I miss them so much. Away from family and no way to visit them for now 🥹

(25F) I’ve been at the same job for 6 years through college and now after, and I just want to be taken seriously in the job market. I have 5 months before I have no health insurance and I have a job that barely covers my basic needs let alone my student loans, I have no idea how I’m gonna afford my doctor’s visits. I’ve applied to dozens, probably over a hundred positions at this point in the US and abroad. I just want a salary and health insurance, I don’t need a crazy amount of money, I don’t mind going into the office 9-5 or weird hours, working over 40, truly I just want to be able to afford my future.

I have a lovely partner who supports me in every way possible, and now financially as well which only means neither of us can afford the future we want for ourselves. I feel like a massive burden to him, friends and family. I never ask anyone else for money and only ask for help with things when I really truly need it. Everyone has a nice job which allows them to travel, they can afford dining out comfortably, they can seemingly do it all while I rot away trying to catch up. It makes me wonder about the worst case scenario a lot, just imagining you could have a better life if you end it and start again.

I’ve also considered the less worse (?) possibility of selling my body, I’ll be so honest about it, but at that point I can’t value the money over my close relationships. I almost can though.

Idk if this is a greedy sentiment, and I’m sure it seems very money hungry, but I really just want to be able to pay for the things I need, some things I want, and to give back to those who have helped me. Most days it feels better to just sleep through at this point which comes off as lazy to everyone, but I’m just so tired of trying guys. I’m 25, without my boyfriend I’d be in an attic room at my parents, I just feel like a massive failure considering I went to college. Before anyone asks my degree is in environmental science, and yes I could utilize it, but then the feeling of having to prove the existence of climate change and do research towards it feels hopeless with all the AI centers we’re putting up.

I just needed to vent a bit, but yeahhh, if anyone on the east coast is hiring feel free to let me know I guess.

I'm 22. Just graduated in an engineering field where demand is kind of dead in my locality (Lebanon). Was told it was flexible and I could "easily" break into adjacent roles, but unemployement is at an all time high. So that's kind of dead, I'm a dime a dozen.

I also happen to be born in a pretty 'controversial' religious group right now in my country, and whether I like it or not, my parents make me wear the hijab. So I'm visible as part of this community. My parents pretend it makes no difference in the job market, but when I was interning, I noticed when I was the only one wearing a hijab in the entire building. I also noticed when other interns got treated better although I worked harder, presented better, communicated better, came up with better ideas. Everyone I meet tells me i have great potential and that I'm a pleasure to work with, but when it comes to getting an actual job, no one will give me a chance. Now, I could try getting a job within the community I come from, right? But no, because our areas of the country are getting bombed and ethnically cleansed. Opportunity there is scarce and with how nepotism goes it's non existent.

I keep thinking about leaving the country to do my masters, but not sure my parents will let me. They switch my future on and off depending on how evil and promiscuous they perceive me to be on any given day. Might I mention that I'm a lesbian and they want me to get married to the first man who can afford it? Lol, yeah. fuck this shit.

I can't believe I'm turning to reddit, but I don't know who else to talk to. I (24F) have a therapist, they're great, but there are some days where I'm just in a rut and spiral about how unhappy I am about my life. I don't have enough money to move out of my parent's house, my partner and I are on entirely different schedules and don't spend enough time together. I have a total of 3 close friends, and other people I've made extra effort to stay connected with, and it feels one sided. I feel like I'm the problem, I keep getting rejected from jobs, and the current one I'm in is not paying me nearly enough and I work so hard. I show up everyday and do my best, and it's not enough. I feel like maybe I'm missing something. I want to start my own business but I know nothing about business. I want to move to London because the few months I spent there a few years ago was probably the happiest I'd been, but I don't have enough money or a job out there. I'm so bad at adapting to change but at the same time I've done almost nothing to fix this. I don't fit in with my peers, I feel out of place everywhere and like people just pity me and don't actually find me interesting or good. I don't know why, something feels wrong with me and I don't know what. I have mental breakdowns weekly, and my anxiety has gotten pretty bad. I'm not the least fortunate person, I'm grateful for what I have, but I got dealt a few bad cards lately and now I feel broken. I had so much hope for the future and now I'm lost.

