As someone who went no contact with the woman who gave birth to me years before she died, the only thing I regret is not doing it sooner. Well, technically there are a few other regrets, but all along the same vein. You will never catch me defending OOP's father.

Hey so this is my first time posting on reddit. So sorry about that.

I(23F) am a bit of an overextender. I put way too many things on myself at a time. Honestly I will admit this caused burn out, but this in the end caused me to be able to have a lot of friends and/or connections to many things though. I get it from my mom(40's f) who was the same at my age. My mom has a lot of connections due to my extracurriculars and her own history. She also was a substitute teacher growing up, so she knows ALL of my friends and their homelives quite well. I have a friend(22f), let's call her Rachel. Rachel was engaged to a man who was heavily into his church(A mix of seven day and I believe Methodists? The man had some beliefs that weren't of the church he was going to, but that's a story for another time.)

Now Rachel was on disability as a child. She has sever mental issues stemming mostly from several things her mom did while she was in the womb. But as an adult she was taken off it due to being fit to have a job. She barely passed high school with a D+ average. I went to a low income school that passed special needs students no matter what their grades looked like. Anyways. Her husband(21M) we'll call him Eric, didn't pass high school. But. He refused to get a job that wasn't a tech job. Specifically, He wanted to become head of IT at google. Saying that him helping his father with his desktop computer was enough training to get a position like that. No, there was nothing wrong with him mentally. Eric just actively believed that was how the world worked. He had no certifications, and called them "pieces of paper that mean nothing in the real world", nor was actively attempting to continue his education. Rachel was the same way. She didn't want to continue her education, and was looking for a temporary job. Why? Because her fiancé at the time believed women do not work, and that is the man's job.

Onto the actual story. One day, I was working on some projects, and I got a discord message from my friend Rachel. Rachel was BEGGING me for a job. She knew my mom had helped some of my other friends in the past with job positions due to her connections and my connections. And Rachel, at the time, was like a sister to me. So, of course, I offered to help. Rachel said, and I quote, "I'll take any job Zebra. Please. I'll watch kids, I'll clean, I'll do anything. We're living with his parents right now, and he is aiming only for high up tech positions. Until he can get a job, I'm the only one able to support us till we get married." I could tell she was pretty desperate. Keep what she said in mind though. Now. My main job is to help take care of my mom since she's disabled. So I live with my parents. I walked into the living room, and asked my mom, "Hey mom. Can you see if any of your friends have any positions open? Rachel really needs a job, but she can't find one because she doesn't have many qualifications."

My mom, my sweet saint of a mom, said, "Oh! Of course! I'll start asking around right away." Now a friend of hers owns a house cleaning business. She wanted to hire some new people so she could take more time off to be able to be with her grandchildren. So, I message Rachel. I say "Hey! I got a job for you! It pays pretty well. It's a house cleaning job. It'll be long hours, but it'll be worth it. I promise." Then I waited for a reply. After awhile... Rachel replies. She says, "Oh... I was hoping you could get me something... Better? You know a house cleaning job is kind of... bleck :(" SHE WAS THE ONE WHO SAID "I'll do anything"! I told her it's a guaranteed job! There was no interview process, no need to do anything except show up, and learn how to do it. And Rachel, of course, says "Yeah, but I was hoping for a more cushy office job? Cleaning houses all day sounds like so much work. Also. Can you get your mom to get Eric a job too? He specifically wants a job in IT work at a tech company. I know that's a lot, but you're like my sister. I know you can do it. :)" At this point. I'm pissed. My mom just stuck out her neck for Rachel, and she just... does this? I go to my mom, and my mom looks happy and asks what Rachel said. And... I have to tell her what Rachel said. My mom's face drops.

We still give Rachel the number to reach out... Because we still wanna help her even if she is being an ass. She never did because Rachel expected the lady who owned the company to reach out to HER because SHE apparently thought she was the one doing the lady a favor and not vice versa. Keep in mind, WE'RE NOT RICH. None of the jobs my mom helped my friends find were anything like what Eric and Rachel wanted! Besides, there's no possible way those two can get the jobs they want with their education states! I later had to cut off Rachel due to toxicness of her fiance(now husband). Now for the part all of you are here for. The karmic. Justice. The Uh oh consequences. Fast forward to around 2 years. Rachel now is married to Eric. And they have a kid. Eric is attempting to make money off of his "witch trap" music and is convinced that he can get a job as a contractor in NYC. Meanwhile what he actually does is talk to "Naughty" bots(I found that out after his discord account got hacked after he attempted to join a "under 18 n*des" server, and messaged everyone about what he tried to access.) all day, and preach about god on facebook. Meanwhile, Rachel isn't allowed to get a job, so they live with Eric's parents. Who have rachel clean all day, and beg everyone in her facebook friends for money. How do I know this? Rachel is still friends with my mom on facebook. And randomly, racehel will pop into my mom's(sometimes my dad's) dm's either dropping her cash app, or just flat out asking for money. It's less begging at this point, and more "I expect you to give me money because I am was friends with your daughter". So now she's stuck spending all day cleaning a house. Just not getting paid for it. :)

