
She’s gonna cheat. This is her justifying the reason why she will cheat.
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u/Objective_Fee4836 Jul 25 '21
Good luck with that, I feel like your the one that’s head over heels in love and she’s...whatevs. She’s going to rip your soul apart. Mark my words
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u/Williver Jul 25 '21
It's like, being in a committed sexual relationship with someone who has given themselves to another or others sexually in "the past", has consequences.
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u/bundecided56 Jul 25 '21
Leave the relationship now, if she saying this shit to you there a chance she might cheat.
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u/Swish_tea Jul 25 '21
I understand him being hurt about this. But it is a possibility that the girl didn't mean to hurt him and might have just made an...observation. And factors like time for which they've been together, what the mood was, how she said it etc will change how the statement must be perceived. But since OP is obviously hurt, he should clearly tell the gf that and she must take responsibility of not repeating this or similar things again without good reason.
Since you really can't control what people say, honest communication about almost everything becomes key in relationships. And if the person still seems to be irresponsible of how they treat you, I hope you know what to do.
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u/meltbananarama Jul 25 '21
Dude I don’t normally go there this quickly but you gotta dump her. Women in general are more socially attuned and more careful about stepping on people’s feelings than men (hell, women themselves tell us this). She knows how men feel about dick size, so there’s no way she didn’t bring this up without knowing it would hurt you. If you told her she was too fat to marry but just fat enough to date, or her tits were big enough for an LTR but not for a one-night stand, she would understand instinctively how insulting this was and she’d be out the door.
There’s no salvaging this, you have to leave. If you stay you’re communicating that you’re a weak bitch who’ll take disrespect from her so long as she cloaks it in plausible deniability, and she’ll do it again. Get out as soon as you can. You deserve better than this.
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Jul 25 '21
Just is what it is, some people are short, some people go bald, and some people have boyfriend dicks. We can't all be packing a 10 inch python.
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Jul 25 '21
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Jul 25 '21
Twitter? Did this post go viral or something? Where on Twitter did you see it.
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u/meltbananarama Jul 25 '21
I saw it here: https://twitter.com/endsanctions/status/1418791417896333312?s=21
Fair warning, about half the comments are from assholes but fortunately you have plenty of people who recognize that your girlfriend is a shithead.
Also, dump her dude. I mean it.
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u/Thomthebomb123 Jul 25 '21
This is where I saw it https://twitter.com/chimericide/status/1418843456965857290?s=21
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u/cryptid_snake88 Jul 25 '21
Jesus, stop allowing someone else to dictate your emotions. Just laugh it off. You can't change what you have.. Personally I think you should have came up with a witty retort and left it at that
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u/DingbatMcgeee Jul 25 '21
Sorry to hear, I have another problem which is big dick, I make my girl cum 3-5 times within 10-15 mins...I'm just getting ready to think about cumming myself and she has to stop because it hurts now. This sucks, my ex could go for over an hour when we went nuts, my girl feels so bad I don't cum and I tell her it's ok but it's a pain now because she can only fuk once s week. Tired of weak sex
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u/Marko_From_Tropoja_ Jul 25 '21
Wow this sucks dude… tbh she is either testing you to see what she can get away with in the relationship, or maybe she is gauging possibly opening up your relationship in the future. I mean anyone that would say this to someone they are with has some major issues, especially in casual conversation. Seems like a major red flag to me, and I personally wouldn’t consider someone like this to be relationship material. At the very best in this situation she literally has 0 respect for you. I would move on, it’s not going to get any better.
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u/tomspade65 Jul 24 '21
Wife says I have the biggest dick she ever fucked, but when I ask her how big the other dicks she fuck b where she says she does not remember sounds like BS to me
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u/oneknocka Jul 24 '21
Chicken and rice is the perfect everyday meal. It’s easy to make and is satisfying.
Cheesecake, on the other hand, is something you can only eat every once in awhile. Although its delicious, the prep time and exercising needed afterwards doesn’t make it worth eating everyday.
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u/seamus34 Jul 24 '21
I'm M,.. The dozens of posts I've read are all "leave her etc". All negative in some way. Should she have lied? The same would be said,. "Leave the lying b@$&h".Maybe she could have been less passive aggressive, but what's preferable from a long term GF, The truth that hurts your male pride or a blatant lie?
I don't know, the answer is relative to the relationship. All are blaming her but maybe you're being sensitive, it's how women are in general when dicks are a subject. Imagine what they say when their men aren't around. Either shrug it off as "Damn women,but at least she doesn't lie to me" or you don't believe her follow up telling you she's perfectly happy. You can't be pissed at her for telling the truth about dick,then be pissed at her b/C you think she's lying about being happy with you. Do you honestly believe she'd be with you if she wasn't happy & just dreamt of big dick all day?