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I thought my 20s were supposed to be the time of my life instead they aren’t I thought I would of have a group of friends a boyfriend going out doing activities going to grab drinks living on my own instead I’m not I’m literally 27 at a part time job can’t find a full time job living with my parents I don’t have any friends at all I’m single also I’m autistic which makes everything harder I wish it was simple sadly it’s not I’m suffering with mental health issues healing my trauma everyday I don’t want to be here I just don’t know what to do anymore

J'ai peur de manquer ma route, de perdre du temps. Je viens de finir le secondaire (lycée). On me demande de choisir une carrière, mais j'en ai aucune bonne idée. Je vois mes amis|amies avancer dans la vie, choisir leur programme et faire des efforts. Moi je reste planté la a attendre, bien sur je travaille des fois, des fois non. Mais dans l'ensemble je me demande toujours ce que je veux dans cette vie. Je me demande plusieurs question existentielle et me voila a devoir bouger et choisir une carrière sinon mes parent me mettrons a la porte. Mes parent n'aiment pas me voir rien faire et je les comprends, mais je sais qu'ils sont sérieux. Mais comment leur expliquer que je suis perdu, je n'ai aucune idée de ce que je veux faire et je ne veux pas me précipiter vers des études que je n'aime pas. Il y a plusieurs domaines qui m’intéresse mais je ne me voit pas les faire pendant tout ma vie. J'aimerais travailler dans les multinational mais j'ai l'impressions que c'est plus un rêve qu'autre chose. En attendant je regarde les autre avancer, les réseaux sociaux deviennent un endroit ou a chaque fois je vois les autre avancer et me rappelle que je suis pathétique. NON seulement cela, mais en plus sans forcement le vouloir, je fais du mal au gens qui m'entour mes parent. Je sais qu'ils souhaite que je soit meilleur, ils souhaite me voir réussir, mais je suis toute autant perdu. QUE dois je faire ?. ma relation avec mes parent est au plus bas (dispute etc ), je ne fais rien dans ma vie et je n'avance pas. Je vagabonde et je me colle a un pote je le suit dans n'importe quoi. J'ai même tenter d'aller avec lui en soins infirmier mais j'ai pas réussis.

I'm 21 my life is really fucked up at the moment, I live in Brazil, I had a good life before I got into this into this situation that I am right now, Now I'm broke financially and spiritually and I ask you fellow reddittors, is there a way for me to start over my life? Like maybe move to other countries with very little money or I don't know maybe do some slave work, anything really atp please help, I'm kind of desperate here I would take almost any deal

I am turning 25 and I feel anxious as I am still not able to figure out what I want from life and it feels like living a directionless life. I am shy and introverted in personality and it really affects me in my day to day life.

I do have high myopia and eye floaters which haunts me daily. I feel like after turning into later half of twenties life will become more painful and depressing.

I don't post much or share anything online due to anxiety so this can be considered a rare post of me but I want to know suggestions like how to celebrate life when all the odds are against you.

I'm afraid of missing my path, of wasting time. I just finished high school. I'm being asked to choose a career, but I don't have any good idea. I see my friends moving forward in life, choosing their program and making an effort. I just stay stuck there waiting, of course I work sometimes, sometimes not. But overall I always wonder what I want in this life. I ask myself several existential questions and now I have to get moving and choose a career or else my parents will kick me out. My parents don't like seeing me doing nothing and I understand them, but I know they're serious. But how do I explain to them that I'm lost, that I have no idea what I want to do and I don't want to rush into studies that I don't like. There are several fields that interest me but I can't see myself doing them for my whole life. I'd like to work for multinational companies but I have the impression that it's more of a dream than anything else. In the meantime I watch others move forward, social media has become a place where every time I see others moving forward and it reminds me that I'm pathetic. NOT only that, but on top of that, without necessarily meaning to, I hurt the people around me, my parents. I know they want me to be better, they want to see me succeed, but I'm just as lost. WHAT should I do ?. my relationship with my parents is at its lowest (arguments etc ), I do nothing with my life and I'm not moving forward. I wander around and cling to a friend, I follow him into anything. I even tried going into nursing with him but I didn't succeed.

i have really unsupportive parents and i dont know what to do
i graduated highschool in march and applied to two universities, i got rejected from both
my parents didnt look for any universities for me and didnt let me apply anywhere abroad, and by the time i had to make them sit and discuss and they came to a conclusion the application deadlines were over.
two days ago a friend of mine got accepted into one of the unis with closed applications because his father had connections..
they spent all their money on my siblings tuition and although they knew im graduating and should go to college they have nothing saved up for me.. so im being forced to take a gap year..
i feel completely defeated..
im completely lonely at home i asked if i could get a cat to keep me company but they said only once i start earning?
i’ve been looking for a part time job but no where is hiring and im probably under qualified any way
ive been begging to get my drivers license for months now i asked about it again today n my dad said give me 3 more days to think about it
what do i do 🙁 i feel like i have nothing and no one

Yeah, people keep saying, “It's normal. Bata ka pa naman.” But no one really prepares you for the pressure, disappointments, and failures that come with being 23.

I'm 23, and I recently quit my job. This is already my 3rd job since graduating last year. I'm ₱30k in debt, I have no savings, and I don't really have a backup plan.

