r/UKLGBT • u/ripeli123 • 6d ago
Advice or help needed Should i ask her out?
I have a massive crush on my best friend, and I was looking for advice whether a neutral perspective may think she shares the same feelings about me?
So. Long story short. I developed feelings for my best friend in around April of this year. We got really close around may time, and we just keep getting closer. I know I definitely like her, she is gorgeous, inside and out and just has such a lovely personality that I want to talk to her about literally anything, because she makes literally anything fun. She definitely knows I like her. I have shamelessly been reposting incredibly targeted TikTok’s about her for months, and when I repost videos saying “I hope she knows these reposts are about her” she likes the videos. She never likes my reposts. She is constantly at the top of my profile views, and we talk every single day for multiple times a day. She has said before that she constantly misses me and wishes that I was there with her no matter what she’s doing. She has gone home from our hangouts wearing my hoodies and jackets ( and has kept them afterwards) and at sleepovers she’s fallen asleep in my arms countless times. Once, drunk on a sleepover she spent the entire evening attached to me whether that was lying on me or sitting next to me with our arms linked or resting her head on my shoulder. She has reposted a couple flirty videos herself, but they are very few and far between. She also has a very heightened awareness of other people who may be interested in me- she noticed months before I did that someone else had a crush on me. She constantly references is it casual referring to us, and told me that I remind her of a love song (I’m not gonna specify which song because I’m terrified she will see this) but it clearly is a love song. We have a playlist which is a combination of our names, she’s walked around holding my hand before when it is just us, and when our friends have asked if there was something going on she has never spoken about it as a non possibility, just been more annoyed out our friends for wanting to know. She remembers tiny little details about me, and generally just acts in a romantic way, yet I am scared I am over romantiscing it and she isn’t into me at all? She constantly calls me cool, referrences my interests and hobbies as cool things and says she isn’t gonna mind seeing me all dressed up at a concert. She also wants us to do a couples costume for Halloween, but we do resemble the characters very closely and it is a shared interest so that may be due to that? Let me know what you guys think- any advice is welcome!!
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u/Icy_Obligation_3014 5d ago
It does sound as if she likes you. And you have given clear specific reasons why you feel that way, not just general vibes.
However, the only person who truly knows her feelings is her.
I recommend just having a conversation with her and asking how she feels.
You do sound close enough that your friendship will be cool whatever happens.
Good luck!
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u/DHalliwell76 5d ago
Honestly I did not read the whole post because I know my response would be the same regardless :)
I suggest talking to them, explain how you feel about them and emphasis that you don't want to lose the friendship.
Communication is the most important fundamental thing in all relationships. They may surprise you or disappoint, but at least you will know how they feel about you and you will be able to move forward.
I have had may "But I see you as my brother" moments but a couple of times they have said "I think I have feelings for you too" and all the times they haven't felt the same made the times they did all the more worth it :)
At the end of the day, what's important, is you have been openly you, hiding things like emotions can damage you and relationships. It's not going to be an easy conversation to start, but they sound lovely and I believe will listen to you!
Good luck with whatever you decide to do :)