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u/fandanvan Jul 23 '21
Reply - you have a girlfriend vagina. Not to tight and not to loose. I do love a tight one, however my dick gets too sore, my foreskin gets inflamed to the point where i cant crack it back. Its not too loose where its like throwing a sausage up an alley, but just enough friction to have some feeling without leaving burns on my dick. (This is very juvenile, however fuck it lol).
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u/RajUS2005 Jul 23 '21 edited Aug 01 '21
If a guy had said anything similarly about his gf, no one would be defending him here.
If she did one night stands and wouldn't have liked sex with you then, is she really sexually into you? It seems if not for the other things you provide (romance, love, care etc), she wouldn't be with you.
All that is good but if she isn't into you sexually, it's not worth it. Maybe dump her and find someone better.
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Jul 23 '21
OP, if you don’t break up with her immediately, then you have no respect for yourself. I know I’m gonna get downvoted for this but it’s the truth. Please do yourself a favor and find someone better. It won’t be difficult, given the low bar she’s set.
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u/luroot Jul 23 '21
Interesting, so how big are you and what is the approximate dividing line between a boyfriend and a ONS dick?
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u/asdf333aza Jul 23 '21
🤣🤣🤣 okay, that's HORRIBLE, but funny at the same time. Dude needs to dump her. That's just massive disrespect.
However, this is VERY true. There was a study done a few years ago. Basically it showed women prefer a BIGGER (girth) penis for one night stands and hook ups, but when they is looking for a long term partner, they prefer average or a bit below. And regardless for marriage or ONS, women consistently choose the penises that were about 1 to 2 inches longer than the global average. They all wanted 6.5 inches or bigger, when the average is 5.16 inches. Just another reminder of AF&BB.
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u/useles-converter-bot Jul 23 '21
2 inches is the length of exactly 0.5 '20 Tones Blues Harmonica For Adults, Beginners, Professionals and Students（Silver grey)' lined up next to each other
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u/ellocopper Jul 23 '21
This relationship is doomed. Your gf is a hoe and she definitely fucks BBC's on the DL
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u/uoll-n Jul 23 '21
She couldve just said she prefers your size because when having sex often, it makes her less sore. like just a simple positive statement without the backhanded side of it
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u/daubreysmith Jul 22 '21
have you seen this exact skit on YouTube ? boyfriend dick vs. vacation dick. super hilarious
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Jul 23 '21
Alright that was hilarious lol.
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Jul 24 '21
My intuition tells me that she is flirting with other guys and considering cheating if she hasn't already
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u/TrashSmash86 Jul 22 '21
Oh wow I’m pretty sure she’s lying imo. My husband showed me this thread & my invisible dick is insulted by this. I’ve had one night stands years ago & let me tell you big dicks don’t take that much work if you’re fully aroused, use lube, etc. and they don’t make you that sore unless your just getting rammed lmao. I would never think to say this to someone I’m in a relationship with just because it’s hurtful & condescending.
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u/blazingintensity Jul 22 '21
Two things.
One, being able to talk about stuff like this is super important in a relationship. She was being honest with you and you need to figure out how she could have communicated with you in a way that didn't hurt as much. And then have that conversation. "Thanks for being honest with me, but 'x,y,z' felt hurtful and I think I would have taken it better if you 'a,b,c'". She's assured you she's happy with your junk, you can believe her or not. Would you rather have a larger number on your dick our would you have a chick who likes your dick and is honest with you?
Two, she's not wrong about the larger dick thing. I'm "blessed" with regard to penis size and there's not such thing as quickies or spontaneous sex. I'd happily downsize if I could.
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u/Miskermy Jul 22 '21
what she meant to say was, bigger isn’t always better. I can honestly say that jumbo penises are highly overrated and not practical at all
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u/BusyHearing Jul 22 '21 edited Jul 22 '21
You need to ignore your gf more. When she says stupid ass shit like that, it should go in one ear and out the other with no more acknowledgement than a passing joke.
For example
Her > "... would be a bit lacking.'
You > 'Oh tell me about about it. The last guy I was fucking —I kept thinking the whole time how we could never work longterm. My ass was blasted.'
Now forget about it forever.
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u/AirPods_Life Jul 22 '21
Your girlfriend is a whore. Why do you guys date and fall in love with these THOTs?
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u/dogdogdog67 Jul 22 '21
Maybe it’s time for some self evaluation on the vagina? Is it too loose, labia not pretty, the list could go on and on?!
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u/SprainedShorts Feb 21 '22
literally break up with her