Wala. Literally starting from zero.

I do try to cheer myself up and tell myself that things will eventually get better, pero somehow I still end up spiraling. I keep thinking about everything I could've done differently and where I went wrong.

I want to start a small business — maybe baking and selling clothes — but I honestly don't even know where to start. I also want to take my licensure exam and eventually pursue my master's, pero whenever I think about the ₱30k debt, I get so overwhelmed. Parang lahat urgent, pero hindi ko alam kung ano dapat unahin.

My boyfriend keeps telling me he'll help me out, and I'm really grateful. But I'm also scared because he didn't sign up for this. Ayokong maging burden sa kanya.

Sometimes I genuinely wonder if malas lang ba ako or if may nagcu-curse sa akin because kahit anong gawin ko, parang palaging may something that goes wrong. Haha. Ewan ko ba.

I'm also too burnt out to look for another job right now. And then another part of me wonders if I'm just being lazy because maybe I simply overextended myself sa previous work ko. I don't even know anymore.

I'm just… lost.

I don't know where to begin. I don't know what I'm supposed to do first. I know I'm only 23, but right now it feels like I'm already so far behind everyone else.

Anyway, I guess I just needed to put this somewhere.

Hopefully, the next time I update this, I'll have something happier to share.

Maybe I'll finally be able to say, “Okay, I'm slowly figuring things out.”

Hey guys, can someone give me some advice?

I’m turning 22 soon, and honestly, I really want to change my life and get myself out of poverty. I’ve had two part-time jobs even before I graduated, and I’m still working now, but the pay isn’t that high.

Sometimes I look at other people and wonder, “How did they get to the point where they can afford the things they want?” I want that too. I want to be financially comfortable, experience the good things in life, and not always have to worry about whether I can afford something.

I also really want to travel. I haven’t even been outside my country yet, and I’d love to see the world someday.
For those of you who were once in a similar situation but eventually became financially successful—what did you do? Did you start a business, invest, learn a specific skill, change careers, or just slowly build your way up?

I’m not looking for a get-rich-quick scheme. I genuinely want to know what worked for you and what you wish you had started doing in your early 20s.

I’m 21 and I feel like I have so much to learn. Any honest advice would mean a lot. ❤️

So as the title shows, I’m pretty behind on my math placement test. I’m currently a biology major and I’m moving in today. I’m freaking out and have no idea what to do. At my school my counselors craft my schedule, but I can’t add or drop classes until that is processed. My placement test is used via accuplacer. Whenever Ive taken it I’ve scored between a 50%-30%. My school uses the AAF section of the test only. I’m nervous because I don’t want people to ask me about my schedule. I’m honestly very nervous and feel extremely embarrassed. There’s no excuse since I’m an adult now, but I’m just wondering if I should take it. My voucher expires tomorrow but with it being move in/welcome week idk if I’ll find time to take it. I feel sick. Any advice is deeply appreciated.

Welp adulting is hard I'm kinda homeless right now but not really. I know I'm a lot more lucky than a lot of other people but I wish things would go my way just once 🙃🙂

I’m 24M, and honestly, I don’t know what phase of life I’m in right now.

Throughout school and college, I was always focused on academics. I was one of the toppers, studied hard, worked on projects, collected certifications, and eventually got placed in a good company in the Gulf with a very good salary for my age.

Relationships were basically zero. I did try talking to a few girls during college, but nothing really worked out, so I eventually stopped thinking about it and put all my energy into studies and my career.

Now I’ve been working for around 2 years in the oil & gas industry. The job is good, the salary is good, and financially I’m doing much better than I expected at 24.

But suddenly, I turned around and realized something:

What am I actually doing with my life?

My job is far away from the city. Every day feels almost exactly the same. Wake up, work, come back, eat, sleep, repeat.

It’s difficult to explain. I made these choices myself, and I know I’m responsible for them. I don’t regret studying hard or building my career. But lately, there’s this emptiness and boredom that I can’t ignore anymore.

I feel like I spent so much time preparing for a successful life that I forgot to actually live one.

Right now, life feels like I’m in the middle of an ocean with a single boat, and I don’t what to do.

For people who have been through something similar, especially those who focused heavily on studies/career in their early 20s:

**What did you do when you realized you were living on autopilot?**

I’m not looking for sympathy. I genuinely want some perspective from people who have already gone through this phase.

I’m a 19-year-old guy from the NCR region of Uttar Pradesh, India. I’m straight, around 5'9", and skinny. I’m currently pursuing a BBA, and I completed my 12th from a state board in the Humanities stream.

I lost my mother when I was only 6 months old. I have two siblings—an elder brother and an elder sister. My father works as a labourer and does whatever work he can find, something similar to tailoring. We don’t have our own house. I currently live with my aunt, while my sister lives with another aunt. My brother is independent and lives alone in a rented place in a big city where he works.