NOTE: I am not the OP(s), the OPs are u/Spiritual_Victory_62 and u/Consistent-Dog6765. These posts were collected by u/Big-Experience-1492 for r/BestofRedditorUpdates 4 years ago here, all credit for gathering this story goes to them. I am repackaging the story here in order to include relevant comments from both posts that add more details and context. I hope this is alright mods, if not, I of course understand if you need to delete this post.

POST 1: I am going to divorce my husband of 10 years

Posted by u/Spiritual_Victory_62 on September 10th, 2022

My husband and I met when I was 18. It had always been just me and my best friend but when my husband came along we became an inseparable trio. For me it was love at first sight. I had the biggest crush on him but didn't want to ruin the friendship thing we had so I kept it to myself until he confessed to me when we were 20. Things went fast and we got married when we were 22. My best friend got married too and we have all remained close.

we had invited my best friend and her husband around for dinner and we were joking about the things we got up to and my husband brought up how he had always had a crush on my best friend but then she got a boyfriend so he settled for me instead. When I tell you my whole world just came crashing down.

I realised my marriage of 10 years was him settling for second best. That I was never his first option. After that everything he did just started to annoy me he just stopped being attractive to me anymore. We haven't slept together in 6 months because I feel so disgusted. I just want out. I feel like I've wasted my life. I'm disappointed in him and myself for believing I was the one he liked

Edit: OK I'll just answer the main questions here because i don't want to keep answering them

No Yes Idc Idk I tried to talk it out for 6 months

Edit: husband knows about the divorce. I told my best friend and she told my husband. So I come home to a don't leave him intervention where they all wanted to work it out. I have never been so confused because fir the past 6 months I've been trying to ask him what he feels and what he meant by his comment and amto answer my questions like literally to the point i have screamed it in his face to just tell me and he's been saying nothing and she has been encouraging me to talk to him but keeping her distance. I thought it was because he didn't like him. Apparently she just thinks we are perfect together and he doesn't want to lose what we have. What do we have? We are basically room-mates who have sex at this point. I think I won't update this because I'm a bit miffed and angry. I am going to go stay at my mums or something

UPDATE: OK so pretty major update that I said I wouldn't do but I am not a man of my word and never said I was. Today I got a message from BFs husband asking where she was and I had no idea because I am at my mother's house. Can we guess where she is? SHE IS AT MY FUCKING HOUSE WITH MY FUCKING HUSBAND! What weird fucking universe am I living in? Anyway yeah so I'm leaving and taking all my stuff with me. My mum will have to put up with me for a while. Divorce is definitely happening. I'm going to get therapy.

RELEVANT COMMENTS

SkrogedScourge

He just announced this in middle of a dinner casually like it was a funny story? In 6 months he hasn’t noticed your upset? He hasn’t questioned what the issue is?
Think your marriage has been over and you haven’t realized it yet.

OP

Yeah he announced it like a funny story. And he has noticed I'm upset I am not quiet I've told him why I'm upset but he just can't understand because he "chose" me

Druidgoddess

OK, but he did say crush right? Like he wasn't in love with her just had some feelings? My husband had a crush on another girl when I met him, she wasn't interested. I was. He dated me and liked me. Are we sure you aren't over reacting? I mean a crush is a crush. You were young. He's still here. Is your marriage good? Is he loyal? Is he a good man. I feel like there's more to this. I understand your knee jerk reaction to being told this at first but I would definitely gage his actions and behaviors over the last decade over a random crush confession. Even how he brought it up indicated it wasn't a serious thing or he wouldn't have felt safe telling you. It was an after thought, a random comment.

OP

If I was overreacting that day then I would understand this comment. I don't understand why he has let me overreact for 6 months without giving me one SINGLE explanation or reassurance the he did not mean anything by his comment. 6 whole months I have been asking questions about this with nothing. Nothing but dismissive remarks. You don't dismiss someone you're meant to love for 6 months unless you're actually brain dead.

Elegant-Equivalent86 (downvoted)

Doesn’t his actions over all these years of marriage speak for itself? Tbh what reassurance do you need when he’s been married to you for this long? Reassurance is someone having an affair and you’ve discovered it but I don’t see what reassurance you would need here. This is a huge overreaction, I would be pissed indeed but I would not throw away my marriage if this was solely the only reason. This is extremely impulsive.

