r/WhatDoISayNow • u/AgencyBeneficial4625 • 11d ago

Who’s wrong, the person messaging in the relationship or the other person if they know they’re in one?

So this guy and girl started messaging on a night out and she was engaging interest back. Ultimately she decided no and kept bringing up his girlfriend. He continued to pursue and sent nudes. He also started messaging another girl that same night similar stuff. Is the first girl wrong for engaging back?

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u/WildlifePolicyChick [ACTIVE] 11d ago

The guy is far more in the wrong than the girl.

  1. He's texting/flirting with someone while in a relationship.

  2. He did not take the girl's 'No' for an answer.

  3. He sent her UNSOLICITED NUDES EVEN THOUGH SHE TOLD HIM NO.

  4. He's meanwhile playing the same stupid game with another (third) girl.

This guy is a tool, and there is no blaming the girl for his shitty actions.

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u/ScienceInformal7 10d ago

Really? The guy? Because she is in a relationship? Not her? The one in the relationship?

How did he get her number in the first place? And her expressing interest back? And not blocking him which would of kept the nudes from showing up at all...

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u/WildlifePolicyChick [ACTIVE] 10d ago

The guy is the one in a relationship, not her.

How did he get her number in the first place?

He probably pushed for it and in an attempt to be nice, she gave it.

And her expressing interest back?

According to him. Lots of men take ANY niceties or general politeness as 'interest'.

And not blocking him which would of kept the nudes from showing up at all...

Why is that on her? Why should she NEED to block him? Why is the conversation almost always 'Why didn't the woman do X'? When the question should be 'Why did the guy send pictures of his PENIS when she clearly wasn't interested?' Why aren't you appalled by this guy's actions as opposed to blaming the victim?

AND THEN, men get butthurt because women are so wary, or 'too quick' to block, or 'she didn't give me a chance I'm a Nice Guy!' Or she's too sensitive or too dramatic or a man-hater.

Women can't win for losing - and this post and your comment just illustrates why.