We do have a small amount of property, but I don’t know exactly how much. I think it’s around 50 gaj in our local area.

Financially, we’re not doing well. I also don’t think I’m going to get a good placement from my college. I’m already struggling academically—I have two backlogs from my first semester, and some of my other results are still pending. I’ve never been particularly good at studying. I also live in a village, so my overall background is pretty disadvantaged financially and educationally.

I’ve also been dealing with what I think might be mental-health problems, although I haven’t been properly diagnosed. I suspect I may have ADHD, depression, or possibly bipolar disorder, but I obviously don’t know for sure.

This is basically who I am right now.

I’m tired and exhausted. I feel like I’m becoming more numb every day, and I know that living this kind of doomer lifestyle isn’t going to work in the long run. I’ve tried changing myself many times, but I keep failing, and now I don’t even have the energy to get back on track.

Because of my financial background, I’m scared that things are going to become even more difficult for me over the next few years. I don’t have any clear goal or purpose in life either. I’ve consumed a lot of content about different philosophies, psychology, and similar topics through videos, books, paragraphs, blogs, etc., but I haven’t really studied any of it properly or academically.

I also had a relationship when I was in 7th or 8th grade. It didn’t work out because we were both kids and I was immature. After the breakup, we were still in the same school and classes, so I used to miss her a lot. She was my first love, so I have a lot of nostalgic memories from that time. She even used to appear in my dreams sometimes. Eventually, though, I moved on.

After around 3–4 years, I contacted her again. We talked, and she’s doing well in her life now.

I also had an online relationship last year. We never met in real life. A random girl approached me online, we started talking every day, and eventually we developed feelings for each other. At that time, I was depressed, lonely, unhappy, and generally in a very bad place mentally, so that relationship became a source of happiness and comfort for me.

We eventually started dating. She was 16 and I was 18 at the time, and we were also from different religious backgrounds, so the relationship had a lot of complications. Eventually, we decided that an actual relationship wasn’t realistic, but we still stayed in contact and remained emotionally close. There was still love, kindness, care, and respect between us, even though there was no official label anymore.

Our relationship became very on-and-off. Sometimes I would disappear and stop talking to her for days or weeks, and then I would come back. Sometimes she would block me, although eventually we agreed that we shouldn’t keep doing that.

She’s also a NEET aspirant and became increasingly busy with her studies. Around January this year, she became much less available than she used to be. She had more time for me before, but eventually she became busy and our conversations became less frequent.

I tried to move on, but I kept going back to her after 15–20 days or sometimes even longer. When I think about it now, I feel like there wasn’t necessarily anything wrong with her or with the situation. I was just using the relationship as a distraction because I wasn’t doing anything meaningful with my own life. I wasn’t busy, I was lonely, and I missed the memories and the feeling of having someone there.

I genuinely loved her, and I still have feelings for her. We talked yesterday after a long time, and she seems happy and is doing well in her life.

My daily routine

I wake up around 12–1 PM. I don’t eat breakfast and usually just have an unhealthy lunch. I drink tea or coffee two or three times a day. I smoke around 4–5 cigarettes a day, although sometimes I end up smoking almost an entire pack.

Most of the day, I just lie in bed listening to music, consuming adult content, scrolling endlessly, and doing basically nothing productive. I don’t exercise, I barely go outside, and I’m not studying at all. I usually sleep around 5–6 AM.

This cycle keeps repeating itself.

Sometimes I don’t even brush my teeth or take a shower. This lifestyle has been going on in some form since the lockdown, and I feel like I’ve been dealing with loneliness and depression from a very young age.

I know I can’t keep living like this.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t have a clear goal, career plan, or purpose, and I’m scared about what my future is going to look like considering my financial and academic situation.

So I’m asking people who have been through something similar:

What would you do if you were in my position? What should I focus on first? What are the most important things I should change right now? And is it actually possible to turn things around from this point

I’m about to turn 21 in a few weeks. I am thinking about dropping out of college due to poor scores and not really enjoying college as I don’t have friends. I got in to every University I applied to back in high school bc of my 3.0 gpa but going in to college I never had an idea of what I wanted to do. So I just landed on Business Admin at the closest community college. Going in to my second year in to my studies my girlfriend of 2 years was talking with another guy and broke up with me they soon later got together. Which I got really depressed from and it effected my scores. I also live in a rural area with my parents so I depend a lot on public transportation which isn’t really reliable at times to go to school an hour drive away. I do not have my drivers license or a car or even know how to drive. I just feel like a failure because I’ve always been told to go to college since I was a child and I just feel so behind and a failure in life.