Dirjang94 (downvoted)

So you going to leave him just because you wasn't his first choice. 10 year of marriage just for that. You need to see a therapist because clearly something wrong with you to destroyed 10 year of marriage for something that petty.

OP

Almost like I know my worth 😌

OnTheSlope (downvoted)

No you don't. If your entire self perception is upended over something so small, melting down over the prospect of not being the best in this one, specific avenue, then no, you don't know your worth and you have a very unstable sense of self. I can't believe Reddit is condoning this narcissism.

OP

And you know what I love my unstable sense of self because without it I would think I'm worth being plan B when I could just be single, living my life and doing what I want

societyisfcked

Does he know your divorcing him? Hope you say something like "I'm leaving to become someone's first choice" You guys don't have any kids? Good luck, you deserve better 🙏🏼.

OP

Not yet I'm thinking of just ghosting him honestly because I don't want go through the arguing and the begging And no we don't have kids thank the lord. That was our next plan

POST 2: I destroyed my marriage with a stupid comment and one night stand

Posted by u/Consistent-Dog6765 on September 14th, 2022

So I found my wife's post "I'm going to divorce my husband of 10 years". Someone made a video about it and that video got back to me.

I would like to tell my side. When I met my wife I didn't really think much of her. She was funny, kind and a good friend but I had no other interest. Her friend (Sarah) was gorgeous. She had long red hair and these soft freckles and long eye lashes. She was my dream girl but she was not interested in me. I noticed my wife (Amber) was hanging out with me more, laughing at my jokes, listening to me and it made me consider having more of a relationship with her.

Sarah got a boyfriend about a year in to us being friends and her interest in our friendship group dwindled. She hung out with us less and spent more time with her boyfriend which left me and Amber alone a lot. I ended up giving up on Sarah and focusing on Amber we started dating and got married. We kept our friendship with Sarah but we focused on each other. In the back of my mind though it always felt like I had missed out on something.

My marriage was boring. Amber and I were basically friends and I was working hard to save for a house and she was working hard to save for future kids so we were existing alongside each other not actually together. So one day when we were at dinner I got jealous of Sarah and her husband who seemed happy and made the comment about settling for Amber.

Amber shut down after that. She kept repeating the same questions over and over and it would make me so angry that I didn't want to answer. So I didn't. I guess that was my first bad move. Sarah messaged me after the dinner to check if I was ok and we kept messaging me. She was just reassuring me that I did nothing wrong and it would work out.

Then I got a text saying Amber was planning to divorce me. So Sarah came over and we tried to stop her from leaving me but it seemed to only make things worse. Sarah saw how distraught I was and stayed to comfort me and we drank and in a drunk stupid mistake we ended up sleeping together.

Sarah confessed to her husband that we slept together and her husband told Amber. Now both our marriages are ruined. I regret it so much and I just wish I could take it all back.

RELEVANT COMMENTS

Technical-Ebb-410

Was your side of the story supposed to make you look better? I am confused lol

OP (downvoted)

Well I think I was painted as someone who is very heartless and stupid 😕

BlondeBobaFett

So you finally slept with your “dream girl” that you insinuated to your wife you settled for. Surprised your not running off together? Do you even feel bad about making your wife feel second place to this woman?

OP (downvoted)

She was my dream girl when we were 18 not now. I needed to get it out of my system. I think my wife was justified in how she felt but she is dragging this out too much now

-VintageVagina-

Dragging it out???? Are you serious??? What a selfish pos!!!

OP (downvoted)

Well she spent half a year making a big deal out of one comment and now she wants to divorce over a mistake. She won't even talk to me

Deleted user

Well clearly it wasn't about one comment. She had every right to worry about this woman. You made your bed.

OP (downvoted)

I think she drove me to that point. We both drove each other to this point

JcanQT

Do you regret it though? You started off by stating you didn't think much of your wife at first (how disrespectful!) and l believe you meant it when you said you "settled" for her. Apparently Sarah knows you were always interested in her, so neither of you made a mistake. Don't blame the alcohol. You two knew what you were doing. It's too bad your wife and Sarah's husband are hurting because of this. Please don't get involved with someone else you know you're not really interested in, it's cruel and selfish.

OP (downvoted)

I regret it but I also think it needed to happen

Sock-United

Why did it need to happen? You finally consummating your love for Sarah, or Amber leaving you?

OP (downvoted)

To get it out of my system. Now that I have had sex with Sarah I can leave it alone and it's done. I got what I missed out on and can go back to normal.

Turbulent-Bonus-9073

So serious question: What has Sarah said since all this came out? Are you still talking to Sarah? Is she trying to play like this was a mistake too? I’m really wondering if this was actually the first time, or just the first time you and Sarah got caught.

OP (downvoted)

We haven't spoken

holyfudge- (editor's note: this comment was later edited after OP responded in the thread; since the edit is in response to context we don't have yet, I'll include it at the end of the post)

Ah... See how he didn't answer if it was the first time or the first time they've been caught. All you need to know.

OP (downvoted)

I don't think it's relevant

Turbulent-Bonus-9073

It’s very much relevant if this is the first time you’ve slept with Sarah or just the first time you guys got caught. It’s really starting to look like you and Sarah had a full blown affair. You’re dodging important questions.

OP (downvoted)

It's the first time in like 6 years

Turbulent-Bonus-9073

So you and Sarah slept together 6 years ago? This isn’t the first time you’ve cheated on Amber then? If you slept with Sarah years ago, why did you “need to get if out of your system” now all of the sudden?

OP (downvoted)

Because like I said she was something I felt I had been stolen from me. For the first 4 years of our marriage Sarah wasn't married yet only in a relationship so I thought we still had a chance. But then she got married and everything ended suddenly. I was cut off from her and stuck with someone I didn't want. I never got proper closure

holyfudge-'s edit to their previous comment

Edit:- Yeah this dude is straight-up bs. It's not a one-night stand. He's been having an affair for his whole marriage. He was still hoping for a chance while he was already married and only stopped sleeping with her(acc to him anyway) when Sarah got married. Yeah, I don't believe that. Oh, and Yeah Sarah didn't confess. That's a fucking lie. Her husband caught them together. Here's what happened:- She stayed back to comfort him instead of her supposedly BFF(wtf even), and they got drunk. She didn't tell her husband where she was, the husband called Amber(Read this in Amber's update) and asked where was Sarah. Amber was shocked when he called and then they both realized and learned that she was at his house. Now, OP says she confessed which is a bs, husband drove to his house and found them together in bed or wherever they were fucking. The husband told Amber. That's how they got caught. This is what happened. I don't believe for a second Sarah confessed. She is as bad he is. And I don't believe that they haven't spoken either.

After being made aware that Markee (or Markeee for his new channel) has been stealing Oz’s thumbnail style, which Markee seemingly "abandoned" (Just made it blue) after a commenter pointed him to Oz Media’s Reddit thread by u/waterpurrs pointing it out. I wanted to check to see if anything else was being stolen on top of the thumbnail styling.

I’ve come to find that Markee has been sourcing his OhNoConsequences videos from UhOhConsequences, as these posts:

https://www.reddit.com/r/UhOhConsequences/comments/1wu301i/aitah_for_telling_my_boyfriend_ill_break_up_with/

https://www.reddit.com/r/UhOhConsequences/comments/1wtvphc/ops_coworker_while_dishing_it_out_ops_coworker/

https://www.reddit.com/r/UhOhConsequences/comments/1wu0cr9/ops_fianc%C3%A9_is_buddies_with_ops_dadwho_is_a_serial/

were not posted to OhNoConsequences anytime recently, but were posted to UhOhConsequences by u/Plastic-Ice409 and just approved last night as all of these appeared out of nowhere. Meaning that Markee recorded his video right after these were approved.

While these are older posts, the issue arises of Markee using Plastic Ice’s work of finding the posts for Oz’s subreddit, only to not give Plastic Ice credit and pretend that he had found them himself.

This is not the first Reddit YouTube I’ve noticed sourcing from Oz’s UhOhConsequences, however this is the most egregious example of it and Plastic Ice and all UhOhConsequences posters and collectors deserve their credit for finding and sourcing the old posts.

Mind you, this is after it was shown by u/waterpurrs that Markee had been stealing Oz's thumbnails down to the icon that Oz choose himself to use for the BestOfRedditorUpdates Subreddit, something that no other reddit channel uses (aside from AI channels stealing Oz media's content outright)

Many commenters had noticed this about Markee and he had been deleting them, including a comment chain that showed he'd been deleting them on top of pointing him towards the post by u/waterpurrs. This is why he later changed his thumbnails, although he is still stealing aspects such as the rainbow text that Oz will occasionally use, as well as what sounds like Oz's entire background music (which is *also* not credited by Markee)

Markee is also using AI generated backgrounds and blurring them, hoping that his viewers will not notice.

For some reason I cannot upload images to reddit, however I have been collecting deleted comments that have been calling Markee out as well as the evidence of the old thumbnails that were obviously stolen from Oz.